Masks Off: Inner Freedom For People-Pleasers and Perfectionists

To sign up for our FREE Balancing Your Backpack Course go to: https://unlocking-authenticity.teachable.com/p/balancing-your-backpack Check out our other courses as well at https://unlocking-authenticity.teachable.com/courses Do you feel overwhelmed and exhausted from your list of things to do? Is it difficult for you to relax and kick back and unwind? Do you feel guilty when you are relaxing and d...

To sign up for the FREE Balancing Your Backpack Course go to https://unlocking-authenticity.teachable.com/p/balancing-your-backpack In this episode Kim and Tia share a little more of their journey on how they each got on to the path of awakening. They share where they started and on they got on this path. Then they share how they met each other and how they came together to do Masks Off podcast.&n...

To sign up for the FREE Balancing Your Backpack course go to https://unlocking-authenticity.teachable.com/p/balancing-your-backpack Are you aware of your inner dialogue? Do you constantly beat yourself up and put yourself down? Do you constantly feel that you have to please, perform and be perfect? If you answered yes to any of these questions, then you will want to listen to this episode. In fact...

To sign up for the FREE Balancing Your Backpack course go to https://unlocking-authenticity.teachable.com/p/balancing-your-backpack It is so typical for humans to feel and think that there is not enough to go around for everyone whether that be jobs, money, shelter, raises, opportunities or whatever. We are so conditioned and wired from caveman times that it is all about “survival of the fittest.”...

To sign up for the FREE Balancing Your Backpack course go to https://unlocking-authenticity.teachable.com/p/balancing-your-backpack In addition to announcing Balancing Your Backpack , Kim and Tia talk about values and being in alignment with your values. As the quote indicates, are you true to yourself? Do you have the courage to stay in alignment with your values or do the masks you wear keep you...

Are you striving to have perfect balance in your life? Or, do you have no balance at all? Are you completely out of alignment and therefore, out of balance? It is difficult for over achievers, people pleasers, martys or caretakers because they are doing too much of one thing. There is little balance in their lives. It is the “shoulds” in our lives that continue to push us and we do more than be. W...

How often have you found yourself caught in a mental tailspin because of a situation that you thought was overwhelming? Have you ever noticed yourself spiral out of control because you lacked control in a particular situation? Did you notice a heavy feeling as a result of your reaction to whatever that particular situation was? Kim and Tia discuss the importance of staying in the moment or at leas...

In this episode Kim and Tia continue the conversation on worthiness. They discuss how difficult it can be to know our worth and value. It can be difficult to know our value and in particular if you have a business or service and you need to charge for your time, skill, effort and energy.  We can get caught in a story line of “not good enough” or “not worthy enough” and not be compensated for...

Do you feel that your life is flat?  Do you feel dull or dimmed down? Another way of asking the question is do you feel like you are playing small? Does your life feel like groundhog day? Perhaps you are just spinning your wheels and feel like you are going nowhere. If you answered “yes” to any or all of these questions, you are probably cut off from your true authentic self and not living th...

How often have you heard yourself say, “When I lose weight , then I will be happy, when I get married then I will be happy, when I have a family then I will be happy etc… You fill in the blank. We are all chasing that pursuit of happiness. The issue is that we are not living in the present moment. The reality is that what we create in our present reality will keep showing up in our future. If we w...

How often do you find yourself trying to fit in with others in order to feel accepted. Do you find yourself trying to meet other peoples’ expectations of who they want you to be rather than being your true self? Whereas, true belonging is when we can be exactly who we are and know that the people we are with will accept us completely. When we find our tribe this is when we can truly exhale and be...

How comfortable are you with setting boundaries with others? Are you afraid that if you set a boundary that you run the risk of being rejected? Are you afraid that if you disappoint others and don’t please that you will not feel connected to others? The problem is that when we do this throughout our lives we will just live in roles and we will lose who we truly are. We might not even know what our...

