Masks Off: Inner Freedom For People-Pleasers and Perfectionists

How often do you find yourself trying to control another by saying the same thing over and over again? Or perhaps you ask prodding questions or get upset with another if that person doesn’t take your advice or even respond the way you expect him to respond? Often, we may try and control another person because we are in fear or lack so we feel an innate sense to control and feel safe. Perhaps our m...

In this episode Kim shares more of her experience with having Covid and the lessons that she learned. While there were many moments of being in fear and anxiety and worry about what the future held for her, she implemented the practice of coming back to the present moment and accepted that she did not know what the future held for her with this Covid virus and she learned to be ok with it. We can...

Do you feel like you are perpetually stuck in the muck? Do you feel like a black cloud is always following you? Do you consistently resist life and find yourself trying to control outcomes? If you answered yes to any of these questions, take a listen as Kim and Tia talk about taking a different perspective on life’s challenges. There will always be challenges, disappointment, pain and “curve balls...

Do you find yourself looking outside of yourself to find peace and comfort? Do you wish and want others to make you feel better because you don’t know how to comfort yourself? Or, do you use food or some other substance or behavior to comfort yourself rather than soothing or comforting yourself? It is a skill that we must learn so that we can go inward and soothe and comfort ourselves. It is truly...

In this episode Kim and Tia share the process of going inward and deconstructing very old patterns. Very often many of us seek outside validation to feel that we are worthy and when we don’t receive that outside validation we can feel unworthy and unlovable. It is so important to learn how to give ourselves the validation that we are worthy just because of who we are and not what we do. The mere f...

In this episode Kim and Tia talk about the antidote when we feel that resistance to stepping into the arena. What can we do when we feel too fearful or too vulnerable to share our heart and our true selves. There are several tools or steps to this antidote and they are discussed in this episode. It must be stated that it is a process and that we need to have compassion for ourselves when we don’t...

At the start of season 2 Kim and Tia talk about the consequences of putting our masks back on or not fully removing them and playing roles. It can feel suffocating and it can prevent us from being alive and authentic. They do discuss that it can feel and be extremely difficult to be vulnerable and to show up fully authentic because we so often fear rejection and separation. However, when we choose...

What a year 2020 has been. Kim and Tia take a look back and reflect on all the growth and challenges that the year has brought them. As the quote below says, if we are making mistakes then we are trying new things and learning and growing. If we allow ourselves to see life events as opportunities to grow and learn we can have a perspective of abundance rather than lack and scarcity. When we allow...

In this episode Kim and Tia discuss the importance of embracing our valleys or in other words embracing our pain or discomfort. Life will always have pain because pain is inevitable but suffering is optional.  When we choose to suffer is when we create those Grand Canyons that then become increasingly difficult to climb out of. It can be difficult to recognize or to even accept that we may be...

Do you feel like life is a constant struggle? Do you feel like you are in a perpetual state of feeling triggered and reactive to life’s events and other people? Kim and Tia continue the conversation that they had a few episodes ago about how life is neutral and it is our histories, our beliefs and our thoughts that keeps us suffering. When we can learn how to walk through the valleys and reach the...

In the last episode Kim and Tia talked about being in the arena which means showing up and being vulnerable. In this episode they continue the conversation about being in the wilderness. They discuss the struggle of being 100 percent authentic because at times when we are authentic and show our true selves there is a risk of being rejected and like the quote says that belonging is so primal and so...

How comfortable are you with vulnerability? Do you find it hard to step into the arena and share your truest self with others or do you hide behind a mask for fear of being judged? Kim and Tia discuss what it is like for them to show up and share their truest selves. It can be so hard to show others your deepest fears or your truest feelings because we are so conditioned to push our feelings down...

Do you live with presence or do you continually find yourself worrying about the future? Are you able to show up and be yourself with people or do you feel that you have to wear a “mask” when you are around other people. This life as we know it can be gone in an instant. We never know if we have tomorrow so are you living this life to the fullest and showing up as your true self. Are you even bein...

