More than Roommates

In this special episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott talk Elections, Your Vote, and Your Marriage. We discuss whether you and your spouse should share who you’re voting for, how you can disagree well, and what to do if you disagree on who to vote for. Scriptures: MT 22:15-22 2 Cor 6:14 Ephesians 4:3-5 MT 5:13-16 Jeremiah 29:7 Romans 12:1-2 Eph 4:29 Questions to Discuss: 1. W...

Welcome to the 100th episode of More Than Roommates! In this episode, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott celebrate the fact that we’ve now released 100 episodes! We share some of our favorite episodes, what we’ve learned about marriage through this podcast, and how marriage has changed each of us. Questions to Discuss: 1. What have you learned about yourself, your spouse, and marriage through listening t...

In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss the unique challenges and opportunities that come along with different seasons of parenting, from newlyweds to the empty nest. How can you keep your marriage strong in every season? Questions to Discuss: 1. What’s your favorite season of the year? (Winter, spring, summer, fall) 2. How can you keep your marriage strong in y...

In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss how to discover and celebrate the spiritual gifts God has given to both you and your spouse. How can you live on mission together, using and highlighting the gifts God has given to each of you? Scriptures: Ephesians 4 1 Corinthians 12 Romans 12 1 Peter 4 Ephesians 5:25-27 Questions to Discuss: 1. What’s the best gift you’v...

Why is conflict between a husband and wife and the in-laws so common? In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss some common challenges couples often encounter with family and in-laws and discuss some ways to proactively build and reactively repair in-laws relationships. Scriptures: Ruth 1:16-17 Romans 12:18 Hebrews 12:14 Romans 12:10 Matthew 7:3-5 1 Peter 3:7 Gene...

In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek and Scott interview Colby and Amanda Taylor about how to stay engaged in your marriage from before you say “I Do” until “Death do us part.” We discuss the importance of focusing on the marriage and not just the wedding day and how couples can thrive long after they say “I do.” Resources: Embellished Weddings & Events – Website and Instagram The Engaged...

In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott talk what the Bible says about rest, the importance of Sabbath rest and your marriage, and reasons why we struggle to Sabbath.   Scriptures: Exodus 20:8-11 Genesis 2:2-3 Mark 2:23-28 MT 11:28-30 Resources: Books -  Practicing the Way  and  The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry , by John Mark Comer Podcast, More Than Roommates, Episode...

In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss one of the most important skills required for healthy marriages. We discuss why we struggle to be good listeners and what we can do about it. Scriptures: James 1:19 Proverbs 18:2 Romans 12:10 1 Peter 3:7 Questions to Discuss: 1. What are you listening to now (podcasts, audiobook, music)? Share with your significant other....

In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss the Ashley Madison scandal and how to fight temptations in your marriage. We want you to be more than roommates and to fight for your marriage as you guard against the enemy who seeks to destroy you and your marriage. Scriptures: MT 10:26 Rom 2:16 1 Cor 4:5 PS 32:3-4 James 4:1 MT 5:27-30 1 Cor 7:28 1 John 1:9 James 5:16 Ep...

In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott talk about how to balance time with your spouse, family, and friends. Is it possible to strike a healthy balance in how to best spend our time together and with others?   Resources: More Than Roommates – Episode 49 –  Made For People (feat. Justin Whitmel Earley) More Than Roommates – Episode 13 –  Why We Need Healthy Friendships...

In this episode of More Than Roommates, Gabrielle and Scott interview Kait & JJ Tomlin from the Heart of Dating. We have a great discussion about sex and marriage as we pepper Kait & JJ with all kinds of questions. Resources: Heart of Dating Website Follow Heart of Dating on Instagram Podcast – Heart of Dating with Kait & JJ Tomlin Podcast - That Sounds Fun – Sex + Dating with Kait & JJ Tomlin Boo...

In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss the books, podcasts, and resources that have most deeply affected their marriages. With a lot of great resources out there, we want to help you to be thoughtful about the resources that impact your marriage.    Scriptures: Proverbs 11:2 Job 12:12 Proverbs 13:20 Resources Mentioned: The Glorious Pursuit , by Gary Thomas The...

In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss expectations in marriage – where do our expectations come from, what if they’re not met, and how can you exceed your spouse’s expectations? Part 2 in a 2-part mini-series on expectations. Scriptures: James 4:1 Proverbs 13:12 1 Corinthians 7:28 John 16:33 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 Questions to Discuss: 1. When’s the last time...

