Love on the Autism Spectrum - Honest Guidance for Neurodivergent Relationships in Midlife

Where Are My Shoes? (The Game Show No One Signed Up For) A Waking Up Neurodivergent Wednesday Episode of Love on the Autism Spectrum What do executive dysfunction, object permanence, and neurodivergent love all have in common? Apparently… missing shoes. In this laugh-out-loud episode of Love on the Autism Spectrum , host Barbara (Blaze) Lazarony, LMFT, brings you into a real-life scene many neurod...

In Episode 13 of Therapy Tuesday of Love on the Autism Spectrum , Barbara (Blaze) Lazarony, LMFT, offers a deeply compassionate reminder that your nervous system is not the enemy—it’s trying to keep you safe. For many neurodivergent individuals, the nervous system operates differently. It may become dysregulated more easily in response to sensory input, unexpected change, or emotional overwhelm. W...

The Algorithm Thinks I’m a Robot (And Other Instagram Diagnoses) A Waking Up Neurodivergent Wednesday Episode of Love on the Autism Spectrum Have you ever been personally called out by an Instagram carousel? In this playful yet poignant episode, Barbara (Blaze) Lazarony, LMFT, dives into the hilariously relatable world of online self-diagnosis—from late-night ADHD reels to autism meme spirals that...

Do you feel loved, or just constantly interpreting it? In neurodiverse relationships, love is often present but invisible. One partner may express care through quiet action, while the other needs emotional presence. Both may feel alone, wondering: Why doesn’t it feel like love? In this Therapy Tuesday episode of Love on the Autism Spectrum , Blaze unpacks what actually makes people feel loved—and...

For many neurodivergent folks, personal hygiene isn’t about laziness—it’s about overwhelm. In this warm and wonderfully real Waking Up Neurodivergent Wednesday episode of Love on the Autism Spectrum , therapist and neurodivergent coach Barbara Blaze Lazarony, LMFT, explores the sensory and executive function challenges behind one deceptively simple question: To shower or not to shower? You’ll hear...

Misunderstandings are inevitable. Repair is what makes the relationship strong. In this episode of Love on the Autism Spectrum , Blaze explores why repair is one of the most essential practices in neurodiverse relationships. Not just as a way to clean up after a fight—but as the foundation for trust, connection, and emotional safety. This is Part 3 in a 3-part series on healing in relationships. Y...

In this hilarious and totally relatable Waking Up Neurodivergent Wednesday episode of Love on the Autism Spectrum , host Barbara (Blaze) Lazarony, LMFT, explores seasonal shifts' emotional and sensory chaos, especially for neurodivergent folks. From Grey May and June Gloom to No Sky July and the ever-tragic Fogust , Blaze shares how changes in barometric pressure, light, and humidity can completel...

“I’m sorry” doesn’t always equal repair. In neurodiverse relationships, words alone often miss the mark—especially when one partner needs emotional presence, and the other leans on logic, quick fixes, or shutdowns under pressure. In this episode of Love on the Autism Spectrum , Blaze explores why standard apology scripts often fail in neurodiverse partnerships—and how to create moments of repair t...

In this quiet and deeply moving Waking Up Neurodivergent Wednesday episode of Love on the Autism Spectrum , host Barbara (Blaze) Lazarony, LMFT, reflects on Portia Nelson’s beloved poem Autobiography in Five Short Chapters. With warmth and clinical insight, Blaze walks listeners through the metaphor of “the hole in the sidewalk”—a powerful illustration of why we repeat emotional patterns, especial...

Have you ever apologized just for being you? In neurodiverse relationships, shutdowns and self-blame can quietly erode emotional safety, but they often come from deeper survival strategies. In this episode of Love on the Autism Spectrum , Blaze explores what’s really happening when one or both partners begin to apologize for existing, whether through words, silence, or emotional withdrawal. You’ll...

Why I Own 5 of the Same Skort: A Neurodivergent Story About Sensory Comfort & Spring Cleaning In this cozy Waking Up Neurodivergent Wednesday episode of Love on the Autism Spectrum , therapist and neurodivergent host Barbara (Blaze) Lazarony, LMFT, shares a funny, all-too-familiar story about sensory preferences, spring cleaning, and why five identical knit skorts absolutely belong in your clo...

When Empathy Looks Different: Understanding Neurodivergent Love and Connection In this heartfelt Therapy Insights Tuesday episode of Love on the Autism Spectrum , therapist and neurodivergent coach Barbara (Blaze) Lazarony, LMFT, invites you to rethink what empathy really looks like—especially in neurodiverse relationships . Many autistic and ADHD individuals feel deeply—but express empathy in way...

“Stop It!”: What Bob Newhart Got Right (and Wrong) About Mental Health and Neurodivergence In this lighthearted Waking Up Neurodivergent Wednesday bonus episode of Love on the Autism Spectrum , therapist and neurodivergent coach Barbara (Blaze) Lazarony, LMFT, explores a surprising mental health insight hidden inside a classic Bob Newhart comedy sketch. In it, Newhart plays a therapist who tells h...

