Mind Hacks for Quitting Porn

For a lot of men, the unexpected sight of nudity is more than they can handle. They get awkward, they stare, their minds start to wander. And for many, they find themselves seeking out porn just hours or even minutes later. But what if it didn't have to be this way? In this episode I want to offer some practical advice for how to approach situations of nudity in everyday life, and to offer a fresh...

So often as men we are socialized to think that emotions don’t really matter. It’s just a feeling. It doesn’t matter. But how often do we find ourselves hooked on a feeling? In this episode, we discuss the fact that our emotions are surprisingly the very key to why we got stuck in porn in the first place, and they are also the secret to freedom from porn.

Are you disappointed in your attempts to quit porn? You aren't alone. But what if all the disappointment you've experienced is actually more key than you ever realized to your success? Let's flip it around and find out how these temporary lows are actually something you want.

Are you someone who would like to quit porn, but you feel like going completely without orgasm is too tall of an order? This episode provides ideas to consider so that you can find a path forward to quit porn with or without masturbation.

Why does it seem like we can never get enough? Like the need for sex is incredibly hard to satisfy. This idea is what we call "scarcity thinking" that drives us to seek out porn, even when we don't want it. We talk about the antidote in today's episode.

People over the ages have tried to describe the concepts of love and lust in countless ways. But when we're trying to quit porn, what are the most useful ways to define these concepts? Let's move from someone who passively experiences these emotions into the driver's seat of our lives.

Can we find the courage to more fully examine the cost of porn in our lives, including things that we didn’t realize that we were missing out on? Being aware of these hidden benefits of quitting porn increases our motivation to quit.

Is intense sexual drive overwhelming your desire to quit porn? Do you feel at the effect of it, and long to be in the driver's seat? In this episode, we take a look at the science of sexual drive. We consider what that reveals about our path to quitting.

Pain can be a boon or bane, it all depends on how you manage your brain. Pain can seem to span physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual dimensions. This episode focuses on what we can practically learn from it.

Stress is the ultimate evil, right? The cause of all our problems... or so we've been told. But where did that narrative actually come from? Was it science, or pseudoscience? What if the secret to a more full, happy life isn't the successful avoidance of stress, but rather, the cultivation of the capability to face it head on without fear? If so, how do we start to manage stress in a way that isn'...

We have a lot of rules in our society. Rules around sex. Rules around porn. Often, other people created the rules and we just kind of went along with it. So how do we know when it's okay to change the rules? And whether it's safe to do so? Let's talk about rules that are meant to serve you rather than the other way around.

You may have heard that honesty is crucial for recovery. This episode clarifies how and why . Pessimism often masquerades as honesty, but it's not nearly as helpful as some would like to believe. I explain why. Also, hear examples of what a good and bad porn confession sounds like.

Have you lost count of how many times you've failed to quit porn? Are you noticing a common thread of failure in your life? It's human nature to fear that we'll never escape. That these failures somehow define us. But letting go of these failures may be easier than you think.

Too often, we chase perfection thinking that our lives will be complete, fulfilled, and have a purpose when we finally arrive. But, to the surprise of those who seek it, overly striving for perfection usually leads to none of those things. To be human is to be imperfect. Welcoming that reality allows us to rediscover what actually matters to us. Find more help at gratefullifecoaching.com

Do you ever feel like you are at war with yourself? We often say that we want to quit porn but we have this recurring desire to look at more, and it's like we can't make up our mind. What's going on with that? Is there something wrong with us? This episode explains why we experience this internal conflict. Get more help at gratefullifecoaching.com

This first bi-weekly episode contains a brief backstory on your host, Stephen McConnell, and then dives right into ideas that can change your life. Many of us long for transformation of our behavior, but how does that begin? How do we let go of guilt and shame? Why are we even looking at porn anyway? These questions and several more are summarily addressed in this episode. Learn more at gratefulli...