Mindset Unlimited: Tips, Tools, and Inspiration for Women in a Time of Change

You can follow all the strategies but ultimately, success is multi-faceted and can only be defined by you. Yet authenticity is vulnerable and comes with greater risk, especially for people who are marginalized in our society. Stepping into greater alignment with your true self involves letting go of pieces of your life that you were previously defined by. It’s never comfortable, often messy, and t...

Toxic positivity is a hot topic right now because the growing awareness of its presence in the health and wellness industry. It’s used as a way to spoof life coaching in the media and I’ve even had someone at a networking event assume I’d agree that a positive attitude would cure illnesses such as Covid. (That’s a no BTW – less stress helps but it’s not a cure). Based on personal and professional...

A single woman in her early 40’s who loves to sing, dance, craft, and cook was contemplating starting a business in performance until the Coronapocolypse began. She’s trying to use this time now for introspection and personal development while also balancing a fulfilling but low paying day job with paying student loans and renovating a house.  She signed up for this session because she has a histo...

How much do you trust yourself to make decisions? Women especially are taught in both subtle and not so subtle ways not to trust ourselves. We are given messages over and over again that we don’t know enough, that we don’t do enough, that we aren’t enough. (Then, when we ARE true to ourselves, we’re told we’re “too much.”) This feeds a need to prove ourselves and to try to control other people’s b...

This gifted intuitive is tired of just “getting by” in a job she doesn’t feel spiritually or emotionally fulfilled by. She recently became certified as a crystal practitioner and is working toward a tarot certification and wants to start a business but struggles to believe she really can. As a recovering alcoholic she’s done a lot of self-work in recovery as well as around a traumatic past. Her ho...

Married, mom of a 3 year old, wants to make a career shift but is feeling stuck as to how. She had a near death experience after her son’s birth that rearranged her priorities and inspired the non-profit she started. She has a PhD in virology and is working on her Masters in Public Health but has been struggling to land a position that fits the work she wants to do. Her hope from this session was...

We are right between winter and spring equinox, which is a time for preparing seeds to plant for the year. The next few coaching sessions I’m sharing in the next few weeks all centered around finding not only clarity to take action but uncovering the hidden blocks to confidence that were ultimately preventing that clarity. Ultimately this is a deeply personal process (as you’ll see in the coaching...

Multi-passionate entrepreneur and married mom of 2 wants to create a new branch of her business but is lost in the weeds of how. A self-identified “ideas person” she’s been stuck in analysis paralysis for months now.  She signed up for this session because she was longing for someone to just tell her the “right way” even though she knows there isn’t really a “right way.” In this episode of Unlimit...

What is coaching? It’s a question I get asked a lot and I talk about it in episode #1 but it’s one thing to talk about and another thing to experience. So, I put out an invitation to participate in a recorded coaching session to share with you and received a number of applications. Today’s episode of Unlimited is the first of those sessions. In this episode of Unlimited, I share a coaching session...

There is A LOT going on right now. It’s heavy and draining yet you don’t want to get sucked into the yuck. You want to be a light in the darkness. You want to show up for the people who you love and the things that really matter. Your relationship with yourself is the foundation for your relationship with everyone and everything else, however it tends to be the thing we poke holes in first. In thi...

Neuroscience shows that it is possible for us to develop new neuronal networks but that doesn’t mean change is easy. Actually, the only sure thing is that it isn’t – it’s uncomfortable, confusing, and takes work. Yet we’re in a time that is inviting us, actually more like shoving us, into change. That we show up and how we show up is up to us. In this episode of Unlimited, I’m diving into playing...

At the end of the year I take some time to reflect on the year gone by. This year is special, not just because it’s been so crazy but because it marks my 5 year anniversary of stepping into entrepreneurship. I’ve learned a lot about myself, about stress and resilience, and about the dynamics of change, all of which have served me very well through this 2020 experience. In this episode of Unlimited...

The holidays can be a very difficult time for anyone grieving the loss of a loved one, regardless of when that person passed. That grief is particularly present and extensive this year with COVID making 2020 the deadliest year in U.S. history. Many people are also experiencing grief from loss of jobs, plans, relationships, etc. and even simply in empathy with our communal grief. In this episode of...

It’s that time of year when lots of people start talking about goals and intentions for the next year but it's different this year. Of course, I definitely get the desire to move on from 2020 but we are STILL in the thick of the Covid crisis. Though I resisted being one of the many to talk about New Year goal setting, I thought it was important to explore how we honor the desire to move forwa...

You’ve probably heard all about the value of meditation but it’s another thing to actually DO it, especially when you’re a busy mom entrepreneur. Even if you used to have a practice, if you’ve fallen out of the habit, it can be hard to get started again. It’s easy to inadvertently set unreasonable goals that keep you from the benefits of that valuable space of rest. In this episode of Unlimited, t...

After a conversation with my Flow Mastery group, I realized we needed to talk a little more about rest, particularly about navigating the obstacles to making space for rest. As your life shifts, so does your relationship to rest. Also, though now is a natural time for rest, it’s still important to meet yourself where you’re at when it comes to making space for it. In this episode of Unlimited, the...

Rest is one of the most important parts of productivity but by far the least acknowledged. It's also so much more than just productivity. It's about honoring your humanness. Winter is a time when we are naturally called to rest and rejuvenate, yet we’ve instead made it one of the busiest times of the year. Allowing yourself the space to rest is critical to creative thinking, making align...

Healthy boundaries are super important as we head into the holidays, especially in the midst of the Covid 19 pandemic. The word boundaries is used a lot in the personal development space but not always explained clearly. Understanding is key to feeling empowered to set supportive boundaries. In this episode of Unlimited, the podcast, I’m diving into how to set healthy boundaries in general but esp...

Our society has a love hate relationship with stress. We rely on stress for a sense of productivity and we spend a lot of energy on stress management trying to prevent the chronic stress from causing burnout and harming our health. Stress isn’t inherently bad. It’s our relationship with stress that’s problematic.  In this episode of Unlimited, the podcast, I’m talking about a different way of enga...

Lots of people love personality tests. Personality tests can definitely be fun and can also be helpful to normalize your experience of life. BUT the self-labeling that happens with personality tests can also create an identity box that limits you and holds you back in ways you don’t even notice.  In this episode of Unlimited, the podcast, I’m exploring beyond personality and into the more expansiv...

One of the questions I get asked most often is "What is a life coach?"  That’s why episode #1 of Unlimited is all about life coaching!  In this episode of Unlimited, the podcast, I’m sharing the importance of life coaching and how to understand this very popular, very helpful, but also very vague modality.  Some of what I'll cover in this episode include: The differences between coa...

Welcome! I'm Valerie Friedlander, CPC, ELI-MP and the host of Unlimited. In this episode I share a snapshot on the whats and whys of this podcast as well as my background and approach to the topics we'll cover here. Topic such as: Impostor syndrome, stretching comfort zones, and building confidence Navigating emotions and setting healthy boundaries Living in the present while planning fo...