Monarch for Love

Your marriage looks good from the outside. There’s no major betrayal, no constant conflict, and yet something feels missing. In this episode, Michelle explores why feeling unloved doesn't necessarily mean you aren't loved. Learn how communication, expectations, emotional exhaustion, and the way we give and receive love can create a disconnect between love that exists and love that is felt. Sometim...

In this episode of Monarch for Love, Michelle Hays challenges one of the biggest relationship myths, that communication is the real problem in marriage. Michelle explores how emotional state, tension, defensiveness, and unspoken energy shape conversations long before words are spoken. This powerful conversation will help you understand why couples feel misunderstood, why defensiveness happens so q...

In this week's episode of Monarch for Love, Michelle Hays shares the dangerous moment many people experience right before deciding to leave their marriage, the moment where disconnection starts feeling like truth. Michelle explores the difference between feelings and facts, why emotional narratives can distort relationships, and the powerful questions every couple should ask before making a perman...

In this week's episode of Monarch for Love, Michelle Hays explores the quiet disconnection so many couples experience, when nothing is obviously wrong, yet the relationship no longer feels close. Michelle shares how emotional distance is often created through unattended moments, lack of presence, and losing intentional connection over time. This powerful conversation will help you understand why c...

In this episode of Monarch for Love, Michelle Hays explores the real reason so many loving couples feel disconnected. This powerful conversation dives into emotional triggers, communication breakdowns, assumptions, and the relationship skills most people were never taught. Michelle introduces the core pillars of Love Literacy and explains why lasting love is not just about chemistry or feelings, i...

In this week's episode of Monarch for Love, Michelle Hays explores why so many people love their spouse deeply but no longer feel loved in their marriage. Michelle shares personal insight, emotional truths, and practical relationship wisdom to help couples understand the difference between love being gone and love no longer being felt. Because sometimes the problem is not the absence of love, it i...

In this honest episode of Monarch for Love, Michelle and her husband Brian share the emotional and relational shifts that came with retirement after Brian’s 42-year career in the tech industry. From identity loss and changing routines to communication, emotional safety, and learning how to slow down together, this conversation offers a real look at life after work. Because retirement doesn’t just...

In this honest conversation, I’m joined by my husband, Brian, as we unpack the expectations we carried into our first marriages—and how they shaped what came after. We share the beliefs that didn’t hold up, the lessons we learned the hard way, and the realities of marriage no one really talks about. If you’ve ever wondered why love feels different than you expected, this episode will help you unde...

Most loveless marriages don’t end suddenly...they fade in stages. In this episode, we walk through subtle disconnection, emotional loneliness, and emotional detachment, so you can recognize where you are and what’s actually happening beneath the surface. You’ll learn how to tell the difference between love fading and connection breaking...and why understanding that difference could change everythi...

You can feel unloved in a relationship where love still exists. In this week's episode, Michelle introduces Love Literacy, the missing skill set behind emotional connection, communication, and lasting love. Because the problem isn’t always love. Sometimes, it’s what we were never taught.🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com 📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com Instagram: @Monarchforlove TikTok @monarc...

Money is one of the biggest sources of stress in relationships. In this week's episode, Michelle and her husband Brian break down simple, practical ways to manage money as a couple, build a financial safety net, and reduce stress in your relationship. From emergency savings to everyday habits, you’ll learn how to feel more secure, more aligned, and more at peace with your finances together.🔗 Webs...

It’s not the moment that damages your relationship. It’s how you respond to it. In this week's episode, I teach you my 3D Emotional Reset, a simple way to stop reacting, regulate your emotions, and choose a response that builds connection instead of distance.🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com 📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com Instagram: @Monarchforlove TikTok @monarchforlove

What if you didn’t marry the wrong person… what if you just never learned how to love each other? In this week’s episode, Michelle shares a deeply personal story about loving and leaving her first marriage. She unpacks the painful realization that love can be real and still unsustainable when two people lack the skills, language, and emotional tools to create safety and connection. You will hear w...

