Middle Me with Ana P. Santos

On this week's episode of Middle Me, we continue our conversation with Filipino-Indian writer Deepa Paul! Getting back to our discussion of open marriage, Deepa takes us on a journey of shedding shame as she explores her sexually adventurous side. From sharing dinners with polyamorous women to getting real with her thoughts about her marriage, Deepa reflects on her "Middle Me" stage...

Deepa Paul, freelance writer and author, shares her experiences in an open marriage. In this episode, we get an inside look at how ethical non-monogamy works for Deepa, and how it's possible to have fulfilling polyamorous relationships with both a husband and boyfriend at the same time. How does a wife and mom like Deepa navigate the complexities, misconceptions, pleasures and possibilities of...

In Part 2 of our interview with veteran activist and lesbian visibility advocate Giney Villar, we discussed her experiences as a lesbian woman in the Philippines. We delved into how she realized her identity in her early years and found her tribe in a lesbian collective. She also shared the challenges she faced finding employment as a lesbian in the '80s, and how she refused to compromise and...

Is it true that lesbian sex is better than heterosexual sex? There’s a popular study that says so and this week on the podcast, lesbian visibility activist Giney Villar lets us in on why there is truth to that survey. As Giney says, “This is an endorsement!” 😎 Giney also shares her stories growing up learning about her sexuality, making intentional changes to her body, and finding relationships t...

This new episode with sex therapist, Dr. Rica Cruz is filled with twists and turns! There’s a part about getting your first sex toy at mid-life (and wondering if keri ba ito sa gives), deflecting questions about body count, and what to do with random d*ck pics that slip into your DMs. Listeners who find themselves in the “Conflicted Sexual Stage” (listen to Episode 9 if you haven’t) will be reliev...

Have you wondered why our feelings towards sex and our sexuality change as we go through seasons in life? For Season 2 of Middle Me, I sat down with sex therapist Dr. Rica Cruz to talk about these sexual stages, the triggers, and how women usually deal with them. Rica also shared her observations on men and women attitudes about giving and receiving oral sex. Towards the latter part of the episode...

Back this week with Myrza Sison, we pick up on how her courageous "incarnations," influences growing up, and being comfortable with her sexuality allowed her to confidently explore different careers and dreams over the years. (If you missed Part 1 of this interview, we suggest that you listen to that one first!) Unrestrained and high-spirited, Myrza's story of upending social expectations:  m...

This week, we talk about how Cosmopolitan Philippines put sex and pleasure in style during the late 90s! From an atmosphere of conservatism and slut-shaming, how did they make women feel confident to talk about sex and pleasure?  Our guest, Myrza Sison, former Editor-in-Chief of Cosmo shares how they became the voice that led thousands of women to become fun and unapologetically fearless abou...

Trigger warning: Extensive discussion of sexual abuse This week on Middle Me, we continue the story of Ces Millado on reclaiming pleasure, this time from traumatic sexual experiences she had at home growing up. Ces recalls how she did not have the knowledge or the vocabulary to label or talk about  what was happening to her and her body. In this episode, we learn how Ces found and formed safe...

Ces Millado had a typical love story that started with marrying her first boyfriend in her 20s. After her marriage ended, Ces went on an exploration. In her 30s, she celebrated her freedom on the sandy beaches of Boracay. “It was my liberation!” Nearing her 40s, she set out on an ultimate adventure of “40 before 40” 😉😻 “It was a period of sexual actualization!” Ces’s adventure was all about livi...

May Ling Su's journey of sexuality is one filled with explorations—playing with film cameras, being her the producer and driver of her content on maycam.com, and managing her family's expectations. (Hint: Listen to how her Dad came to terms with her being a porn star.)  For May, it’s all part of defining her sexuality as a woman, wife, and mother. Did you know that we're looking for Middle Me...

When the Ateneo De Manila University communications graduate May Ling Su moved to New York City to pursue a career as a theater actress, she landed a character role as a porn star. After the show, she and her then-boyfriend-now-husband started toying with cameras. The rest became history and she's now the star of her own show *wink, check her site below*. In this roller coaster of an episode, hear...

In this second part of our interview with sex therapist Dr. Margie Holmes, we take a sneak peak into her personal journey of sexuality starting from her first awakening down to finding happiness after trying marriage for the fourth time. She also shares her two cents about monogamy, honesty in marriage, and giving zero fucks about what women in their middle age should wear, to which she says: Wear...

Let’s talk about sex and life after 40! In this first episode of the Middle Me Podcast, we invited sex therapist and sex goddess Dr Margie Holmes to give her sexy and juicy advice about ageing, gaining sexual confidence, and being kinder to yourself. Hint: Lubricant can help with all of the above! Have your own stories or questions about sex and pleasure that you want to share? Send them to us at...