More than Roommates

Most affairs don’t begin in a hotel room—they start with unnoticed compromise and poor decisions in the workplace. In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss the sobering reality of workplace temptation and offer practical, biblical strategies to protect and strengthen your marriage. Scriptures: 2 Corinthians 12:9 Matthew 5:27-30 1 Corinthians 10:12   Resources: Jo...

How should couples talk about health, body image, and physical changes over time without shaming or hurting one another? In this episode of More Thann Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott have an authentic, biblical, and practical conversation about pursuing health and wellness in marriage, and why honoring God with your body matters more than chasing perfection or appearances. Scriptures: 1 Cor...

What do you do when you're not as physically attracted to your spouse—or when your body or theirs begins to change? In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss how to retrain your mind, feed your eyes on what is good, and build a marriage rooted in character, commitment, and mission—not just physical chemistry. Scriptures: MT 6:22-23 MT 5:27-28 PR 5:18-19 PR 31:30 1...

In this episode of More Than Roommates, Gabrielle, Derek, and Scott explore what it means to be on mission together as a couple. Whether you’re raising kids, leading a class, or serving behind the scenes, a shared purpose breathes life into your marriage and moves you from being just roommates to intentional partners in the gospel. Let us know if you have any feedback on these shorter/mini episode...

In this episode, Gabrielle, Derek, and Scott discuss what it means to build an intentional marriage using four categories: what you want to know, be, do, and experience together. In this mini episode we encourage couples to dream together and define their marriage vision through Scripture, spiritual disciplines, and fun experiences. Let us know if you have any feedback on these shorter/mini episod...

In this episode of More Than Roommates, Gabrielle, Derek, and Scott talk about the importance of trust in marriage. Trust is foundational in any relationship, but especially in marriage. They discuss how past wounds—whether from family, friends, or former relationships—can deeply impact your ability to trust your spouse and experience true intimacy.   Let us know if you have any feedback on these...

In this episode of More Than Roommates, Gabrielle, Derek, and Scott discuss the common habit of going to friends or a spouse before going to God for wisdom. While community is important, the best place to start is with the Lord.   Scriptures: Matthew 6:33 James 1:5 Proverbs 3:5-6 PR 19:11   Questions to Discuss: 1. Who and what do you turn to when you’re looking for counsel and advice? 2. Are you...

In this episode of More Than Roommates, Gabrielle, Derek, and Scott talk about how to keep your marriage healthy while walking through hard and difficult seasons in life (i.e., loss, illness, infertility, emotional strain). Through biblical truth and personal stories, they discuss how couples can remain unified, cultivate gratitude, and grow spiritually even in life’s darkest valleys and seasons....

Drew and Paige Greenway return for part two of their story on infertility, this time focusing on the spiritual lessons, marriage dynamics, and ministry they’ve embraced through their journey. Using the acrostic TRUST, they unpack teachability in trials, reliance on the Lord, unwavering unity, surrender to His will, and resting in God’s timing—all of which shaped their marriage and deepened their f...

In this episode of More Than Roommates, Gabrielle and Scott interview Drew & Paige Greenway about their story of infertility and the challenges they’ve faced along the way Drew and Paige reflect on how these trials affected their faith, marriage, and understanding of God, while offering hope, empathy, and wisdom for others walking a similar path. Part 1 of 2. Scriptures: Gen 2:24 Rom 12:15   Resou...

In this episode of More Than Roommates, Gabrielle & Scott interview Derek & Kellie Davidson about foster care and adoption. May is National Foster Care Month and in this episode, the Davidsons offer a glimpse into how their marriage has been shaped through saying “yes” to God’s call. While sharing their story, full of joy and challenges, they reflect on how families and the church can step in and...

In this episode of More Than Roommates, Gabrielle & Scott talk with Dr. Juli Slattery from Authentic Intimacy about how past sexual abuse impacts individuals and their marriages. With biblical truth, personal insight, and expert care, Dr. Slattery shares how healing can happen in safe relationships marked by trust, patience, and grace. We hope this episode provides hope and healing for those affec...

In this episode, the More Than Roommates team tackles the tension between work and marriage, offering practical and biblical wisdom on balancing career, family, and faith. They unpack how motives, identity, communication, and expectations shape how couples navigate work's impact on their marriage and family. Scriptures: Gen 2:7-9 Eph 2:10 Col 3:23 1 Cor 10:31 1 Peter 3:7   Resources: Podcast - Mor...

