Love, Sex & Freedom Podcast

How do we live and love life to the fullest?  And how do we do it NOW?  It involves getting out of your own way, to stop listening to the self-limiting beliefs, the constant mind-chatter and get out of your own way!  It involves emptying out and getting in touch with the deeper parts of ourselves that are beneath the mind's constant opinions.  What does our heart say? What does our body say? ...

To be in your true power is to live authentically as yourself in every moment – shedding the masks, facing your fears and freeing yourself from past conditioning. How is this achieved? Through discovering and loving your shadows – the parts of yourself you beat-up on, suppress, avoid and judge – that remain lurking in your unconscious and cause continual suffering in life.  Working with unconsciou...

Chantelle Raven explores the collective shadow that we all embody to some degree (until we become conscious of it!). We discuss the Victim, Addict, Self-Sabotage, and the Know It All. These energies come to impact and run our lives in destructive ways until we become lovingly conscious of them — think of Dr Jeckel and Mr Hyde: what we try to repress comes out. To become powerful is to know thyself...

True power is self-awareness—the ability to take responsibility for our lives. As long as we make other people or circumstances around us responsible for how we feel and act, we will give our power away. Own whatever you’re feeling, whether it’s ‘good’ or ‘bad’. Make these energies conscious so that we’re not showing one face and have something else leaking out beneath the surface. This episode ex...

The shadow consists of everything that we repress as a result of our conditioning, what we’re told is ‘not okay’. What was encouraged in the child is over-exaggerated in adulthood. Whatever is discouraged is pushed into the shadow. The unconscious shadow can do damage in all sorts of ways in relationship, career, self-worth, and mental health. What was encouraged in your childhood? What was off li...

In Tantra, finding your purpose in the world is about finding what turns you on. What’s your passion? Live your truth so there’s no separation between who you are and how you work. We’re told that to feel safe, we need the usual things like a 9-5 job. What would it be like to have so much faith in Spirit and our Human Spirit so that you can do what you love and earn money doing it? In this episode...

What’s the difference between a co-dependent relationship and a relationship between awakened individuals? Explore the role of chemisty, unconscious emotional needs, alluring drama, ‘completing’ or ‘resonant’ partnership, falling in love vs. rising in love, and the role of the inner masculine and feminine. Find out how to identify which kind of relationship you’re in and how to start or cultivate...

When you forget who you are, bring your attention to your heart and remember. You are Love. The mind forgets this and creates separation; it can make you feel fearful, small, isolated. But it’s not who you are! You are Love and that love is always here. In this Love, you can rest, feel your power, your connection to everything. Nothing is to be feared. Let go and let this part of you wake up as yo...

We can’t have power without a foundation.  It’s like having a tree without roots.  What would happen if a thunderstorm hit a tree with no roots?  It would topple over.  We need the stillness and strength of roots (inner masculine) to support the blossoming and fruiting of our gifts (inner feminine), which is our true power.  To strengthen our roots and obtain our gifts of power, we need to develop...

Reclaim your erotic innocence! Come back to being like a child with curiosity, non-judgment, and playfulness. Most of us never learnt how to self-pleasure with joy, pride, and presence. Now is the time to recapitulate your first sexual experience by consciously self-pleasuring. Remember the innocence of your sensual body, discover new ways of touching beyond usual, staid habits, and learn how embo...

Ever wondered how to open a man's heart?  How to feel his unwavering presence and commitment to the relationship? Through allowing the space for a man to cultivate his OWN FEMININE, his heart will open to a new depth of relating with himself and his beloved.   When a beloved can hold presence for her man, it creates the spaciousness for him to relax, receive and feel his own feminine alivenes...

When men ask us how to turn a woman on, keep her happy, open her sexually, help her to surrender, I always suggest the same thing - hold her. How do I do that? He asks. First, learn to hold yourself. If you can’t hold yourself, you will not have the energy to hold her. Be conscious of your own emotional body and your own needs. Consciously create a certain level of aliveness, freedom and joy in yo...

Relationships are our biggest teachers, but if we cannot realise that our partners have something to teach us about our own relationship with ourselves, then we tend to fall into an unhealthy pattern of co-dependency.   As our core wounds get dumped on each other, we experience unnecessary suffering with an endless love/hate cycle and push/pull dynamics.  Such conflict and drama is NOT NECESSARY. ...

Pain and pleasure are in the flow of life. Pain doesn’t equal suffering nor does pleasure equal suffering; it’s the avoidance of pain or the attachment to pleasure that ultimately causes suffering... So what if we could learn to be in flow with our pain and pleasure, where, rather than grasping for pleasure or pushing pain away, we can embrace it fully, and learn what it has to teach us?  In this...

Most people try to find safety and love in relationships through attempting to control and change their external circumstances. What this means is that whenever their sense of love and safety is threatened, they go into fight or flight mode and try to change their partner’s actions, words, beliefs or ANYTHING they can to avoid their situation.  This is a dynamic for struggle and disconnection. Wha...

We’re tricked all the time into thinking what we want—and don’t want—comes from outside of us.  That person.  That relationship.  That car.  That holiday.  The truth is, it’s the FEELING we’d have if we got what we want.  That feeling is yours and available to you always!  You’re already there! In this episode, discover —How to get off the treadmill of wanting and missing joy right now  —How to st...