Mother Mayhem: For Daughters of Narcissistic or Emotionally Limited Mothers

Going No Contact comes with grief. No contact also often comes with additional losses. Listen in for tools on how to navigate this tricky time, how to process your way through it, and how to find acceptance. Question for the show? Heather@DaughtersNPD.com

Narcissistic abuse recovery work is daunting. It can be hard to know where to begin. I encourage the women I work with to start with themselves, to build better relationships with themselves. This will often mean confronting depression and anxiety, as well as learning to silence your inner critic so you can begin to hear your own voice. This is one listener's story for how she traveled the pat...

Your invitation to our next Mayhem Coaching Call. February 7, 2024 10:30am to 12:30pm PST $25 USD Call will be recorded for replay access for registered members. When registering, you will be invited to pre-submit your questions and will be offered the choice of live coaching or to post your question anonymously. Priority will be given to those who opt for live coaching. Limiting attendance to 35,...

If you listen to other narcissistic abuse recovery experts they think no contact is the only solution and the only right answer. They also oversimplify the whole thing. You daughters know, though, that this is an intensely personal discussion and nothing about it feels simple or straightforward. This is how you find your way with it. Mentioned in this episode: She Used to Be Mine Bare Bones by Ull...

Sometimes it can feel like you have a sign in your back that says: "Go ahead, use me. Abuse me. Take your best shot." For too many of you, your mother isn't the only awful thing or person that has happened to you. After more awful things happen, it's understandable why you might think it's your fault and that you're the problem. It's not your fault. You are not the pr...

Narcissistic Abuse Recovery doesn’t stop just because it’s the holiday season. Often times, it can feel like it’s getting worse when everywhere you look, there is a reminder of your trauma, loss, and struggles. Offering you a quick check in and touchstone episode so you can remember I am thinking of you and that I am in it with you. Mentioned in this episode: Our first Mother Mayhem Workshop: No N...

No "New Year, New You Bullshit" here. Same you, same trauma but hopefully framed for you in a better way. Offering you a quick touchstone episode while you wait for me to return to your regularly scheduled Mother Mayhem programming. Mentioned in this episode: The Mother Mayhem Workshop: No Nonsense New Year: Healing Strategy Workshop for Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers workshop has alr...

We know all about boundaries when it comes to managing your narcissistic mothers. One of the most helpful boundaries is also one of the hardest ones to implement: Taking space. Telling your mom you need a break and some distance can feel like lighting a match. Here’s how to work through the nerves that comeswith doing so. Links mentioned in this episode: Mother Mayhem Journal Exercises and Episode...

Here are the first building blocks you need to start building your life after healing. We’ll discuss the things you should be journaling about and exercises you can begin doing to get started. Here’s a quick look. Listen in to learn more. This is about the blueprint and these are the strategies for crafting a fulfilling life beyond the shadows of narcissistic abuse.  Here’s to designing a life tha...

In today's episode, we’re tackling the covert world of narcissistic mothers' gatekeeping tactics. We’re confronting the closed doors and I’m offering you strategies to navigate these manipulative behaviors with resilience. Gain insights into the not so subtle techniques narcissistic mothers employ to maintain control and manipulate relationships. Learn strategies and practical tools to rec...

In this episode of Mother Mayhem: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast for Daughters, we’re talking about what to say in the moment of a narcissistic attack. Trauma brain wires you for fight, flight, or freeze. We want to invite Wise Mind into the conversation so you can respond with calm resilience. Learn effective strategies and communication techniques for handling narcissistic behavior without...

Welcome back to Mother Mayhem: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast for Daughters! In this holiday episode, we’re tackling the challenges you daughters face when dealing with your narcissistic mothers during this stressful season. Explore practical strategies, learn ways of managing your mom, and listen in on sample scripts you can use with your mother during this time.  Journal prompts to consider...

