Mental Wellness Cindy

Sibling rivalry, aaaaaaah!!!! If you a parent or relative or friend to anyone with siblings who constantly fight, or you are a sibling who fought constantly, you know where i am coming from. Sibling rivalry is a type of competition or animosity among siblings. Siblings generally spend more time together during childhood than they do with parents. Their bond is often complicated and is influenced b...

Everyone needs to vent occasionally. But is complaining helpful and does it work? Complaining changes the balance of negative/positive energy and for a brief moment at least, we feel better. Its actually a pretty reliable process. Addictive even. Which is a problem (beyond even the wasted time). Like just about all addictions we are feeding the spin of a destructive, never ending cycle. Life is st...

Sometimes life is just hard and i do not know about you, but some days i ask myself if what i am doing is even worth it and on really bad days if i am even worth it. Well guess what? You are worth it .Yes YOU!! You are worth it and here's why 1) Because You care 2) Because You make a difference 3) Because you are an advocate for growth 4) Because You put community over competition 5) Because You h...

We have all been there. At some point in our lives, we question ourselves. Are we doing good enough? Should we be doing all the things we are doing, should we listen to all the people that are saying we are wrong? A certain level of self doubt is good because it indicates you understand what you need to improve in order to do a better job (remembering that doesn't mean what you are doing is not go...

My 10 year old son is autistic, this diagnosis is not a problem, in fact it is a relief because it helps to make sense of how he views and responds to the world. The problem is everybody else or more specifically the people around him that do not understand his disability and how to support him. He is currently on the verge of being permanently excluded from school, which in itself is not a bad th...

I heard something from a teacher that i listened to today that really got me thinking and i wanted to share it with you. It was that Anxiety is experiencing failure in advance. That is the worst has not even happened yet, but we are already worried abut it. We have already decided that the thing or action we were going to take is not worth it because of this feeling of fear. I have certainly felt...

Hello and welcome back to Cindy @ 40 or if its your first time welcome. My focus in all the content i am putting out is to leverage the power of story telling to promote social change around the importance of everyone's entitlement to good mental and mental health support. Talking about mental health has been seen and remains a taboo in some communities and countries. The reality is we have all ex...

Co parenting with an ex can be a stressful and emotional endeavour, even when things are civil. Unfortunately, it is common that breakups are rough, and the co-parenting relationship involves friction, arguments, disagreements about parenting choices, general opposition, manipulation and so on. “A difficult ex” can describe several personality types, and if you are dealing with a difficult ex, you...

We don’t need to change to please other people. One of the most freeing things we learn in life it that we don’t have to like everyone and everyone doesn’t have to like us, and it’s perfectly OK. As mother Teresa famously said, “some people come in our life as blessings. Some come in your life as lessons”. This carefree attitude did not come overnight. I had to go through a tough phase first. I pr...

Self-awareness is the capacity for introspection and the ability to recognise oneself as an individual separate from the environment and other individuals. It is not to be confused with consciousness in the sense of qualia. While consciousness is being aware of one's environment and body and lifestyle, self-awareness is the recognition of that awareness. Self-awareness is how an individual conscio...

When you are kind to others it not only changes you, it changes the world. Kindness is the ability and desire to have a positive impact on others. Kindness is extending yourself in a way that uplifts another human being. It is a behavior marked by ethical characteristics, a pleasant disposition, and concern and consideration for others. It is considered a virtue, and is recognized as a value in ma...

Apologizing is expressing regret for something that one has done wrong. An apology is a statement that has two key elements. It shows your remorse over your actions. It acknowledges the hurt that your actions have caused to someone else. We all need to learn how to apologize, aft er all, no one is perfect, We all make mistakes , and we all have the capability to hurt people through our behaviors a...

Raising children is hard, and any parent who says differently is lying. Parenting is emotional and intellectually draining, and it often requires professional sacrifice and serious financial hardship. Kids are needy and demanding from the moment of their birth to....well, forever. Don’t get me wrong I love my kids and will do anything for them but being a parent is hard work. I don’t believe I am...

Compassion is the sympathetic pity and concern for the sufferings or misfortunes of there. Compassion literally means “to suffer together”. Among emotion researchers, it is defined as the feeling that arises when you are confronted with another’s suffering and feel motivated to relieve that suffering. Compassion is not the same as empathy or altruism, though the concepts are related. Compassion mo...

I just wanted to take the time today to say thank you to everyone who takes the time to watch, read and listen to my content. I also want to absolutely thank everyone who has taken time to like, follow, share and comment on my content. You guys have no idea how much this means to me. We are all very busy, but you have honoured me with your time and attention. For this I am grateful 💖💖 Please kee...

Got out of bed, brushed your teeth, ate a meal, showered or bathed, cleaned up your room, drank water or just breathed today. Simple accomplishments deserve recognition. We put so much pressure on ourselves everyday to achieve great things and we forget all the little things that we accomplish that then lead us to achieving the big things. Try to remember to be kind to yourself regularly. What was...

Gut instinct, or intuition is your immediate understanding of something, there’s no need to think it over or get another opinion- you just know. Your intuition arises as a feeling within your body that only you experience. You know when you just feel like something is wrong, you don’t know why but deep down you just know it. And then you over think it and your first gut feeling ends up being right...

Should others people’s opinions and admiration matter, when it comes to anything that you do in life? We all need to belong. We seem to have a deep need to be a part of units or communities and to be accepted, approved of, and then even admired. However this often leads to people worrying too much about what others are thinking about them. This kind of excessive worrying can have a negative effect...

Being alone and feeling alone are very different things. You could be surrounded by a lot of people and still feel very alone. You could be in a marriage or relationship and still feel very alone. I have been through this in my now ended marriage. The struggle is real. The causes for these feelings of loneliness are numerous and different for everyone. It could be that you are depressed, stressed,...

How do you get yourself doing the things you need to do when you are having a slow day? Today I felt off for numerous reasons and absolutely did not want to do anything. But being a parent I had the kids to feed and dress and get to school on time. I also of course had to get to work. Well I guess the motivators today were I did not want to have to have a conversation with the school about the kid...

Happiness is used in the context of mental or emotional states, including positive or pleasant emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy. It is also used in the context of life satisfaction, subjective wellbeing, flourishing and well being. The word happiness is used in relation to 2 factors 1) The current experience of the feeling of an emotion (affect) such as pleasure or joy or of a more...

Personal development involves activities that improve awareness and Identity, develop talents and potential, build human capital and facilitate employability, enhance the quality of life and contribute to the realisation of dreams and aspirations. What can you do to develop yourself? Read or watch tutorials about what you want to improve. Find a mentor. Reflect at the end of each day. Create a str...

You only have 3 choices in life. Give Up Give In Or Give it all you have got. To get what we want in life we have to work hard and we need to practice patience. Nobody said it would be easy so don’t give up when it gets hard. Nothing comes easy. It will take time to grow a business. It will take time to develop a relationship. It will take time to raise your child to become a responsible adult. Th...

Gratitude is the quality of being thankful, a readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness. An attitude of gratitude means making it a habit to express thankfulness and appreciation in all parts of your life on a regular basis for both the big and the small things alike. By practising gratitude regularly you will be living in a state of positivity. And by living this way you will attr...

Escapism is the tendency to seek distractions and relief from unpleasant realities, especially by seeking entertainment or engaging in fantasy. It can also be used as a term to define the actions people take to help relieve persistent feelings of depression or general sadness. In small managed doses with activities that do cause a risk to yourself or others I believe it can be helpful to help rech...