What if her complaints are not attacks, but bids for connection you’ve been missing? In this week’s episode, Michelle and Chuck get practical about what changes the pattern, how men can stop hearing complaints as criticism, why respect and safety work differently for men and women, and how small moments of noticing, validation, and clear requests can prevent “death by a thousand paper cuts.” They...

Why does it feel like she left “out of nowhere” when she’s been gone emotionally for years? In this weeks episode, Michelle sits down with therapist and men’s relationship coach Chuck Chapman to unpack what walkaway wife syndrome really is and why it happens. They talk about emotional exhaustion, resentment, and the slow drift from connection to silence, plus why many men are blindsided when their...

In this episode of Monarch for Love, Michelle Hays sits down with Kelly Leary, CEO and Founder of Revolution Dating, and Miranda Capparelli, Head Matchmaker, to explore a smarter way to date after divorce. They share why modern dating feels so frustrating, what it really takes to be ready for love again, and how working with a matchmaker can change everything. www.revolutiondating.com Instagram @r...

Are you thinking about divorce… or are you exhausted, hurt, and trying to escape pain? In this week’s episode, Michelle invites you to slow down one of the biggest decisions of your life. Drawing from her own experience of two divorces, she shares three hard truths most people do not talk about. Divorce does not erase pain, it relocates it. Not feeling loved does not always mean you are unloved. A...

Why do you feel lonely in your marriage when you are still sharing a life together? In this week’s episode, Michelle slows everything down and names the quiet loneliness that can exist inside a good marriage. You will learn why loneliness does not always mean love is gone, how busyness and mental urgency quietly replace presence, and the small daily moments that help couples feel seen again. You w...

In this week's episode, Michelle sits down with Chris Eaton, military veteran, author, and death doula, for a powerful conversation about self love, emotional steadiness, and the inner work that transforms marriage. They talk about boundaries, breathwork, nervous system regulation, and why peace is not a personality trait, it is a practice.  Connect with Chris Eaton here:  https://www.fa...

Why does desire fade in long-term relationships? In this powerful and refreshingly honest conversation, Michelle sits down with Courtney Fae Long, creator of Sex Life Makeover. Courtney is TEDx speaker, and master’s-level social worker, and we are talking about what couples are rarely taught about sex, fulfillment, and connection. If you’ve ever wondered how to reignite passion, feel more confiden...

People pleasing often looks like love, sacrifice, or keeping the peace, but over time it quietly erodes honesty, connection, and trust. In this Monarch for Love episode, we explore how people pleasing shows up in marriage, why it leads to resentment, and how it disconnects you from yourself and your partner. This conversation isn’t about blaming or fixing anyone. It’s about recognizing the pattern...

Valentine’s Day gets all the attention, but real love isn’t built on one day a year. In this Monarch for Love episode, we talk about why love doesn’t need a holiday to be expressed, protected, or renewed. This conversation is about moving beyond performative romance and into everyday connection. The kind of love that’s felt on ordinary Tuesdays, in quiet moments, and through consistent presence. I...

Somewhere along the way, love can start to feel heavy, expected, or taken for granted. In this episode of Monarch for Love, we reframe one powerful truth: loving your spouse is not a duty, it’s a privilege. A privilege to know someone deeply. A privilege to grow alongside them. A privilege to choose love, even when it’s hard. This conversation invites you to shift out of resentment and back into r...

I love you” matters, but when it’s said on repeat without meaning, it can lose its power. In this episode of Monarch for Love, I share why adding one simple word changes everything: because. When you say “I love you because…” you don’t just express love, you help your partner feel seen. You remind them why they matter, what you notice, and how they impact your life. If your marriage feels a little...

Some words in marriage hurt loudly. Others hurt quietly. In this episode, Michelle Hays breaks down why the word “whatever” is one of the most dangerous in a relationship. You’ll learn how this small word acts as emotional shutdown, why it makes your partner feel unimportant, and how repeated moments of disengagement erode connection over time. Michelle also shares practical tools to replace “what...