Monarch for Love

You can feel unloved in a relationship where love still exists. In this week's episode, Michelle introduces Love Literacy, the missing skill set behind emotional connection, communication, and lasting love. Because the problem isn’t always love. Sometimes, it’s what we were never taught.🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com 📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com Instagram: @Monarchforlove TikTok @monarc...

Money is one of the biggest sources of stress in relationships. In this week's episode, Michelle and her husband Brian break down simple, practical ways to manage money as a couple, build a financial safety net, and reduce stress in your relationship. From emergency savings to everyday habits, you’ll learn how to feel more secure, more aligned, and more at peace with your finances together.🔗 Webs...

It’s not the moment that damages your relationship. It’s how you respond to it. In this week's episode, I teach you my 3D Emotional Reset, a simple way to stop reacting, regulate your emotions, and choose a response that builds connection instead of distance.🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com 📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com Instagram: @Monarchforlove TikTok @monarchforlove

What if you didn’t marry the wrong person… what if you just never learned how to love each other? In this week’s episode, Michelle shares a deeply personal story about loving and leaving her first marriage. She unpacks the painful realization that love can be real and still unsustainable when two people lack the skills, language, and emotional tools to create safety and connection. You will hear w...

What if her complaints are not attacks, but bids for connection you’ve been missing? In this week’s episode, Michelle and Chuck get practical about what changes the pattern, how men can stop hearing complaints as criticism, why respect and safety work differently for men and women, and how small moments of noticing, validation, and clear requests can prevent “death by a thousand paper cuts.” They...

Why does it feel like she left “out of nowhere” when she’s been gone emotionally for years? In this weeks episode, Michelle sits down with therapist and men’s relationship coach Chuck Chapman to unpack what walkaway wife syndrome really is and why it happens. They talk about emotional exhaustion, resentment, and the slow drift from connection to silence, plus why many men are blindsided when their...

In this episode of Monarch for Love, Michelle Hays sits down with Kelly Leary, CEO and Founder of Revolution Dating, and Miranda Capparelli, Head Matchmaker, to explore a smarter way to date after divorce. They share why modern dating feels so frustrating, what it really takes to be ready for love again, and how working with a matchmaker can change everything. www.revolutiondating.com Instagram @r...

Are you thinking about divorce… or are you exhausted, hurt, and trying to escape pain? In this week’s episode, Michelle invites you to slow down one of the biggest decisions of your life. Drawing from her own experience of two divorces, she shares three hard truths most people do not talk about. Divorce does not erase pain, it relocates it. Not feeling loved does not always mean you are unloved. A...

Why do you feel lonely in your marriage when you are still sharing a life together? In this week’s episode, Michelle slows everything down and names the quiet loneliness that can exist inside a good marriage. You will learn why loneliness does not always mean love is gone, how busyness and mental urgency quietly replace presence, and the small daily moments that help couples feel seen again. You w...

In this week's episode, Michelle sits down with Chris Eaton, military veteran, author, and death doula, for a powerful conversation about self love, emotional steadiness, and the inner work that transforms marriage. They talk about boundaries, breathwork, nervous system regulation, and why peace is not a personality trait, it is a practice.  Connect with Chris Eaton here:  https://www.fa...

Why does desire fade in long-term relationships? In this powerful and refreshingly honest conversation, Michelle sits down with Courtney Fae Long, creator of Sex Life Makeover. Courtney is TEDx speaker, and master’s-level social worker, and we are talking about what couples are rarely taught about sex, fulfillment, and connection. If you’ve ever wondered how to reignite passion, feel more confiden...

People pleasing often looks like love, sacrifice, or keeping the peace, but over time it quietly erodes honesty, connection, and trust. In this Monarch for Love episode, we explore how people pleasing shows up in marriage, why it leads to resentment, and how it disconnects you from yourself and your partner. This conversation isn’t about blaming or fixing anyone. It’s about recognizing the pattern...

