Mz Schelioaas (She-Lois) Speaks - Lessons Learned

We are going to encounter delays, challenges, obstacles and setbacks, but we have to be determined to pivot and retain our energy to pursue the fruitful relationship, career development plan, health plan, educational plan — whatever it is we are in pursuit of. We are winners, so we can’t ever lose our momentum to win!

Our lane is synonymous to our life and is intended to be ran within our own boundaries. When we veer outside our lane, we fall prey to violations and disqualifications. To retain our peace, joy, and understanding, let’s just stay in own lane and aim to win our race.

Have you ever been invited someplace but when you arrived, your insecurities and self-doubt caused you to question whether or not you belonged there? Well, the mere fact that you were invited was the indicator that you belonged.

Rushed decisions can leave us with overwhelming feelings of regret, or adverse consequences.  Slowing down can give us time to think and process all options. You’ll thank yourself later for the slow roll and wise choice. 

The negative vibes and projections of others, although out of our control, can feel very personal and may influence our behavior in a negative way. I’ve learned not to dwell on the emotions of other folks.  It ain’t personal, so keep soaring and continue living blessed!

When most people hear the word submission it stirs up a negative reaction. Submission, to some people, is a non-attractive flaw because it can be viewed as a sign of weakness. Truth be told, submission ain’t for the weak, it is for the wise.  

Sometimes we can take a look at something and discard it before totally considering its hidden value. They say, beauty is in the eye of the beholder — meaning, what one person finds beautiful, others may find ugly, and vice versa. Before we discard, let’s be sure we haven’t mistaken a treasure for trash. Be blessed!

During our life journey we will explore certain things, people, and places and discover this ain’t what we anticipated . If we settle for what ain’t it , we run the risk of birthing frustration, resentment, anger, depression, and doubt. Don’t settle, keep pursuing until you can honestly say, YES — this IS it, because you deserve to get what you desire. Be blessed!

During this life, we will experience seasons of pain that seem so horrific it is difficult to see anything better.   However, if we endure — if we remain steadfast — if we can just stay the course, we will get on the other side of pain and discover that very pain pushed us into purpose. Be encouraged because there is another side to the pain you may be currently experiencing and it is beautiful ov...

Sometimes, taking a stand for what we believe to be right could cost us everything and give the appearance that we have lost. However, if we keep our peace, dignity, and honor, the cost will be pale in comparison to the level of self-esteem and self-value we retain.  Standing up for our well being may be costly, but we get to determine if it was worth it.  Be blessed!

If we desire success in our pursuits, it is imperative to come into agreement with the process. Sometimes when we’re going through the process season , we may become weary , unsure , and may even grip the handle of fear .  However, during the process season we must remain flexible in order to make appropriate adjustments if necessary. Delayed outcome doesn’t mean it isn’t going to manifest, it jus...

Sometimes speaking out of season can cause more problems than solutions. Although our opinion may be valid or even informative, if the timing, tone, or audience is wrong, Wisdom will speak and say, just hush. If we choose to speak out when God says hush, we can create mess and experience delayed progress. So let’s just hush when Wisdom speaks. Be blessed!

If we live long enough, devastating, threatening, and unexplainable stuff that seeming is not working in our favor is going to happen.  However, we have to be mindful not to make permanent decisions based on temporary circumstances.  Sometimes all we need to do is pause so we can reset or reconsider our circumstance and then proceed in a way that retains our hope and expectation of success.  Broth...

We can literally talk ourselves out of being successful.  Before we know it, starting and quitting has become routine. Staying committed until we get what we’re after must be the main thing.  Sometimes that will require a change in our attitude or our thought process.   Instead of saying I can’t,  we have to decree that we can, we will, and then don’t stop until we do.  If success is our goal, the...

It can be really frustrating when you try to help others who say they want help, but there is no followthrough on their intentions.  As the saying goes, you can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink. You can remove all the possible excuses from someone, but until they are really ready to drink the water, they just may be willing to die of thirst because of their stubbornness or single...

When it comes to handling our own business, we can sometimes experience setbacks and confusion because we unnecessarily solicit advice or approval from others.  Sometimes the advice, although good for them, is not best for us.  Receiving feedback from others isn’t necessarily bad, but the ultimate decision of how business will be handled lies with us.  At the end of the day, if our...

Just because someone else’s space looks more attractive than yours, doesn’t mean that it is better.  Learn to be secure in your own space because just as you might admire the space of others, somebody is admiring your space because truth be told, your space looks pretty good too.  

Sometimes we instinctively look for the likes, approvals, and accolades of others, and it becomes emotionally problematic when we don’t receive them.     Not everybody is going to approve of what you have to offer, and that’s got to be OK with you.  Don’t look for a 100% approval rating.  Just endeavor to be a blessing to the one who is positioned to receive what you have to of...

Unexpected, sometimes messy stuff confronts us.  To come out of a challenging situation better   as opposed to being bitter is a personal choice.  If we purpose to do so, we can come out of an ugly situation as a better   friend, spouse, sibling, parent, child, student, employee, employer, or just a better human being.  So, the next time you’re confronted with a not so ple...

If you don’t want to stay miserable, you can’t surround yourself with miserable people.  If you believe that happiness, joy, peace, hope, love are your portions, you've gotta be more selective about the company you keep.  Since misery loves company, make the decision that is not the kind of company you want to keep.  Seek out the good vibes club only and live blessed!

Never allow yourself to be in a position where you are not ready to receive the desires of your heart.   Stay ready.   We can have dreams of achieving a certain level of success, but if we are not ready for the capacity, the blessing can become a burden.  When preparation collides with opportunity, destiny manifests. So, stay ready and be blessed!

There are somethings that may not be wise to do because they aren’t pleasing to God, or not His best choice for you.  Although you may have the liberty to do as you please, you don’t have to do everything that others are doing, just because they are doing it.  You are not everybody else, and God’s expectation of you might be different than His expectation of others.  Not better, jus...

Troubling regrets can make us feel guilty and ashamed for a lifetime. Regrets can rob us of peace and taint our integrity.  A lesson learned is that if you don’t want regrets to trouble you,  be very intentional not to do or say anything that you will later regret. The truth is, even if you do something in an effort to make up for what you've done, there will always be nagging feelings o...

If 100 is the goal then 99 and a half, although it looks better than 90, 95, or even 99 it still is not 100 —  so it’s incomplete.    It’s an almost, but still incomplete.  Complete satisfaction comes when the goal is achieved.  It is important to stay the course no matter how slow the journey or how many obstacles get in the way.    What happens when y...

If you want a harvest of good then sow good.  If you want a harvest of love then sow love.  If you want to enjoy the fruit of peace then sow a peaceful environment.  Decide what kind of harvest you don't want and make sure that the seeds you plant are not of its kind.  Be mindful of the kind of seeds you are sowing because a harvest is truly looming?  Be blessed!