Make Your Damn Bed

The act of returning home after spending a decade 1,100 miles away is a daunting one. There are direct contradictions to the way I feel at nearly every turn. Learning to bend with them has been a process but I am starting to realize, that's the whole damn point. The. Ashfiles Original Video: https://www.tiktok.com/@the.ashfiles/video/7396990066129784069 The Cut Advice Column: https://www.thecut.co...

There’s something freeing about realizing it’s time to let go.  Life’s cycles sometimes match with my own, and things feel serendipitous and “meant to be” but more often than not, life cycles move faster than my own + I’m forced to play catch up on changes and news that I wasn’t just unprepared for, but in denial about. But things do happen. Life surprises you. And no matter how much you...

Absurdism claims that existence, as a whole, is absurd and although objective meaning does not exist, it doesn't mean we can't find + create our own. We're allowed to change our minds + reflect at any time, because the only meaning that matters, is the meaning we decide matters. “The only way to deal with an unfree world is to become so absolutely free that your very existence is an act of rebelli...

personal rant about my current state. moving has made me realize how stagnant I really was. DONATE: www.pcrf.net Get Involved: Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE...

People are in denial, because admitting we may need to become a part of the change is scary. Resistance is a common response to accountability. People will jump through mental hurdles to avoid admitting there may be a new physical one. That said, knowing better and doing better are two very different beasts. RESOURCES: https://www.psychologicalscience.org/observer/debunking-misinformation   h...

conspiracies are all fun and games until they scapegoat entire groups of humans and cause real world harm. today, we're digging into the reality of conspiracy theories + what makes someone take a conspiracy too far. RESOURCES: https://www.gavi.org/vaccineswork/conspiracy-theories-are-dangerous-even-if-very-few-people-believe-them   https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/conspiracy%20theor...

so, here are some ways to take it a little less seriously. RESOURCE: https://medium.com/@lukaboenisch/dont-take-life-so-seriously-it-doesn-t-take-you-seriously-either-613fb1bef264 https://medium.com/@valuable_mindaro_jellyfish_659/14-things-that-make-games-fun-to-apply-to-gamify-life-06557a1bd722 DONATE: www.pcrf.net Get Involved: Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links GET AN OCCASIONAL PERS...

Our microbiome has a direct impact on our mental health, and the science is growing to support this. The more diverse our diet + microbiome, the healthier we are as we age. RESOURCE: https://www.brainfacts.org/thinking-sensing-and-behaving/diet-and-lifestyle/2024/the-growing-link-between-microbes-mood-and-mental-health-062724 DONATE: www.pcrf.net Get Involved: Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets...

Today we're talking about Vivien Burr's book: Social Constructionism . The key ideas are: language impacts our reality, our history + culture + social hierarchy impacts our language, and we should be critical of everything we consider "true" because of this socialization. We put everything in a box to better understand it, but sometimes it can be helpful to throw that box away + consider things ou...

Hope is one of the more valuable practices, but I often forget it's a practice + kinda just wait for it to hit, instead. Today we're discussing some thoughts about hope before diving into some actionable items on how to create + nurture more of it in your life. RESOURCES: https://news.asu.edu/20210615-solutions-science-hope-more-wishful-thinking https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/making-hope-...

decided on a compilation of past nuggets that never made it to the IG feed (or did they???) but came from our magical backlog of over 1100 episodes. hope you enjoy this as much as I did! Familiar will typically always be more comfortable than the unfamiliar. Even if that familiar is fairly unhealthy. Many people are miserable and comfortable. Many people can find comfort in sadness. There is no sh...

"I alone cannot do much. I am powerless as an “individual” in isolation. There is no effective organizing I can do alone. The most I can do is unlearn, seek community, radicalize enough to know in my soul that it is on US to struggle together & be open to an never-ending uncomfortable but liberating evolution of my political beliefs & ideas. The rest of the answers will gradually come to u...

Sometimes I feel guilty about seeking happiness when I consider the state of the world. Apparently, this is a fairly common thing for people who are: lonely, anxious, depressed, perfectionist, experienced childhood trauma, etc. I hit quite a few of those checkboxes so I feel especially attacked. As a way to improve the maladaptive response, I am focusing on gratitude and exposure therapy. Addressi...

Today's episode is a preview of an hour long extended episode I have available on Patreon. I have been wanting to talk about Project 2025 since I heard about it, but to say it's dense would be an understatement. This is my sincere attempt to make it more digestible.   According to Wikipedia : Project 2025 , also known as the 2025 Presidential Transition Project , is a proposed plan publi...

a lot of us struggle with identifying plants + relating to them, despite how important they are to sustaining us. in 2016 a study found that children were able to identify 1000 corporate logos and less than 10 native plants + animals. it's our job to become intentional about our attention to plants. RESOURCE: https://lithub.com/seeing-green-why-we-should-all-be-paying-attention-to-plants/ https://...

If you become intentional about viewing your experience as a physical process, it can help you control how you perceive time. You can physically slow time or speed it up, depending on how you approach the mental process within each experience. RESOURCES: https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2021/05/210518205451.htm   https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2024/07/240718205236.htm   https...

Relationships are difficult because we all have cognitive biases we're dealing with on a constant basis. It's important to implement personal and relational boundaries so we can ensure we're approaching our situations with thoughtfulness + clarity. There are some tips to make that easier, but it takes practice to find the right balance for you and yours. RESOURCES: https://www.psychologytoday.com/...

Resource: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/intuition https://lithub.com/gut-feelings-how-does-intuition-work-anyway/ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/social-instincts/202407/3-ways-to-harness-your-intuition-to-make-flawless-decisions DONATE: www.pcrf.net Get Involved: Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.c...

Highly sensitive children's deep processing makes them more likely to have a pessimistic outlook. They keenly analyze everything, which can take them to a dark place, wondering and worrying, "What if...?" Helping them reconsider their perspective - Claire Lerner LCSW-C RESOURCE: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/zero-to-six/202407/how-to-support-children-who-have-a-pessimistic-outlook AND ht...

Psychology has historically focused its research on adverse childhood experiences. There is growing research on benevolent childhood experiences (BCEs). BCEs are correlated with flourishing and the light triad. A positive childhood environment influences the development of human flourishing and personality. - Scott Barry Kaufman RESOURCE: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/beautiful-minds/202...

"A person's past can direct what they think, what they feel, how they behave, and how they interact. The influence of one's past self can often be unhealthy for one's present self. Empathy, embracing humanity, forgiveness, and acceptance can help people make peace with their past selves. Taking ownership, making amends, being the best version of ourselves, and living our best life are our future."...

today we revisit an older episode that felt really relevant about reframing + escaping survival mode. DONATE: www.pcrf.net Get Involved: Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast OR WATCH...

Tides change every day, and so can you. It’s never too late to change your scenery, to change your routine, to change your vibe, or change your perspective. You have some control, and even when you feel like you’ve lost it, I promise you, it’s within your grasp when you’re ready to pick up the reigns again. I wrote a “healing handbook” a long time ago, and never finished it, but I wrote this as th...

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for me, it starts with getting more comfortable with doing rather than getting it done. i'm a creative and imaginative person, so if i were to plan for every potential experience, i would never stop planning. delegating tasks to myself like a manager has helped me put in perspective how much extra rumination and over-planning i have put on myself, and it's also helped me stop the cycle of over-thi...