In this episode of More Than Roommates, Scott, Derek, and Gabrielle explore what it looks like for married couples to value, support, and engage their single friends in meaningful ways. They reflect on how Scripture elevates singleness, how the church sometimes unintentionally devalues it, and how we can better reflect the love of Jesus—whether single or married.   Scriptures: 1 Cor 7:7-8 MT 19:12...

In the episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss our tendency and desire to win and be right in marriage, when the goal is to “lose”, become more like Jesus, pursue oneness, and walk in humility.   Scriptures: Gen 2:18-25 John 10:10 Phil 2:3-4 1 Tim 1:15 1 Cor 13:6   Resources: Removed Series from Harris Creek Watermark Marriage Conference – Lance Sisco - Keeping Score in...

In this episode of More Than Roommates, Jonathan “JP’ Pokluda shares about the necessity of tension (dissonance) in marriage and 5 ways we need to S.H.I.F.T. in our marriages. This talk was recorded live at the 2025 More Than Roommates Marriage Conference at Harris Creek Baptist Church.   Scriptures: PR 15:18, 17:14, 17:19, 20:3 PR 18:2, PR 18:13, James 1:19-20 PR 10:2, 19:11, 28:13 PR 19:11, 12:1...

In this live recording of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott respond to John Elmore’s talk from the 2025 More Than Roommates Marriage Conference. We discuss some of the practical implications of the fact that Jesus is the composer, conductor, and canon of the melody of our marriages. If you haven’t listened to it yet, go ahead and listen to John’s message .   Questions to Discuss: 1....

In this episode of More Than Roommates, John Elmore shares an incredibly powerful message about how Jesus is to be the composer, the conductor, and the canon of the melody of our marriage. This talk was recorded live at the 2025 More Than Roommates Marriage Conference at Harris Creek Baptist Church.   Scriptures: Genesis 2:20b-25 Matthew 19:4-6 Colossians 3:18-19 John 17:17 Ephesians 5:22-33   Que...

In this episode of More Than Roommates, Scott & Kristen Kedersha discuss how to be in Harmony with one another in marriage. This talk was recorded live at the 2025 More Than Roommates Marriage Conference at Harris Creek Baptist Church.   Scriptures: John 15:5 Matthew 19:3-6 Ecc 9:9 Gen 2:18 Heb 10:24-25 Matthew 7:3-5 1 Corinthians 10:12   Questions to Discuss: 1. Of the 7 aspects of Harmony shared...

In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott talk about the importance of good investments. There are many ways we can invest our time, money, and energy, and in this episode we discuss the importance of regularly investing in your marriage.   Resources: Book - Surrendered Sexuality: How Knowing Jesus Changes... Everything , by Juli Slattery (release July 1, 2025) MTR Episod...

In Part 2 of their interview with Shaunti Feldhahn and Brian Goins, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss how the little things truly matter in marriage. We discuss the importance of believing the best about our spouse and why we need a combination of quality and quantity time together.   Scriptures: 1 Peter 3:9 Rom 2:4 Phil 4:8   Questions to Discuss: What are some small changes you can make in you...

In Part 1 of a 2-Part interview, Gabrielle, Derek, and Scott interview Shaunti Feldhahn and Brian Goins about the small things that make all the difference in marriage. In Part 1 we discuss the myth that 50% of all marriages end in divorce and why it’s  harmful to perpetuate this myth   Scriptures: 1 Cor 13:13 Hebrews 3:13 1 Cor 7:28   Questions to Discuss: How can you build your sense of hope in...

In this episode of More Than Roommates, Gabrielle, Derek, and Scott discuss the importance and centrality of serving your spouse in marriage when life is full and busy and when you don’t feel like it!   Scriptures: Mark 10:45 Gal 5:13 Phil 2:1-11 Phil 1:27 1 Cor 13:6 1 Peter 3:7   Resources: Book – Us in Mind: How Changing Your Thoughts Can Change Your Marriage , by Ted Lowe More Than Roommates –...

In this mini episode of More Than Roommates (our last “Quickie”), Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss what’s next—what do you do with all that’s been shared in these 12 days of Quickie episodes. We also share some recommended resources to help you take the next step in your marriage and sexual intimacy.   Questions to Discuss: Which episode of the 12 days of Quickies was most helpful to you? What’...

In this mini episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss some frequently asked questions about sex, including questions about cussing in the bedroom, sexual abuse, can I say “No,” sex during menstruation, and more.   Scriptures: 1 Corinthians 7:1-5 Hebrews 13:4 Ephesians 4:29    Questions to Discuss: How do you handle it in your marriage when one of you is in the mood for s...