Miles Ahead: Strength for The Inner Life

In this episode Miles and Josh discuss the butterfly effect question, and how that may or may not reveal your unacknowledged regret or even areas of your life that you have been lost to "the maze"- a term coined by American Psychologist Phil Stutz- to describe where we abandon our power and become victims. Dr Miles does a deep dive into meditation and how it can be extremely useful or an...

How to use the pain of being human to your advantage. In this episode, Miles and Josh go deeper into how developmental trauma influences the creation of the ego, the shadow, and what the "golden shadow" is, and what to do with this. We blend Jungian approaches, Buddhist Psychology, and other current psychotherapies, and usual bro-science (N of 2!) to the conversation.  You will also lear...

Dr Aziz, who we have mentioned multiple times on the podcast is here! We begin the podcast fresh from an hour of sauna together, so if we sound drunk, we are all just in a zen-like state. In this episode, we discuss the secret to transformations, both inside and out. Dr Aziz Walks us through the physical and mental transformations he has been through and what the commonalities and the differences...

This was a BIG episode. We get into our personal stories of pain and growth and the people who helped us get there. This one is very much worth the listen. We discuss postulating and thinking about our emotions vs actually experiencing them, and how to do this. If you're a man and struggle with intellectualization vs emotional experience and expression, or a woman who does or has a man in your lif...

How to set goals, make them fun, and what to do about inevitable resistance. We get tactical and psychological. Anytime is a good time to set goals. It's the new year, when everyone decides to set "resolutions". What is this exactly ? What are we trying to resolve? Achieving a resolution is hard without having a goal and the accompanying strategy, tactics, and psychological/emotional skills toward...

What this episode is about: Josh and Miles interview one of Josh's clients/students about her "overnight success" body fat percentage loss and muscle mass gain. Josh highlights how astonishing and fast the transformation was, Stacy's work ethic, how they achieved this together. Miles asks probing psychological questions to understand Stacy's drive and what pains she may have had to overcome growin...

In today's episode, Miles and Josh go deep on social media and the "for you" feed, how psychographics trumps demographics and how tik tok changed the social media landscape. Most importantly we examine what we can learn about ourselves based on our feeds, how parasocial relationships impact our lives for the better and for the worse, and we also examine what "rage-baiting" or value-insulting conte...

Phil and Miles give an After Action Review for Josh about their recent seminar with Duey Freeman and Traver Boehm (from the ManUncivilized Podcast, book, and movement), titled, How Best to Work with Men. The seminar was filled with both clinicians and curious folk alike, both men and women seeking how best to support the men in their personal lives and professional settings. Miles and Phil talk ab...

How to work with physical and psychological pain. The first Noble Truth of Buddhism has many translations, the one we like is "life involves suffering". "Pain is available to everyone." The discussion today was around pain, how we can choose to perceive it in order to best work with it (or the opposite) and to find a lesson or two, and grow from it (or the opposite). This was a more informal episo...

Today we discuss the dynamic of co-dependency under the oft used terms, "Nice Guy" or "Good Girl" and what this means, where it comes from, how it presents, and how to know if you are running some of this energy and behavior. We attempt to illustrate what this looks like using personal and other types of examples and how to train it out of you for a better overall functioning authentic self. No Mo...

In today’s episode, we discuss the essentials of warrior-hood. Resilience. Service. Teamwork. To find out how masculinity and manhood intersect with warriorhood, listen to this episode. Stephen Press-field Warrior Ethos https://a.co/d/71IF5EO Michael Singer Untethered soul https://a.co/d/6NekCuJ https://milessalisburylpc.com https://www.joshsabraw.com https://www.instagram.com/miles.graham.salisbu...

In today's episode, we discuss one of the most important topics in mental health right now: Sovereignty, and How To be Self-Led. We'll talk about how much of our lives we spend insulating ourselves from the discomfort of change, vulnerability, and connection with others. We'll go into a little bit of Internal Family Systems and how our parts unconsciously guide our behavior. We'll talk about ident...

