Make It Make Sense by Danielle

When therapy isn't the answer to your problems. This week’s episode is inspired by why I refused therapy as a ‘troubled’ teen and working through childhood wounds and addiction. My eating disorder began at just 9 years old, and so much of my parents’ solution to this was ‘send her away’ or use therapy as a punishment. Now, at 27, I’m in recovery for real this time, and am learning how to recov...

How to break out of the narrative in your head. We follow a narrative when it feels like the ‘safer’ option of what’s acceptable, but in doing that, we’re not aligned with our own opinions and morals. How to identify when you are conforming yourself, and how to trust your gut moving forward. Key Points: We only regret the lessons we haven’t yet learned from Learn how to be a person you like and ca...

Patterns of misogyny, upheld in a household, structure the identity of the daughter. Insights on narcissism being one of the effects in upholding misogynistic norms. A lot of what we discuss in therapy is rooted in childhood, and can be a reflection of what we still haven’t moved past.  Key Points: Give compassion for your younger self and how you survived. Learn why ‘you are the way you are’ by l...

My tips on overcoming social anxiety, and leaning away from people pleasing antics. The solution to 'fitting in' is to accept who you are, and surrounding yourself with people who support that. Key Points: Need for validation in acceptance stems from a childhood trauma. Being a stable, confident person makes you likable. ✅ FOLLOW ME HERE: Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lc.danielle?is_fro...

How to keep going when life feels hard. Insights on what to do when you feel stuck, unmotivated, and lost. Balancing work and personal life feels like a hamster wheel of responsibilities, and when we finally get off we’re tired, dizzy, and have gotten nowhere. How to find hope and pull from strength in instilling hope within yourself. Key Points: The power of choice; there are always options even...

Letting go of control, tuning into your emotions, & embracing change. How the need for control is driving us to insanity. It goes hand-in-hand with perfectionism by holding yourself to an unsustainable standard that is overall damaging to your mental health. The need for control externally stems from lack of control internally (happiness, love, etc.). Key points: Combatting hyper independence...

What may seem as someone who knows how to 'do it all' is actually a sign of how childhood trauma shows up in our adult lives. Hyper independence is when you soley rely on yourself on accomplishing anything: work, emotions, love, etc. Any form of task or obstacle, you view as your obligation, and failure to do so is a direct reflection of your value. How to know if you're struggling wit...

Congratulations, you graduated! What the F*CK are you gonna do next? We’ve all hit that wall in life, where you’re feeling stuck or unsure about ‘what’s next’ and the pressure to succeed. What college DIDN’T teach us is how to live life for yourself. Living with your wants, needs, and leaning into your dreams.  Key Points: Finding motivation and passion outside a 9-5 Create your own sense of struc...

Starting to feel better about yourself and your life starts with a change of perspective, but how do you do that? I base my life coaching sessions off these 6 steps that helped me gain a sense of hope for happiness in life again.  This episode breaks down the 6 key points that have helped me through addiction, burnout, and keeping on track to recovery.  Key Points: It’s okay to be selfish and take...

The pressure to be perfect surrounds us, and it often feels inescapable that we are constantly doing the ‘not enough’.  But, wanna know a secret? It’s all a ploy.  I spent 6 years in marketing, 10 in modeling, and the depth of the industry is surface level and all about profiting off others’ insecurities. Beauty is objective, and it’s time to gain some understanding o what that truly means.  Key P...

While I'm constantly learning how to navigate my addiction and struggles with body dysmorphia, a lot of what I learned I find 'wrong' about myself is rooted in someone else's perception of me. How narcissistic/ emotionally immature families impact their child's eating habits and self image, and how to move forward as an adult. Key Points: ✅ FOLLOW ME HERE: Tiktok: https://www....

In this recent Golden Globes ceremony, another small minded comedian decided to speak his thoughts on the movie that has created a movement for female empowerment. From a summer of pink and embracing Barbie land, this movie made a pivotal move for history and culture. I find it interesting to see how the perception of this movie sets the divide in who is embracing equality, and those who remain st...