The Intimacy Dance in Neurodiverse Relationships: Push, Pull, and the Power of Pause In this Therapy Insights Tuesday episode of Love on the Autism Spectrum , therapist and neurodivergent coach Barbara (Blaze) Lazarony, LMFT, explores the often-misunderstood dynamics of intimacy in neurodiverse relationships —especially the push-pull experience of wanting connection but needing space. If you’ve ev...

Loving the Whole You: Embracing the Messy and the Magical in Neurodivergent Life In this soulful Waking Up Neurodivergent Wednesday episode of Love on the Autism Spectrum , therapist and neurodivergent coach Barbara (Blaze) Lazarony, LMFT, reflects on a grounding quote by Darby Hudson: “We are stardust, and poop particles. Don’t get ahead of yourself.” With warmth, humor, and radical honesty, Blaz...

Finding Your Rhythm: How Neurodivergent Couples Build Connection Without Losing Themselves In this validating and grounded Therapy Insights Tuesday episode of Love on the Autism Spectrum , therapist and neurodivergent coach Barbara (Blaze) Lazarony, LMFT, invites you to embrace a quiet but transformative truth: your pace is not a problem . Whether you connect quickly or slowly, speak with urgency...

To the You Who Just Found Out You’re Neurodivergent: A Love Letter for the Beginning In this tender, non-linear Waking Up Neurodivergent Wednesday episode of Love on the Autism Spectrum , therapist and neurodivergent coach Barbara (Blaze) Lazarony, LMFT, offers a warm and gentle welcome to anyone newly discovering—or quietly beginning to suspect—that they are neurodivergent . Whether you’re autist...

Emotional Safety First: The Foundation of Every Neurodiverse Relationship In this heartfelt Therapy Insights Tuesdays of Love on the Autism Spectrum , therapist and neurodivergent coach Barbara (Blaze) Lazarony, LMFT, invites you to pause the usual relationship advice and return to what matters most: emotional safety . Too often, couples are urged to “communicate better” without understanding that...

You’re the Right Parent: Supporting Your Neurodivergent Child with Confidence and Care In this tender Waking Up Neurodivergent episode of Love on the Autism Spectrum , therapist and neurodivergent coach Barbara (Blaze) Lazarony, LMFT, speaks directly to parents raising neurodivergent children. Whether their child is autistic, has ADHD, sensory differences, learning challenges, or is healing from t...

Love Without Scripts: How Neurodivergent Relationships Thrive Through Authenticity, Not Performance What if everything you’ve been taught about love… wasn’t meant for you? In this empowering Therapy Insights Tuesday episode of Love on the Autism Spectrum , therapist and neurodivergent coach Barbara (Blaze) Lazarony, LMFT, invites you to examine the cultural “scripts” of love —and consider how they...

For the Neurodivergent Leader Who Loves Deeply and Feels Everything: Honoring Emotional Intensity Without Burning Out In this powerful and intimate Waking Up Neurodivergent Wednesday episode of Love on the Autism Spectrum , therapist and neurodivergent coach Barbara (Blaze) Lazarony, LMFT, speaks directly to neurodivergent leaders. Such leaders show up for everyone else while quietly carrying the...

Masking in Relationships: How Pretending Impacts Neurodivergent Love and Connection In this emotionally attuned Therapy Inights Tuesday episode of Love on the Autism Spectrum , therapist and neurodivergent coach Barbara (Blaze) Lazarony, LMFT, explores a tender truth in many neurodiverse relationships : masking may feel like survival, but it often comes at the cost of real connection. Through the...

A Love Letter to Neurodivergent Hearts: Affirmations for the Ones Who Feel Everything In this deeply affirming Waking Up Neurodivergent Wednesday episode of Love on the Autism Spectrum , therapist and neurodivergent coach Barbara (Blaze) Lazarony, LMFT, sets aside techniques and tools to offer something more essential: presence . This is not a lesson. It’s a love letter —written gently and spoken...

Loving the Neurodivergent Self: Reclaiming Worth in a World That Told You Otherwise In this validating Therapy Insights Tuesday episode of Love on the Autism Spectrum , therapist and neurodivergent coach Barbara (Blaze) Lazarony, LMFT, offers a tender counter-message to one of the deepest wounds many neurodivergent people carry: “I’m too much.” Whether it was said directly or communicated through...

Sensory Sensitivity in Neurodiverse Love: Navigating Intimacy Without Overwhelm In this insightful Waking Up Neurodivergent Wednesday episode of Love on the Autism Spectrum , therapist and neurodivergent coach Barbara (Blaze) Lazarony, LMFT, highlights a powerful truth: love isn’t just emotional—it’s sensory. For many neurodivergent individuals , connection depends not on feelings alone, but on wh...