Make Your Damn Bed

when I think about the 5 love languages, I can't help but think about how restrictive they feel. I want them to be more flexible, More open to different energies + days + moments. But then again, the guy who put them on the map kinda sucks, too. So - there's that. There are some good things about them, in my opinion + I talk about those aspects today, too. WATCH THIS EPISODE ON VIDEO (+ OTHER CONT...

tough ones, vulnerable ones, ones that change the vibe - some questions are worth asking. especially if you want to be real with who you're with + where you're heading. @mydbpodcast on instagram for today's resources. (oh and sorry for today's sound quality - I recorded + upon checking my set up I didn't fully plug in the mic(!!!!) but tomorrow will be better, we hope!) SEE THIS EPISODE + OTHER CO...

friendly reminder not to fill a void just because a void exists. TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast SEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast   luh you. and don't forget to drink your damn water. Support this show http://supporter.aca...

depending on what we've been dealt - we are so used to some things - that they seem to be expectations in our lives at this point. if we're not careful - that can become white noise + we may not even notice it augmenting our sense of reality after a while. learning how to stand up for ourselves - in a way that both honors our values + diffuses the situation - is a difficult practice but one that c...

For better or for worse, we all have biases we need to recognize + address if we want to more deeply + authentically connect with the world around us. TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast SEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast   luh...

The excerpt* I shared by Sandra Wyllie: https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/take-inventory-your-life-sandra-wyllie *It's never too late to take stock of what you have and what you want, what you want to keep and what you want to let go. It's never too late to cut those strings that bind you, tie you up or confine you. It's really a healthy thing to do taking inventory of your life, rearranging it so yo...

regularly taking inventory can ensure you're heading in the right direction. I’ve recently been taking inventory on the things that bring be joy + the things that I don’t really feel have a long term function in my life. I like to use resets like this to objectively look at my space + take inventory of what is serving it. What is serving me. What can be put away carefully for a future me and what...

When we practice self-regulation, we get better at avoiding meeting chaos where it is. By stepping up, we show others the way to step up behind us, if they see that path as a worthy one. L.R. Knost’s said, “When little people are overwhelmed by big emotions, it’s our job to share our calm, not join their chaos.”   I don't think this just pertains to littles, I think it pertains to everyo...

i thiiiiink that self control refers to our ability to restrain yourself or consciously act upon impulses as opposed to self regulation referring to our ability to monitor and adjust accordingly. self regulation is more flexible + accommodating + broad; self control is more impulsive + narrowly focused. but who the hell knows? resources: https://www.verywellhealth.com/self-regulation-5225245 https...

Check in with your motivation - is it more for the content or the creation ? is it more for the process or the product ? because you want to produce a thing or is it because you enjoy producing a thing? Reinforcing our intrinsic motivation vs. our need for external validation can increase productivity (and more importantly, the enjoyment of our productivity) in the process. TUNE IN ON PATREON: www...

if you have the privilege to provide yourself with a buffer day? do it. if you can only afford to tidy little bits at a time, instead of addressing the whole damned thing? do it. do what you need to function + thrive. don't worry if it's not the system you're used to or the one you prefer. just do what you can, when you can + don't stress too much about the rest. TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.co...

there is a power in leaning into your ideas, real hard, right away. Quit sleeping on your ideas + start trusting yourself to act on them right away, before they vanish. We spend a lot of time waiting - waiting for new opportunities, ideas, chances. So instead of waiting, act. Lean in. And trust you'll succeed, or learn a valuable lesson in the attempt.   TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MY...

establishing a routine that involves certain "closing duties" can give you a sense of peace before bed - which can help you feel more prepared for the morning, thus improving your day to day life. do you have any closing duties you do naturally, now? what are they? are there any you can intentionally implement to improve your relationship with your space? TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpo...

TW: there is mention of emotional abuse throughout this episode. other people who aim to garner some semblance of control over you may use different tactics to skew your sense of self (and reality) which can make you more and more dependent on the person perpetrating such tactics. today we discuss red flags for help when identifying some of these tactics + common ways they can be overlooked. The a...

TW: there is mention of emotional abuse throughout this episode. the main goal of manipulation is a sense of CONTROL. Make sure you're comfortable enough in your own skin (and head) to make your own decisions. Common tactics to make you doubt yourself include but is not limited to: projection, dismissing, minimizing, triangulation, gaslighting, general control, guilt tripping, generalizations, lov...

TW: there is mention of emotional abuse throughout this episode. “The first sign to look out for is if you feel confused. You will rarely–if ever–be confused by someone who has nothing but pure, good, loving intentions with you. The second is if you feel hesitant or fearful to either address your confusion or speak your feelings openly. If you can’t ask a question or express your needs without it...

sometimes we just need to relocate for a few + regroup so we can really appreciate the reasons we left in the first place.   TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast SEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast   luh you. and don't forget...

The more stuff I have, the less access I feel I have to any of it - thus feeling like I actually have less stuff. So recently, I have prioritized starting fresh + getting rid of shit I don't have the full intention of using.     TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast SEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.c...

dealing with others who engage in passive aggressive behavior can be frustrating and cause more conflict in the long run, if we're not tactful with how we approach the situation. today, I discuss ways to increase tact + improve your approach towards those who are more passive aggressive in their interactions with you.   TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast SEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTE...

When I was younger and a chronic people pleaser, I found myself doing anything to avoid confrontation. This meant, I spent a lot of my time feeling unheard + unseen, so in an effort to feel heard without "stirring the pot" I ended up becoming more and more passive aggressive which caused more + more conflict. Here's how I started to rectify it.   TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcas...

today I cover the concept of: Negging + emotional blackmail so we can know when we're falling victim (or party) to them. TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast SEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast   luh you. and don't forget to drink...

a lot of commonly used manipulation tactics are discussed without clarification. today I wanna chat about the ones we hear about the most: gaslighting + guilt-tripping, etc. TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast SEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/...

felt wholesome and grateful and cheesy AF today, but whateeeeever I AM NOT CRYING, YOU ARE CRYING. I lied, it's me. I am crying. You mean more to me than words can express. THANK YOU. TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast SEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.inst...

by saving the MENTAL work until you get to the PHYSICAL work, you'll feel better, do better, and think better. don't add a compounding stress cycle by ignoring an urgent task AND fearing it. Simply address it, as is, and move forward with the lessons you've learned in the process. TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast SEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY...

I've been catching myself "productively procrastinating" by prioritizing the issues/problems/concerns of those around me in order to actively avoid my own without a ton of guilt + boy oh boy, is that a good way to lose energy + motivation to take care of your own shit. TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast SEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM M...