So often in life we are attached to outcomes that we want and expect and when those outcomes don’t come to fruition, we can be left feeling angry, upset or stressed. When we just take action in life and do what feels right in the moment, we can live with more freedom and peace. When we live from a place of aligning with our authenticity, we have the opportunity to leave a positive impact on others...

In the previous episode, Kim and Tia discussed that when we believe the thoughts and stories we tell ourselves, we create suffering for ourselves. Essentially when there is an event that takes place we all attach a meaning to that event. We label the event as good or bad, rather than just saying that it just is. We attach a meaning to these events and then that meaning creates an emotion and that...

Are you allowing the thoughts and stories that you tell yourself to make you feel like you are being pummeled by an avalanche?  Are your fears, worries, anxieties and beliefs creating a tornado of feelings and behaviors within you? Is your well-being being affected by this tornado of thoughts, feelings and beliefs? If so, you are not alone. Many of us can get caught in judging EVERYTHING as g...

To sign up for our FREE Balancing Your Backpack Course go to: https://unlocking-authenticity.teachable.com/p/balancing-your-backpack In this episode Kim and Tia continue the conversation from the previous episode and discuss practical tools that one can use when you are aware that you are numbing your feelings. If you are unaware of what you even feel that is perfectly fine because you can begin t...

To sign up for our FREE Balancing Your Backpack Course go to: https://unlocking-authenticity.teachable.com/p/balancing-your-backpack Check out our other courses as well at https://unlocking-authenticity.teachable.com/courses Which way do you avoid your emotions? Do you eat, drink, smoke, over exercise, watch tv, shop etc..?  You might think that you are running from your feelings by ignoring them...

Episode 50!! Life does not have to be as difficult as we make it sometimes. Most times we are making our reality much more difficult than it needs to be because of the judgement and story that we attach to whatever is happening. We can literally take any event in our lives and look at it through the lens of abundance or lack. We can ask ourselves: “what can I learn from this situation and how or w...

Do you notice that your thoughts are going back and forth in your mind all day long like a ping pong match? Do you constantly judge everything as good or bad or right and wrong? When we do this all day long we can literally drive ourselves crazy. Things are not good or bad, life just is. When we can learn to live in the moment and accept it as it is without a commentary about the person, place or...

How often do you find yourself trying to get rid of or ignoring your fears and anxieties? How often do you notice that you are trying to control people, places and things because you can not be certain of the outcome? In this episode Kim and Tia talk about some tools and tips that you can use when you are having big feelings, and how you can embrace them and work with them instead of staying stuck...

When we get stuck in the “what ifs” in life, we often get stuck in a spiral of fear. Then we get caught on the thought train and worry that if this happens or that happens, or if I do this or I don’t do that and this worry just creates anxiety. When we can’t predict or control the future, our immediate response to this uncertainty is fear. When we are stuck in this place we often go into fixing an...

In the last episode Kim and Tia talked about giving ourselves permission to slow down and rest. In this episode they continue the conversation and talk about how important it is to listen to our bodies. Our bodies will tell us when to rest, when to move, what to eat and how much to eat etc.. if we just listen. The problem is that often we don’t listen to the body and we do everything from our mind...

During these busy and hectic times do you feel a constant flow of overwhelm? Are you constantly under the gun? Do you put your oxygen mask on before assisting others? Do you feel burned out all the time? How often do you feel completely ok with just taking some time (even if it is just a little while) to just unplug and unwind? We often feel so guilty when we are doing “nothing,” yet athletes know...

To sign up for our FREE Balancing Your Backpack Course go to: https://unlocking-authenticity.teachable.com/p/balancing-your-backpack Check out our other courses as well at https://unlocking-authenticity.teachable.com/courses When you find yourself drowning because life feels so overwhelming and you feel like you are just trying to do everything and do it perfectly and you are trying to manage and...