Make Your Damn Bed

Today I'm offering some relationship advice from people who have been in relationships for nearly 4 decades!!! The source: https://www.upworthy.com/marriage-advice Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66 SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Rel...

Some people are bad at reading social cues, and they'll hold you hostage in a conversation. Today we talk about how to deal with those people. The Source: https://www.upworthy.com/people-who-talk-too-much Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66 SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed...

Research indicates that a variety of different social behaviors help prevent loneliness and foster a sense of community and belonging. 1. Have a neighborhood emergency contact 2. Belong to a community of identity 3. Join an activity-based community 4. Connect with a friend or family member at least twice a week 5. Finding your third place in the community 6. Volunteering in the community The Sourc...

Research indicates that a variety of different social behaviors help prevent loneliness and foster a sense of community and belonging. 1. Have a neighborhood emergency contact 2. Belong to a community of identity Tomorrow we cover the next four pieces to the puzzle: 3. Join an activity-based community 4. Connect with a friend or family member at least twice a week 5. Finding your third place in th...

Research from the HeartMath Institute  has shown that our bodies pick up on the electromagnetic field of information that radiates from another’s heart. READ THE ARTICLE: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_find_support_in_difficult_times Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66 SUPPORT Julie (a...

Today is the final day of the how to deal with "bad faith actors" series. I share an article from "Honor the Earth" about how to respond to fascism in real life. https://www.honorearth.org/news/what-is-fascism-and-how-can-we-fight-it The Alt Right Playbook on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJA_jUddXvY7v0VkYRbANnTnzkA_HMFtQ Other Sources: "Troll Wars": https://www.psychologytoday.c...

Bad Faith Actors (or BFA's) don't give a fuck about the argument itself, they're playing a very different game altogether, and they're very skilled at baiting people into engaging with them in bad faith. The Alt Right Playbook on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJA_jUddXvY7v0VkYRbANnTnzkA_HMFtQ Other Sources: "Troll Wars": https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/culture-shrink/2014...

OKAY WE SHOULDN’T ARGUE WITH BFAS, WHAT SHOULD WE DO? We should not bury our head in the sand about these beliefs, but amplifying problematic, anti-social ideas is does not help. We can’t win in debates but we can't do nothing. And for me, that starts by understanding the tolerance paradox. Read Popper's Original Work (for free): https://archive.org/details/in.ernet.dli.2015.59272/page/n211/mode/2...

Bad Faith Actors (or BFA's) don't give a fuck about the argument itself, they're playing a very different game altogether. PROBLEM #1: The point is: You cannot win because the game is rigged and the points don’t matter. PROBLEM #2: You are validating and platforming the position of the agitator, even if you “win” because (see problem #1). Other Sources: "Troll Wars": https://www.psychologytoday.co...

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fascists don't give a shit about facts, logic, or reality. They only care about framing their narrative as legitimate, and as soon as you engage with them, you lose. "A lie can travel half way around the world before the truth can even get its boots on." Sartre's Words: https://redsails.org/sartre-reason-falsely/ Other Sources: "Troll Wars": https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/culture-shrink/2...

BFA's are hell bent on preserving their identity, and they'd rather avoid reality completely than address the contradictions in theirs. Trolls don't care about reality at all, as long as they can engage you at all? They win. And it bears repeating: You cannot reason with the unreasonable.  The Sources: "Fascism is not an idea to be debated but a set of actions to fight": https://lithub.com/fa...

Bad Faith Actors - meaning going into interactions with either 1. the intention to deceive or 2. A belief and conviction and faith so profound that they become unable to confront facts or logic or reality that contradicts that belief in any way.  The Sources: "Fascism is not an idea to be debated but a set of actions to fight": https://lithub.com/fascism-is-not-an-idea-to-be-debated-its-a-set...

"He had sown chaos between me and my friend and he truly didn’t give a fuck. In fact, he looked like he was enjoying it. He was manipulating me and I was watching it happen but unaware of how to make it stop. I couldn’t let a man who didn’t deny being a nazi get away with this, but I truly had no idea how to stop him." Later I learned, defusing and mediating and compromising ONLY works w...

According to Meg-John Barker at rewriting the rules, "My own way of dealing with meaninglessness in life, has also been to embrace it as an inevitable part of life which will happen with some regularity. There will be times – perhaps quite frequently – when we feel that our projects are pointless in the grand scheme of things, or when the world feels an overwhelming and cold place to live in, or w...

Because humanity has been here a while, and books exist where people write down what they do to deal with hard shit, there are plenty of first hand accounts of people not just surviving but thriving after dealing with the impossible. Survival is context based and has no rules or generalizations that would be fair, so I’ll skip that - but beyond surviving, if you want to feel like you’re actually f...

Maybe you don't need more things, you just need a thing. What happens when the shit that surrounds us starts to feel like it’s weighing us down rather than free us? When it feels like more shit to deal with, rather than tools and resources, or sources of joy.  Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66 SUPPORT Julie (an...

The ABCDE coaching model has five stages: Activating event or situation, Beliefs, Consequences, Disputation of the beliefs and Effective new approach to dealing with the problem. It's a coaching model that can help challenge your more pessimistic beliefs and actually improve how you respond to life. The Source: https://worldofwork.io/2019/06/abcde-coaching-model/ A lil Worksheet: https://www.dau.e...

Some of us are predisposed to less optimistic than others. Fortunately, there are ways we can LEARN to be more optimistic with time and practice. The source: https://positivepsychology.com/learned-optimism/ Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66 SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-be...

You weren't absent, you were on high alert. Survival mode means. you can't make memories. Let's talk about ways to get out of survival mode, and why it's so important to do so with intention, regularly. @TheCafeScrawls Post on Threads: https://www.threads.com/@thecafescrawls/post/DMBSvjtzCsq Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44...

Cringe is the ultimate vibe killer. Plus, when I fear being judged that's me writing your story for you, and that's not fair for either of you. Today we talk about the fear of being perceived and how I'm working around it. THE INSPIRATION VIDEO: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8k8BVdo/ Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66 S...

Why have some gifts of nature remained free? By: Alyssa Battistoni THE RESOURCE: The Value of Nature: https://www.dissentmagazine.org/article/the-value-of-nature/ Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66 SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relie...

Why have some gifts of nature remained free? By: Alyssa Battistoni THE RESOURCE: The Value of Nature: https://www.dissentmagazine.org/article/the-value-of-nature/ Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66 SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relie...

NOTE: This is an old episode that never got published!!!! I decided to release it today before we move on to new topics. Science confirms that facebook is a skinner box and we are just rats but we can be more conscious with our most valuable asset ( our attention ) and life will improve. we just have to be conscious we're a part of the experiment. RESOURCE : https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/why-soci...

Note: This is a revisitation of a past episode from 2023. I used uptime.app to check out the brief spark notes version of "Antisocial Media: Siva Vaidhyanathan's How Facebook Disconnects Us and Undermines Democracy" (available here: https://global.oup.com/academic/product/antisocial-media-9780190841164?cc=us&lang=en& ) and he said: "Facebook is a modern day Skinner Box" which sent me down...