Knowing what kind of partner you deserve starts with knowing the kind of partner you are, and they get to meet. In this week’s episode, I talk about the importance of self love in dating, and what it means to date like a baddie. For the girlies who are tired of being hurt by shallow boys, situationships, etcThis episode focuses on rebuilding yourself and how to move forward in the dating game. Lov...

How to take action in re-directing your life for the better. What to do when life’s obstacles, our own self limiting beliefs, and the weight of the world feels like it’s crashing in- as if all the signs are telling you to STOP- how do you persevere?  Creating a new life plan that strays off the beaten path can be scary because there is no set way to do it; there’s no guidebook like the one we foll...

EP. 31 HOW TO NOT LET YOUR 9-5 SUCK THE LIFE OUT OF YOU Working your Big Girl job can be extremely rewarding, or… not, but it’s important to not lose sight of yourself and waste your potential working for somebody else. In this week’s episode, I share my insights on working a 9-5 job while balancing yourself and your personal goals.  Despite your relationship with your employer, you’re just a payc...

What to do when you lose someone you love and moving forward with the future. Thinking about the permanence in death seems terrifying, yet it’s inevitable to affect us all at some point in our lives. How to make losing a loved one less painful to you and how to adjust to this change. A discussion on grief and getting vulnerable on my experiences with death, guardian angels, and being a hyper-indep...

So, you did it, you got the job with your degree, but now you’re back to square one except older, more exhausted, and less patient.  What may feel like the start of your downfall can actually be a blessing in disguise. Can make you feel powerless and wonder ‘what did I do wrong?” The answer is, you did nothing wrong. A job is a job, and you are just a paycheck to your employer. What college didn’t...

Building your confidence is a process that starts in learning how to take care of yourself. Learning to meet your own needs, emotional and physical,  and becoming your own advocate is one of the most powerful things you can learn. Feeling ‘stuck’ or angry can be a sign of unprocessed emotions. When tensions our high, we react quickly because inside, we’re all just hurting kids.  Becoming a more co...

PART 2 OF THE BRITNEY B*TCH SERIES My analysis and reaction to Britney Spears’ memoir, The Woman In Me . In the second part Danielle breaks down the boy drama in Britney’s life. Dating as a woman in a misogynistic world is hard enough, let alone being one of the most iconic women in the world. Before her fame, Spears is a daughter to a narcissistic, abusive father, and like other girls, we date me...

Thank you for all the support on this series! The finale in the three-part series analysis of Britney Spears’ memoir, The Woman In Me , ending off with how the media made her out to be crazy, and then the world blamed her for it. Patterns in Britney’s childhood in growing up in a narcissistic abusive household are being repeated in her adult years, and her memoir mentions when these wounds resurfa...

Britney’s memoir, The Woman In Me , heart-fully addresses the rumors and secrets she kept under wraps for DECADES (even pre-conservatorship). In her words, we hear the way one of the most iconic pop stars in history was being abused right in front of us, and the pain she’s hidden behind her songs is unveiled.  In Part 1, of this series, Danielle will be discussing the mental abuse and manipulation...

**TW: This episode contains information regarding eating disorder and mentions of addiction. The darkside of mental health. Why do we address eating disorder victims and addicts differently when both are substance addictions. Changing the tone of the way society views eating disorders to gain a better understanding on why they happen, persist, and steps to recovery. I share my insights on my 17 ye...

How to embrace change and navigate uncertainty. Our mindset on reality can limit us to what we think is possible. I share my insights on moving away from your hometown and loved ones, knowing when to quit, and how to trust yourself moving forward. This episode is brought to you LIVE from Santa Monica Blvd because when the inspiration hits, you don’t fight it. Apologies for audio and/or driving pro...

We know dating in 2023 is more painful than a lobotomy, and it's because the bar is on the floor. The male gaze is what limits society to these misogynistic beliefs, and while we all may be guilty of having a 'pick me' phase, all we can do is learn and do better. Girlies, it's time you know your worth, and understand why you don't owe these guys anything! Key Points: Having a d...

If you haven’t learned for yourself yet, you’re enough. This week’s episode dives into why we feel so not enough when it comes to “doing the right thing” in life. There’s more to life (and emotions) than this black and white idea of thinking, so what can we do when we feel better about ourselves? Rewire your perspective on yourself and your life. Key Points:  Changing your perspective on emotions....