I know who needs to hear this today. You do. Love, Heather Have a question for the show? Heather@DaughtersNPD.com

Today’s conversation on Mother Mayhem: The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast for Daughters is a  dive deep into strategies you can use to stop second-guessing yourselves and regain your confidence.  Learn practical techniques like tuning into your wise mind, using journaling to discover your truth, and telling your trauma brain to take a break.  Discover how to surround yourself with supportive...

In this episode, we dive into the intricate web of financial entanglement between daughters and their narcissistic mothers. Join us as we explore the complexities of how narcissistic mothers use money, financial control, and housing as tools for manipulation and control. Then, learn what you can do about it. Have a question for the show? Send a recorded voice memo or email to: Heather@DaughtersNPD...

In this episode, we’re tackling the messy middle that comes when you’re managing your mom’s narcissism and her ailing health.  We already know that boundaries will be crucial but how do you set them when they may go up against what your mother seemingly needs? How do you take care of her without losing yourself? Do you really have to take care of her when she failed repeatedly to take care of you?...

In this week’s Ask Me Anything episode, we’re tackling what to do when your mom breaks your No Contact boundary, Learn:  Strategies for maintaining your boundaries when a narcissistic mother tries to break them. How to respond when she ropes in people outside of the family with her tales of woe or a good, old fashioned smear campaign. Get clear on your decisions, get sample scripts for what to say...

Today’s we’re tackling a critical aspect aspect of healing from narcissistic maternal abuse that often gets ignored or minimized: organizing your living space. Join me and my co-host, Heather Clark, a decluttering expert and coach, as we explore how clutter and chaos can impact your recovery journey. Heather Clark will be providing practical strategies to regain control and find clarity in your en...

Today we’re tackling a common obstacle to narcissistic abuse recovery: alcohol dependency.  Listen in for a quick conversation as to why trauma and alcohol dependency get along so well but then stay for the rest where I offer a frame for alcohol abuse recovery that will complement the work you’re already doing in your own narcissistic abuse recovery work. It can feel like problems are piling on to...

In today’s AMA, I am helping three listeners whose fathers enable their narcissistic mothers.  I’ll explain how this dynamic can perpetuate the trauma experienced by these daughters, impacting their emotional well-being and relationships. 🔍 Key Topics: Enabling Behavior: We shed light on the enabling father's role in reinforcing the narcissistic mother's behavior, inadvertently contributi...

On today’s Mother Mayhem , we look into how you can have a relationship with your mom given her limitations. We get clear on the importance of boundaries and how they help you love yourself and help you have a relationship with your mom.  Episode Highlights: Understand the concept of boundaries and its significance in navigating a relationship with a narcissistic mom. Explore the impact of setting...

Your mom melted down. What happens next?  In this episode of Mother Mayhem , we look at what happens after the narcissistic storm and we look at whether or not no contact has to be the rule.  Join us for an Ask Me Anything (AMA) session where we address questions on setting boundaries, navigating family dynamics, and beginning the healing journey of narcissistic abuse recovery. Episode Highlights:...

In this AMA episode of Mother Mayhem , we tackle the thing you all likely came to this show wondering: If my own mother couldn’t love me, how do I learn to love myself?  Join me, Heather Gray, a licensed therapist and narcissistic abuse recovery expert, as I guide a listener through the process of rewriting her narrative and finding healing after experiencing the aftermath of maternal child abuse...

In this episode of Mother Mayhem, The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast for Daughters , we dive into the critical topic of overcoming self-gaslighting. Learn effective strategies to break free from the cycle of self-doubt, reclaim your truth, and move forward with your healing and recovery. Finding value in the show? If you haven't already, please do leave a review in your podcast app so oth...

Today. we're delving into covert narcissism This is an elusive form of narcissism that often goes undetected, leaving a lasting impact on your life. I’ll be exploring  the subtle and profound effects that growing up with a covertly narcissistic mother likely had on you. We'll take a deeper look into your mom’s manipulative tactics, emotional invalidation, and boundary-crossing behaviors th...