Valentine’s Day gets all the attention, but real love isn’t built on one day a year. In this Monarch for Love episode, we talk about why love doesn’t need a holiday to be expressed, protected, or renewed. This conversation is about moving beyond performative romance and into everyday connection. The kind of love that’s felt on ordinary Tuesdays, in quiet moments, and through consistent presence. I...

Somewhere along the way, love can start to feel heavy, expected, or taken for granted. In this episode of Monarch for Love, we reframe one powerful truth: loving your spouse is not a duty, it’s a privilege. A privilege to know someone deeply. A privilege to grow alongside them. A privilege to choose love, even when it’s hard. This conversation invites you to shift out of resentment and back into r...

I love you” matters, but when it’s said on repeat without meaning, it can lose its power. In this episode of Monarch for Love, I share why adding one simple word changes everything: because. When you say “I love you because…” you don’t just express love, you help your partner feel seen. You remind them why they matter, what you notice, and how they impact your life. If your marriage feels a little...

Some words in marriage hurt loudly. Others hurt quietly. In this episode, Michelle Hays breaks down why the word “whatever” is one of the most dangerous in a relationship. You’ll learn how this small word acts as emotional shutdown, why it makes your partner feel unimportant, and how repeated moments of disengagement erode connection over time. Michelle also shares practical tools to replace “what...

If you’ve ever thought, “I know we love each other, but it doesn’t feel like love anymore,” this episode is for you. Michelle Hays unpacks the real reasons marriages feel loveless, from emotional neglect to negative assumptions and unspoken resentment. You’ll hear why loveless does not mean hopeless, and how rebuilding emotional safety and connection can quietly revive love again.🔗 Website: www.m...

A handwritten love letter might seem old-fashioned, but its impact is timeless. In this episode, we explore why putting your feelings into words can heal resentments, deepen emotional safety, and bring back the softness couples often lose along the way. I’ll share how to write a letter that actually lands, what to say when you don’t know where to start, and why this simple act can change the entir...

We start each year full of hope, and somehow in a blink of an eye we fall into routine and distance. In this episode, Michelle Hays shares a simple but powerful truth. Love does not stay alive on autopilot. It is built through small, daily decisions to listen, soften, and stay connected. If your marriage feels good but fragile, or distant but not broken, this conversation will gently remind you wh...

This holiday season, we’re talking about the one gift that changes everything in a marriage — forgiveness. Not the “pretend it didn’t hurt” kind, but the kind that softens resentment, quiets scorekeeping, and makes room for joy again. In this episode, I share why couples secretly keep “naughty lists,” how those quiet tallies slowly chip away at connection, and why choosing forgiveness can turn eve...

A thriving marriage isn’t built on luck, chemistry, or time together. It’s built on five core pillars that determine how safe you feel, how seen you feel, and how deeply connected you become. In this episode, I walk you through the five foundations every strong marriage is built on, why they matter, and how to strengthen each one in simple, doable ways. If your marriage feels good but could feel g...

Every strong marriage has a rhythm. In this episode, I break down the eight simple habits happy couples practice consistently to stay connected, calm, curious, and close. These aren’t grand gestures. They’re everyday choices that keep love alive, resentment low, and emotional safety high. If you want your marriage to feel lighter and more loving, this is where you start.🔗 Website: www.monarchforl...

Your spouse is sending signals all day long. The question is… are you catching them or walking right past them? Today we dig into bids for attention, why they matter, and how responding to them can completely change the emotional temperature of your marriage.🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com 📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com Instagram: @Monarchforlove TikTok @monarchforlove

Ever notice how a marriage can be full of routines and plans yet feel oddly empty? Like you love each other… but the spark, the pull toward the future, has gone a little dim? This week's episode is a gentle reminder that love needs more than commitment and calendars... it needs a horizon. Shared dreams. Tiny sparks of “someday” that make the “everyday” feel meaningful again. If your marriage feels...

Ever notice how one sentence can spark an argument and not because of what was said, but how it was heard? In this short episode, we unpack how tone, timing, and emotional state can twist even kind intentions into conflict. You’ll learn how to slow the moment, mirror what your partner says, and hear beneath the words, past the defenses, into the heart. Because most love isn’t lost in the speaking…...