In this episode Miles and Josh address the saying of "pressure creates diamonds" by finishing the often-used idiom with, "pressure often creates dust". We discuss pressure, and how it looks when it is put upon us mostly negatively. We also illuminate how pressure can be applied to create an environment of reinforcement. Finally, we address the core of motivation, define it for...

PDF Download In our final discussion of the plight of men and health outcomes, we end on the problem of delusions, misinformation, and distracted attention. Most people do not have a solid sense of what their physical potential is, because they (us, as both Miles and I have experienced varying degrees of this) don't have a clear perception of what actions we are truly taking on a daily, weekly...

In today's episode Dr Miles and Josh delve a bit deeper into the obstacles that men face when tackling their own mental and physical health and today is the big topic of hormones and aging. Testosterone in the average male does peak in their 20s, but that doesn't mean that you have to peak. It's ok if you have a renaissance of vitality and energy in your 40s and 50s and it doesn't...

In this episode, we discuss men's struggles in terms of health and economic outcomes, as well as social struggles like lack of dating participation. The current trend is an alarming 4 times the likelihood of suicide, as well as poorer graduation rates, employment rates, and economic prospects. When it comes to the health conversation, men are less likely to have a primary care provider, less l...

Dr. Ray Doktor helps Josh cope with relationship issues. What's it about: Do you have the ability to check in with yourself as to how you show up, including your own definition of love for yourself?  Dr. Ray compares emotional training to the physical training of Bruce Lee who has a higher level of commitment to being the best martial artist alive. Having a clear process to sharpen your own ph...

Phil Horning returns. In this episode, we discuss how we get wounded in relationships and how we heal in relationships. The relief that we feel being seen in our pain and our struggles. How this is comforting and can aid the healing process. "I believe you, that does suck" is all that is required. Josh covers stillness and reconciliation including recapitulation, the process of teasing a...

Today's guest is Evan Transue, who is a public speaker and podcaster and is spreading his message about mental health and functional health care to the world. Evan has a unique gift for speaking with high school students about mental health, if you are a parent, this episode will be of extra interest to you.  What's it about: How early onset mental health issues occur, and can be avoided w...

Today, we cover the most common issues that people run into when tackling their health and fitness. What's it about:  Staying in shape and the obstacles to staying in shape. Injuries Ego Lifting Past Benchmarks that are not relevant Functional Paralysis Inconvenience Tax Not hard enough workout/good enough workout I can't train HARD anymore Kids dictate food or exercise habits Adrenal Fati...

What's it about:  How to control your own life, from the inside, and out. How we lose our felt sense of being able to affect our own world and environment. How Josh's childhood struggles impacted his personality and contributed to his core challenges and growth. How the listener will benefit: See how people in real-life situations create trauma for their kids (or don't). Learn how to c...

Pathway, the "HOW" episodes The biggest problem that arises to interfere with hope is the lack of a "pathway" to the goal, be it love, career, or inner peace. Today we look at why that is. What's it about: Don't let the How, get you down. The mind, especially of smart and proactive people is very adept at finding problems. Our rapid-fire emotional brain will then turn t...

What's it about: A continuation on the theme of Hope. What mistakes do people make when it comes to setting goals? How to set goals, even if you feel less empowered. How to set goals that are right for you and not default goals that society gives you. How will the listener benefit: Learn what questions to ask of yourself to get centered on what you really care about. Learn how to tell whether...

Hopelessness, What it is, and how to define hope in an empowering way. What's the episode about? Zooming out for a moment and examining the state of affairs in America with more options than ever and also more despair. How we go from despair to numbing, even from positive emotions and "normal" situations. What Brene Brown's definition of Hope is, broken down into Goals, Pathways,...

This episode deepens the conversation about mental health and what our medical system is doing to make it worse. What's it about: How our Medical Establishment and symptoms-based approach is making our mental health crisis worse. How our personality develops with pain and trauma in a way that changes our physiology. How this process culminates in a disconnected sense of self that feels hopeles...