Do you find yourself getting stuck in the avoidance mask? Do you “numb out” with TV, social media, isolation, and maybe using substances to avoid conflict and even avoiding your feelings? Many of us have been conditioned that when we have a conflict with another that we just ignore our feelings. We were never taught how to resolve our conflicts and we were never taught how to deal with our feeling...

Kim and Tia have an in-depth and interesting conversation about what the inner child is and how the inner child plays a part in our adult lives. The inner child is the part of ourselves that is still wounded and shows up in different ways depending on who you are. Most often the ways in which the inner child shows up is holding us back or keeping us stuck. It is usually when we are triggered or up...

Do you believe that to manifest what you want in your life, all you have to do is wish it or think it and therefore you will receive it? The reality is that to be a true manifestor, one must heal and clear old outdated and negative belief patterns as well as feel your pain and thus allow it to heal. If we just push down our feelings by ignoring them, we promise you that pain will not go away. That...

How good are you at trusting the Universe that you will receive everything that you need? Are you able and willing to release any and all attachment to the outcomes you desire? Surrender often feels so counterintuitive and yet, it is the key to manifesting what you want. It is actually resistance that blocks what we want to manifest. Our resistance and our attachments to outcomes is what blocks th...

Are you in flow with your life? Are you aware of different signs that the Universe sends to you, and if so, do you listen? Kim and Tia talk about manifesting. They explain that we are manifesting all the time whether it is what we desire or not, we are manifesting. The Universe is forever generous in giving us lessons to learn and unless we go inward and do the work, we will continue to “invite” p...

Do you ever notice when you make a mistake or do something that maybe you wish you had not done or said something that you wish you had not said, and do you then beat yourself up for doing so? If you have, then when you beat yourself up that is a second arrow. We all make mistakes because we are human, but what we don’t need to do is shame ourselves or others when we or they make a mistake. The se...

Kim and Tia share how difficult it can be to accept and take 100 percent responsibility for our reactions to what happens in our lives. It can be so hard to be aware when we are resisting other people or events. It is when we resist in our lives that we co-create our own suffering. When we can accept life on life’s terms and just remind ourselves that life is life and flow with life we have less s...

Do you hesitate to set a necessary boundary with another because you are afraid of the possible push back. Setting boundaries can be very difficult for the people pleaser because there may be conflict and the people pleaser does not want to disappoint. How often do you find yourself saying yes to someone when you really want to say no. If you find yourself doing this often, the consequence to your...

Kim and Tia discuss the negative effects of comparing oneself to another. Often when we compare ourselves there is a tendency to feel less than and to fall into lack. When we compare we will often create blocks and therefore, we stop our creative flow. It is a way of preventing ourselves from putting ourselves out into the Universe. It is the ego that gets in the way and it is the ego that says yo...

Many people are unable to achieve their wants and desires because they have deeply ingrained belief systems that what they want is unavailable to them. When people believe that freedom, peace, joy, abundance, success, wealth, health, love or whatever else they want is unavailable, then they will not attract those things in their lives. We must be in alignment with our truth in order to manifest al...

Do you typically follow the path of least resistance or do you play it safe and stay comfortable? Do you like to take risks and “rock the boat” or do you prefer predictability and safety? Tia and Kim talk about their experiences of stepping outside the box and times when they did not, because fear held them back. In order to grow we must step outside of our comfort zone and find the courage to pus...

Hold on to your hats for this episode. Kim and Tia get real and a bit controversial. This is a difficult conversation but one that needs to be said. While we may not cause or create events that happen to us, we do have a choice about how we respond and show up to the event or stimulus. We have a part in every relationship and every outcome that comes about and that may be a hard pill to swallow fo...

How often do you notice yourself complaining about another or pointing a finger at the other? Are you able to take responsibility for your part in these situations? As long as you blame another or believe that the other is responsible for your feelings, you allow yourself to stay in a victim mode. It is so hard to look in the mirror and ask ourselves what ownership do we have to take. How can we t...