Luke Adler Healing Podcast

Is people-pleasing or being a "nice guy" sabotaging your relationships? In this episode of the Luke Adler Healing Podcast, Luke and Ryan Ginn dive deep into the pleaser archetype . They explore how this common pattern, often rooted in emotionally distant childhoods, can wreak havoc on your adult connections. You'll learn why constantly prioritizing others' needs leaves you drained and disconnected...

Struggling to connect with your partner? Feeling stuck in a cycle of fixing and being fixed? This episode dives deep into the transformative power of vulnerability in relationships, especially for men. You'll hear expert healer Ryan Ginn and Luke Adler explore why one-sided "fixing" destroys intimacy and how embracing vulnerability can unlock a whole new level of connection and healing with your p...

Jason Lange and I explore shifting from the habit of using masturbation and ejaculation as a primary tool for self-regulation and emotional release to the practice of checking in with a group. We examine how ejaculation is not just a release of sexual energy but also a release of emotions. Checking in, on the other hand, involves the process of turning towards a men's group and bringing forth one'...

This podcast delves into the resistance to feeling and the tendency to rely on understanding and control as a means of avoiding emotional experiences. Luke and Jason Lange emphasize the importance of connecting with the direct experience of the body and embracing emotions as integral to deepening personal growth. They highlight the role of fear in keeping individuals stuck in their heads and offer...

In this podcast episode, Luke Adler and Shana James delve into the topic of relationships and how vulnerability and healing can build intimacy and connection. They share personal experiences and explore the challenges of staying present in moments of conflict. The conversation highlights the importance of acknowledging and apologizing for past hurts, while also creating a safe space for open commu...

 My friend Claudia Ponton and I team up to delve into the topic of empathy and its importance in deep, committed relationships. We discuss the challenges of finding empathy in moments of conflict and the need for a deep apology to foster connection. I share a personal experience in my marriage where I had to confront my defensiveness and lack of empathy towards my wife's needs. I explain the...

Chinese medicine goes beyond just fixing physical ailments – it offers a blueprint for living a meaningful and empowered life. In this captivating episode, Dr Yvonne Farrell and I explore the difference between agenda and intent in the context of Chinese medicine and highlight the importance of empowering patients to take responsibility for their own health. We discuss the limitations of a f...

Jason Lange and I explore the deep sense of hurt that many men experience, particularly in our current polarizing and disconnected society. We emphasize the importance of shadow work, confronting our vulnerabilities, and diving deep into our feelings to find healing and connection. We challenge the notion that men should hide their pain or disconnect from their emotions, and instead, advocate for...

This is a 4 minute micro episode from a planning conversation Dr Yvonne Farrell and I recently had regarding our upcoming Heart of the Eight Extraordinary Vessels Training at Breitenbush Hotspring March 28th - April 1st. We talking logistical, when Yvonne started dropping clinical pearls. I had to hit record. She talks about the difference between intent and agenda in various healing practices. Th...

In this podcast episode, I speak with Dr. Robin Hertz Ph. D, Clinical Psychologist. We delve into the concept of holding space and its profound impact on healing and group dynamics. We emphasize the importance of holding space for oneself first, recognizing one's own emotions and presence. We cover the pitfalls of minimizing emotions and offer insights on embracing intensity and allowing emotions...

Jason Lange and I delve into the transformative power of fighting for love and connection in relationships. We highlight the importance of bringing shadow work into the realm of relationships to prevent the dulling of vital energy and the projection of unresolved pain and wounds onto our partners. We share our personal experiences as men in long-term relationships, discussing how ourwork in the He...

This podcast episode explores the journey of love and connection between Luke and his wife Emily, as they navigate the challenges of marriage and parenthood. They share their experiences of disconnect and the impact it had on their relationship. They open up about their vulnerabilities, frustrations, and the growing resentment they felt.  However, through a breakthrough, they discovered the p...

In this episode, Jason and Luke delve into the tendency among men to be excessively hard on themselves. They explore the roots and consequences of this self-critical mindset and discuss strategies for transforming it. Luke shares a personal example of working with a man who constantly berated himself despite his numerous accomplishments. They highlight how the inner critic hampers vitality and wel...

My Teaching partner Jason Lange and I delve into the experience of stagnation, feeling stuck, and waking up with a sense of dullness. We highlight the link between emotional stagnation and the hopelessness, depression, and numbness experienced by many men. Stagnation is explored from the perspective of Chinese medicine, where it is connected to physical processes such as inflammation and fibrosis....

Author, educator and clinician, Dr Yvonne Farrell and I discuss our upcoming continuing education training, the Heart of the Eight Extraordinary Vessels. In this podcast we outline a few of our intentions for the course.  We emphasize the need to embody these vessels in order to have a deep impact clinically and personally. We also get into the role of community in healing and the importance...

Once again my teaching partner Jason Lange and I dive into a nuanced and sometimes confused distinction, Enlightenment and Intimacy. For decades I chased the Big E - enlightenment. At some point, I realized there was an entire swath of the path I had given little credence to, the path of Intimacy.  I never gave emotion the credit it deserved. I poo pooed it as a distraction below the transcen...

Jason Lange and I dive in to the phenomenon of cracking open.  What are the mechanics of a deep opening? Why is it useful on the healing journey? The body/mind is one. A deep opening includes both aspects of our being. For our perpective to change once and for all. Our deepest longing for a freer life must emerge. Our physiology becomes more vital as we align with our heart of hearts.  ...

I'm back with my brother and leader in the men's work world Mike Terborg, putting the finishing touches on our conversation of what's required to lead an effective shdow work group for men or women. This conversation is useful if you're thinking about leading a group for the first time or if your a seasoned facilitator. Enjoy!

My teaching partner and co-facilitator of the Heart of Shadow Men's Progam, Jason Lange and I, dive into sex and sexuality, particularly focused on heterosexual men, but relatable to everyone on the gender spectrum and sexual orientation.  We explore finding the living, vitalizing edge around sexual energy. What are the red flags of allowing this energy to take ahold of our nervous sytems? Wh...

One of my dearest friends, college roommate, the best man at my wedding, Mike Terborg and I discuss how to create and lead a men's group. Mike is a husband, father of three beautiful children, a child educater and leader of men's work.  I think you'll enjoy Mike's ability to discern subtle nuances about the subject of leading deep work. I love talking with Mike. His intution and intellect alw...

Arjuna Perkins and I grew in in ashram culture and discuss the struggles of integrating our spirtual lives into the world as younger men. We both share our expereinces of leading mens work and the deep desire men and women have for authentic relationships

In this episode co facilitator and teaching partner for The Heart of Shadow program, Jason Lange and I share our recent Shadow Work journey from our men's group intensive, now 6 years strong. Jason and I share our own experiences and reflect on witnessing and facilitating each others work. It's a raw and powerful account of the work. Enjoy.

What does it take to get life working in every domain at an efficient and sustainable level. From health to finances, relationship, spirituality to purpose and legacy. I get into the practices and support structures needed to live a life that sings with beauty, passion and creativity.

Hear my opening talk from this past weekends Roaring Heart Meditation Retreat. I talk about the lifeline of a steady meditation practice in a world that is engineered to captivate your attention, but never truly fufill you. 

When conflict persists, how do you hold a bigger picture that allows you to stay with the process without bypassing your needs.  Does the love and connection at hand have bigger implications not just for me but a larger community if I remain entrenched or dug into my position with regards to the conflict. Can I stay with the process of trust building, slow as it may be, to hold the integrity...