Melanated Motivation (MnM)

Can you be excited for what’s next and still grieve what you’re leaving behind? Kendra Jay says yes—and in this heartfelt episode of *Kendra Said What?*, she reflects on the bittersweet transition of leaving her clients and beginning a new chapter in her career. With honesty, humor, and deep gratitude, Kendra shares how the people she served changed her, why meaningful work can leave an imprint on...

What if the job changes; but your gifts come with you? In this candid, affirming episode of *Kendra Said What?*, Kendra Jay reflects on carrying your creativity, leadership, compassion, and hard-earned wisdom into every new chapter. Your job may give you room to develop your gifts, but it doesn’t own them; and your title is only one part of who you are. Kendra also draws a clear line between what...

🎙️ KENDRA SAID WHAT!? “I’m the Main Character in My Own Life.” Deconditioning the roles we were assigned And I LOVE this because we’re not doing the corny version of “I’m the main character” where it’s basically narcissism with a cute aesthetic. We’re talking about self-authorship. Because here’s the distinction: Being the main character in your life does NOT mean everybody else is a supporting ch...

Y’all…I’m back. But I’m not the same woman who left.

Kendra Said What!?: You can love people deeply and still stop sacrificing yourself to prove it.

Switching gears towards a bigger direction: I’m not abandoning Melanated Motivation; I’m just graduating from it.

This is not just a “new intro.” This is the reintroduction episode —the bridge between Melanated Motivation and Kendra Said What?!

Learn to be ok embracing your journey and letting go! Practice gratitude? Reassess and readjust your focus! 🧘🏾‍♀️

To be stagnant is to have no movement; no growth; and anything that doesn’t move or grow dies. You must choose to live and that begins with loving yourself.! 💕

Work on healing your inner child.! Water 💦 yourself until you feel like you again. Observe, don’t absorb.! You are not your old wounds; stop ✋🏾 licking them.! Who you decide to be today will impact who you are in there present and future.!

You cope by self sabotaging, all because you feel like that’s the only control you have.! Choose to be the real you.! Stop 🛑 withdrawing and learn to address shit head on. When you level up; your old level is not allowed to along for the Elevation.!

Unattached from the want and need to desire acceptance, approval, support, or permission from any spaces or energies outside of you.! Time is life; and it is way too valuable to be wasted on anything less than endless love, good vibes and happiness.! This is your rough draft… Take it all in and create YOUr master piece.! 😊 💕

Wake up and remember your value! Sometimes the “bad things” that happen in our lives, put us directly on the path to the Best things that will ever happen to us.!

Are you nice, easy going, but people pleasing has you in a chokehold? Do you work good under pressure, but you still procrastinate? Start doing shit on your terms! Bring balance to your life by cultivating the various parts of you that you want to elevate.! You will always have problems; but learn to enjoy life while solving them.! Tell “anxiety” not today satan.!

Don’t you want to walk the path that belongeth to you, instead of the path that belongeth to them.? Prying open doors that don’t belong to you will continue to keep your progress stagnant.! If it doesn’t open then it’s not yours ok 👌🏾 👍🏾 ✅ .!! Y’all gotta release the urge to have it all and have it now…like right fucking now lol stop 🛑 ✋🏾 that shit.!!!! Tap into you and fix what is hinderi...

When your hurting, it’s hard to be grateful… at the pity party you created for yourself.! Take a flight ✈️ on a journey to healing ❤️‍🩹 the inner you.! It’s so worth it… It’s important to heal our younger selves to stop the dysfunctional ways in which we interact with people and ourselves.! From a mental health aspect, especially… That psychological trauma has held a chokehold on you long enough....

There’s a moment when you realize that it’s not about anyone else anymore; it’s all about you and your happiness. Get healthy for you.! It’s time for y’all to make sure your not the weapon formed against yourself that is causing you not to prosper.! Let’s normalize not having to take a vacation to experience peace and luxury.! Honestly, it’s time to stop giving people more chances to disappoint yo...

You have to stop expecting you from others. If I had to heal from you, no you can not come back into my space. Understand that your energy is way too valuable to be just giving it away. The older you get, the less you’ll feel the need to be included, understood, and accepted. Stop trying to romanticize toxic relationships with emotionally, mentally, and physically abusive people. It’s time to CHOO...

Before we begin to do anything else; First (you have to) Love Yourself (FLY).! Everything you want is attainable and We don’t have to compromise.! This year is all about being heavy on the self improvement.! When your spirit tells you it’s time to distance yourself from something or someone; you need to respect that, trust that and do just that.! Forgive your younger self, Believe in your current...

Stop 🛑 seeking validation from others and be your own validation.!

Take control of your life. Don’t allow yourself to remain a victim. Stop 🛑 playing with your own potential.! It is time to heal and release yourself from the versions of you that we’re created out of fear and survival.! You can literally have the life that you want, just do it.! Change your mindset and you’ll change your life.!

Though some pain and possibilities may be inevitable, suffering is optional! 🗣️

Know your limits and how far you can extend access to your time and energy! Healthy self = Heal Thy Self 😃

Misery loves company…

I’ll deal with a little, but I’m not dealing with a lot! Keep focused on doing your work! Confuse the enemy with grace and pop yo shit proudly and loudly! 😘