In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Ann, and Scott talk about who or what most significantly impacts your marriage. Whether it’s other couples, what we’re entertained by, or what we follow on social media, we need to be thoughtful about who and what most impacts our marriages. Part 2 in a 2-part series on expectations. Scripture: 1 Corinthians 15:33 Psalm 1 PR 13:20 2 Corinthians 6:14 R...

In this episode of More Than Roommates, Ann Daly joins Derek and Scott as we discuss what to do when you’re stuck and struggling in your marriage. Even if you’re not stuck today, there are seasons of marriage when we all find ourselves stuck and just going through the motions. This would be a great episode to share with a friend who’s stuck in their marriage. Scriptures: Matthew 7:3-5 Romans 12:18...

In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss the potential dangers of money and how money can affect your marriage in both positive and negative ways.   Scripture: 1 Timothy 6:10 Acts 5:1-11 Matthew 6:21 Psalm 24:1   Questions to Discuss: 1. What’s something dangerous you’ve done in life? 2. What do you think about the statement that we should be more afraid of the d...

In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss a story where a couple’s “secret” argument was overheard by a room of people. What would happen if others heard your arguments that take place behind closed doors?   Scripture: Luke 8:17 Matthew 12:36 Proverbs 5:21 MT 18:15-17 1 John 1:5-7   Questions to Discuss: 1. What reality show would you and your spouse want to be on...

In Part 2 in this 2-part series on marriage, divorce, and remarriage, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott focus on remarriage, how you can help others walking through marriage challenges, and the role community can play in helping proactively and reactively strengthening marriages. Scriptures: Matthew 19:3-12 Genesis 2:18-25 Ephesians 5:22-33 1 Corinthians 7 2 Corinthians 6:14 Matthew 5:27-32 Questions to...

In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott talk about what the Bible says about marriage, divorce, and remarriage and how this plays out in our marriages. This new episode will be helpful for your own marriage and as you seek to encourage friends in their marriages. Scriptures: Matthew 19:3-12 Genesis 2:18-25 Ephesians 5:22-33 1 Corinthians 7 2 Corinthians 6:14 Matthew 5:2...

In this episode, Derek and Scott interview speaker and author, Jordan Raynor. Jordan is a leading voice of the faith and work movement, and in this episode we get very practical as we discuss the connection, challenges, and opportunities of work and marriage. Questions for Discussion: 1. Spend some time thinking about Jordan’s statement – who do you do your work with? 2. How can you not let your w...

 In Part 2 in a series on emotional intimacy, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss how to practically grow in emotional intimacy with your spouse. Check out Part 1 of this 2-Part series if you haven't already!    Scriptures: Genesis 2:25 Galatians 6:2 Ephesians 5:31-32 Matthew 18:15-17 Ecclesiastes 4:9-10   Resources: Podcast – More Than Roommates - Episode 80 – Fully Known, Fully Loved Podcast – M...

We don’t often talk about emotional intimacy in marriage—we get to be fully known and fully loved in marriage. In part 1 of this 2-part series on emotional intimacy, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss what it means to be emotionally intimate in marriage. Scriptures: Genesis 2:25 2 Corinthians 12:9-10 Resources: Book – The Voice of the Heart , by Chip Dodd Book - The Naked Marriage , by Dave and A...

Are you and your spouse thoughtful about your views and practices about drinking/alcohol? In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss how to be more thoughtful about decisions you make about drinking and alcohol. Scriptures: John 2 1 Corinthians 6:12 1 Corinthians 10:31 Ephesians 5:18 Isaiah 5:22-23 Questions to Discuss: 1. When did you have your first alcoholic dri...

Many of us struggle with anger in small and big ways. How does your anger impact your spouse and your marriage? In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss how anger impacts our own marriages and how anger can affect your marriage as well.   Scriptures: Proverbs 15:1 Ephesians 4:26-27 Proverbs 21:19 James 1:19-20, 4:1   Questions to Discuss: 1. What are the small da...

Like it or not, our struggles affect our marriages more than we realize. In this episode of More Than Roommates, Gabrielle and Scott talk with Ann Daly about struggles, recovery, and your marriage. Because of Jesus, life change is possible for everyone and for every marriage. Scriptures: James 5:16 Proverbs 28:13 Genesis 2:24 Galatians 1:10 Romans 5:3-5 1 Peter 4:19 Galatians 6:9 Hebrews 3:13 Reso...