Make Your Damn Bed

It's true. I got the plague + boy it kicked my ass - but the surprising part was NOT the ass kicking. It was the shame. I felt so much shame. Why? I did everything "right" and it didn't matter. Notice the quotes. This shit is a nightmare - there's no moral highground (unless you're deliberating being irresponsible, of course) here as long as you're trying. The shame came from the fact that I didn'...

Social Interactions can be draining. Here's how to prepare: Take a friend-ventory. Know what friends you need more rest before seeing, or prefer in small groups. Note when you don't vibe with a venue or a group rather than an individual. Plan for recovery time, stretch breaks, bail out strategies, and other things you can do to parse out your experience with overwhelming stimulus. Sometimes, all w...

Sensory fatigue: When your brain feels overstimulated with sensory inputs such as noise, lights, visual stimulation, sounds, conversation, etc. We all experience sensory needs + I truly believe we’ve all experienced certain levels of sensory overstimulation in some capacity. Like with everything else in life, everyone of us beautiful humans is unique, which means our triggers are gonna be unique,...

stop trying so damned hard + it'll happen. confidence comes from making the choices from your most internally aware self. give the external world some time to catch up. DONATE IF YOU CAN: https://secure.actblue.com/donate/givetolocalfunds GO AD FREE: www.patreon.com/mydbpodcast SEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE...

"in coping with manipulation, it’s best to follow four basic principles: Know your rights and your limits; set clear, appropriate boundaries in a respectful and neutral way; recognize and avoid the other person’s efforts to escalate the conflict or muddy the issue; and always make sure to protect your own safety." RESOURCES: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/i-hear-you/201807/4-ways-deal-man...

Negging (derived from the verb neg, meaning "negative feedback") is an act of emotional manipulation whereby a person makes a deliberate backhanded compliment or otherwise flirtatious remark to another person to undermine their confidence and increase their need of the manipulator's approval. DONATE IF YOU CAN: https://secure.actblue.com/donate/givetolocalfunds GO AD FREE: www.patreon.com/mydbpodc...

Lovebombing: A common manipulation technique is love bombing: "Love bombing" refers to behavior patterns where, at the beginning of the relationship, a partner showers the other with over-the-top attention, gifts, affection, etc. See: Kanye West's truckload of roses gesture... https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/love-bombing : " Genuine affection is mutual and should unfold at a pace that is...

gaslighting: manipulating (someone) by psychological means into doubting their own sanity.  Maybe by: telling blatant lies, deny everything despite proof, make you question your reality, blackmail you, wear you down over time, gain your confidence + confuse you with infrequent rewards, project their shit onto you, try to align others against ya, make you feel or call you crazy or a liar. Noti...

trying to control and manage someone else's journey + struggle may feel like a way to show love, but it's really a way to take a piece of their experience away from them. struggle = potential to learn and grow. and unfortunately we can't grow without it. PLEASE DONATE IF YOU CAN: https://secure.actblue.com/donate/givetolocalfunds GO AD FREE: www.patreon.com/mydbpodcast SEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT:...

Don't be afraid to take a step back every once in a while to see if the relationship dynamics + roles you're playing are aligned with who you'd like to be and where you'd like to go. PLEASE DONATE IF YOU CAN: https://secure.actblue.com/donate/givetolocalfunds GO AD FREE: www.patreon.com/mydbpodcast SEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdam...

we hate overthinkin' until it pays off. make em pay off by learning to hone your bad habits (in order to properly serve you instead of bogging ya down) because you're valid for being afraid - fear is a signal shit needs to change - but don't get caught up in the emotional side of it, insteaed start making the changes it's gonna take to make a difference. Resource/inspiration: https://www.instagram...

PART TWO - please listen to yesterday's episode before beginning this one. You are responsible for  everything  that has happened to you in you’re life. You get robbed? Whether you hand your purse over, or run, or choose to do nothing. You are responsible for it. You may not be to  blame  for the robbery but you are burdened with the responsibilities of the repurcussions. That’...

