Looking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern Dating

Season 7 is here! And we're kicking the season off with "Mantra Week". Over the past few seasons we've both developed what could be called our dating mantras... and if you've been around for a bit, you've for sure heard them! Kristen's is "You want to be with someone who wants to be with you!" So, to kick-off our new season with a bang, we've decided to do an entire episode on each of those mantra...

We've reached the end of online dating month! And, we saved the best for last. We can talk all day about how to date online and what to put in your profile and which pictures to use or which ones to not use, but does any of it really matter if it's not what makes an impression on the guys looking at your profile? Not really. So, we went straight to the guys and asked them their thoughts. Here's wh...

It's our last platform review day and today we're taking on the oh so infamous dating apps. Bumble, Hinge, and Coffee Meets Bagel are the three we're taking a look at. We've got tips for setting up a profile, how to use the apps effectively, and some pitfalls to watch out for too. 

We're halfway through our deep dive into all things online dating! Up next in the line-up... Christian Mingle and Match.com . Bethany's 2nd favorite and least favorite... listen to find out which one is which!

Welcome to week 2 of our deep dive into online dating! Today kicks off several episodes taking a look at the specific sites and apps that are out there and giving an in-depth review of them. We're starting off with one of the longest running, most well known sites... eHarmony. This one is actually Bethany's favorite (at the moment) and the one Kristen hates the least, so that's saying something ri...

It's online dating month! We're taking a deep dive from beginning to end on the entire process of online dating. So, if you've never tried online dating before because it seems to intimidating and confusing, or if you've been away from the online dating world for a while, this is for you. We're going to break down the mindset you need to have going into it this week and then over the next few week...

If you've got a friend who it dating someone who is not, or doesn't seem to be, a Christian... approaching that conversation can fill you with equal parts terror and dread. It's kind of like your mom always used to say... "it's not what you say, as how you say it". Today, we're going to give you some ideas for how to approach that and what your motivation and heart attitude should be as you reach...

This week, you're basically going to be learning from both of us telling you to do exactly the opposite of what we've done. We have learned these lessons the hard way for sure! We've both been in this place... gotten out of this place... and lived to tell about it! So, just know that if you're in this super frustrating place in a situationship with a guy you know... there is light at the end of th...

So you've been talking to this seemingly great guy for a while online and now it's time to meet in person for the first time... what should you do? What should you not do? We've got safety tips and more!

We get asked a lot about how much of an age gap is too much in dating, but this question was a bit of a different twist on that... it's looking at life stages more than actual age. We go a lot of different directions with this and there is even a story about one of us almost getting attacked by a bird recently. You don't want to miss this! haha

Whether or not he loves Jesus is obviously the most attractive thing, but this was a fun question asked by one of you guys... what are some of the other most attractive qualities to look for in someone? We throw out several of our top ones... confidence, decisive, and several more! We also look at a few that aren't so attractive ;)

This is by far the most asked question we get! It can be tough figuring out how to let a guy know you're interested without becoming the pursuer. In today's CouchCast, we went directly to the experts and asked one of our guy friends the best way to really communicate this to them. We also talk about some of our go to flirting techniques so there's that too! ;)

Y'all, I somehow managed to not actually publish last Friday's CouchCast Rewind... so, guess what?! That means 2 this week... today and Friday! Enjoy :)   A great question that is not always fun to talk about, but it needs to be talked about... Is it ever ok to date someone who is not a Christian? That's what we're tackling today.

We're on a season break, but we're pulling some popular CouchCasts from the archives for the month of June so you've got something to listen to!! :)   It doesn't matter whether you're the person being broken up with or you're the person doing the breaking up... it's not fun no matter how you look at it. But, there are some things you can do to make it a little better and be able to look back witho...

We're on a season break, but we're pulling some popular CouchCasts from the archives for the month of June so you've got something to listen to!! :)   We all hear people say that you should pray for your future spouse, but what exactly to pray isn't always easy to figure out... In this episode, we talk about some of the things that we both pray about for our future husbands.

Guys, we know you hear it from girls all the time... "I'm just looking for a guy who is a good leader." Seems simple, but what does it really mean? Is it the same from day 1 of your relationship or does it vary as the relationship changes too? Today, we're taking a look at some of the specific, practical things we would really like for guys to take the lead in along the trajectory of a relationshi...

This episode is a bit of a departure from our usual type of episode and we hope you enjoy it as much as we did making it! We have taken your stories, and thrown in a couple of our own, and we are laughing together and all of the awkward and cringe-worthy moments that 1st dates bring to all of us! :D

We all know looks aren't everything, but they are something, right? The question is how big of a something should they really be in your relationship? We're talking about attraction today and how important or not important it should really be. You might be surprised a little at our answer! :)

We all start dating at different points in life... for some it's high school, for others it's college, and for some it's not until they hit their 30's. And that's ok!! Just because your path looks different from someone else's, doesn't mean there is something wrong with it. Today, we're taking a look at several different ways to look at your dating journey, other than "I'm behind..."

It seems like our culture places less and less value on commitment every single day. It's so hard to find and sometimes even hard to implement ourselves. Today, we're looking at what commitment is, why people are afraid of it, and if it's really worth it to get over that fear.

We all approach dating differently and knowing how it is that you approach your relationships can be helpful in knowing how to navigate them too. Are you super logical? Do you lead with your emotional side? Are you a slow and steady wins the race type of dater or do you jump in with two feet from the very beginning? That's what we're taking a look at today and we're going to discuss what it looks...

Good idea or bad idea? Today we're answering the question from one of our male listeners about whether it's a good idea or not to date coworkers when the profession seems to be primarily female. The final decision? It's probably more about how you go about it than anything else. Ladies, we've got a question for you in this too! We need your help!

We're throwing it back to our early season days and drawing your questions straight out of a bowl to answer rapid fire.   - How do I remain friends with my ex if I think he still has feelings for me? - How do I let a guy know I'm interested if I'm shy? - How do I open up a conversation on a dating app? - Should I be worried if the guy I've been talking to for a while starts updating his profile pi...

We've all heard this term, but what exactly does it mean? Today we're taking a deeper look at the book of Ruth and what it actually says. Was Ruth just sitting around waiting on Boaz? Does this mean we should do the same or is it just setting us up for a Christian version of looking for the oh so elusive Prince Charming?

The short answer? Yes. The long answer? It depends... on the situation, how long you've known him, are you actually even dating yet, what other serious things have you already talked about... and the list goes on. We're taking a stab at this question from as many angles as we can in 12 minutes :)