My lessons from reading Mark Manson's Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck: Who you are is defined by  what you’re willing to struggle for. It’s not about  not  giving a fuck, it’s about  changing your perspective  to only give a fuck about the things that really matter, instead of all the other bullshit. We all have problems. It’s a human condition. It’s just about  creat...

“When we’re not hungry for justice it’s usually because we’re too full with privilege.”- Carlos A. Rodriguez I updated with the correct audio - apologies! Get involved with your community, communicate with passion + empathy, and remember you have more control than they'd like you to think. Start small, start scared, but just fucking start. Oh yeah, and vote! (but do your research: https://www.step...

The system may feel shaky, but that's a good thing. The majority of us, want to do the right thing even though the odds are stocked against that mindset. So, that alone, is pretty fricking inspiring to me. Here's some optimistic ranting from a person with high hopes for our country, for the first time in her life. PLEASE DONATE IF YOU CAN: https://secure.actblue.com/donate/givetolocalfunds GO AD F...

All aboard the special EXTENDED 500th episode extrava-gay-nza!!!! I am so proud to finally be in a place that I can both embrace and be proud of my sexuality! It only took 34 year, a few different zip codes, some incredible humans living their most authentic lives (proving we really can do life our own way, as long as we're not getting in the way of anyone else's) and I am so humbled and grateful...

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DELIRIUM HAS OFFICIALLY HIT SORRY FOR THE DELAY. I had a DAY... and figured we all needed some distractions cuz I spent 6 hours on ONE episode and it's not even close to being perfect so THIS was an essential lil distraction. Who knew I used to be a self-care-Dr. Seuss? https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/008-just-do-your-best-poem-3dc7fdc3aede Just do your best! It’s all you can do to control the...

I'm fired up (+ scared) you prolly are too, cuz only 17% of people agree with this bullshit apparently!? NOT TO MENTION I WAS ALREADY SO MAD AND WORKING ON A GUN SERIES FOR THE LOVE OF ALL THINGS GOOD WHAT ARE WE DOING HERE? PLEASE DONATE IF YOU CAN: https://secure.actblue.com/donate/givetolocalfunds GO AD FREE: www.patreon.com/mydbpodcast SEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica G...

HI you look GREAT today. Don't forget that shit. You are truly killin' it. GO AD FREE: www.patreon.com/mydbpodcast SEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.co...

just invested in the ideal lil shield for my mic + not only is the sound quality an improvement (and easier to keep consistent) but it's also SO CUTE + FUNCTIONAL and inspired me to do so much podcasting magic today. The only thing is, it made me realize how often I was buying the best gear to start new hobbies and then not wanting to ruin them by being bad at them... and you get the picture. So,...

If you're struggling to label or identify your natural skillsets, I've shared a list of common ones + some quick examples to help you along your journey. RESOURCE: https://www.highlandsco.com/visual-representation-natural-abilities/ GO AD FREE: www.patreon.com/mydbpodcast SEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON...

Who are you when you're not "trying"? We all have some natural abilities and talents and we all have natural weaknesses and traits we may need to improve. That said, we often can't even tell what our most natural tendencies are because they are second nature to us. The automaticity of it all makes it hard to notice, let alone focus on, but it can be so helpful to get to know what your skills + wea...

every time I read something about imposter syndrome, they're all like, "get more confident! limit your negative self talk! change your mindset" but for me, it's not that I am actually insecure - it's that I don't realize everyone else is, too. Next time you're feeling like a fraud, remember: Truck nuts was a 17 million dollar idea... that people fought over. Star Wars Trilogy was unplanned. Lucas...

The four main happiness* hormones are - Dopamine Oxytocin Serotonin Endorphins Lucky for us, there are some real great ways to boost those suckers that aren't just exercising + meditating (but those ARE great options) tune in for the suggesties! GO AD FREE: www.patreon.com/mydbpodcast SEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.co...