Looking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern Dating

We've all been there, right? You like this guy and have been trying to drop some hints, only to find out he's actually started dating someone else... not fun! It can almost feel like a break-up from your side, but he doesn't even know. We've got some tips and strategies for moving on even when it's hard.

Sometimes it's easier to remember everything you want to say if you write it down first, or you can talk without someone else sitting there waiting to respond, but does that mean it's ok to have big, important conversations (think DTR) over text message or a voice recording app? 

This question takes a different approach to the ghosting issue... what if you you both just don't text or call after a date? Is it still ghosting? Mutual ghosting? Does that make it ok?

We got this question from a caring friend who has tried to tactfully tell her friend that she doesn't think the guy she's crushing on is actually interested.... and now, she's not sure where to go from here. We've been in this place, so today we're looking at ways to help your friend move on when the guy's just not interested but also keep your friendship intact at the same time.

Honestly, we wish none of you guys ever had to deal with this, but unfortunately that's just not possible! When you've been broken up with out of the blue like this, it's easy to feel a little lost at sea, so to speak. This is something we've had to walk through and we'll be taking a look at some of the things that have helped us in the past.

Is this a loaded question or what?! But, what better time to answer it than at Christmas time when we are focused on the greatest demonstration of love ever? God sent His Son, to redeem His people in the ultimate display of love. We're taking a look at some of your common questions about love... how do I know I'm in love? When to say I love you? and more. Then, we're going to take a look at what w...

We have talked a lot about confidence, and how attractive it is, on this podcast. So, the question was posed... WHY is it attractive? What is it about a confident guy that is just so attractive? That's the question we're answering today!

It's our "Question Episode" for this season! We asked you guys what are the hard parts and what are the good parts of being single in the church? And oh boy, did you guys have things to say! We created this episode entirely around the feedback we got from you.

This is a little different than our usual episode format! Since it's a holiday week, we're going to have some fun with it! Today, we're playing games... dating games to be specific... Would You Rather, True/False, and Never Have I Ever. It was super fun and if you go follow along on IG (@lftm_podcast) on release day, you can play too! Then, we're going to take a look at the games we all tend to pl...

This was one of our longest CouchCast episodes ever! We loved this conversation. As two girls who definitely have self-sabotage tendencies when it comes to relationships, we can definitely relate. We discuss what can cause this kind of thinking, what we should be thinking instead, how to overcome it, and the role your community plays in this.

Our Men Tell All series returns with this interview with Dalton Teal. Dalton is 26 years old and works in full-time ministry. This was a great conversation that provided lots of insight into the male brain when it comes to dating, wisdom for pursuing Godly relationships, and plenty of laughs along the way. Normally, we trim these down and only release the full-length interview on Patreon, but we j...

If you follow us on Instagram (@lftm_podcast), you saw yesterday that we had some unexpected audio issues with this week's original episode and we're going to have to re-record part of it. So, in the meantime, enjoy this full, uncut interview with Jared that was previously only released on Patreon in its full length form.   In this Men Tell All episode, we interviewed Kristen's boss, Jared. He is...

The answer to this question could go two ways... Are you interested in dating one of your friends or do you just want them to be on the lookout for someone you could date? We're taking a look at both scenarios in today's episode.

Let's be honest... it can be tricky sometimes trying to figure out what to say, or what not to say, to single friends. Whether you yourself are single or not, either way it can be tough. We're taking a look at some of the things that are really helpful and encouraging, and then some of the things that aren't really all that helpful too. We're also talking about extending lots of grace!   **We go o...

We all know the internet and social media are everywhere! This is not news to anyone... between ordering groceries online, buying a car online, it would naturally follow that we should just be able to order a husband from Amazon, right?! Dating in a social media age though isn't quite that simple. It's not all bad either. In today's episode, we're looking at some ways the internet and social media...

I think this was Kristen's favorite ever CouchCast question! ....the person asking made a reference to The Bachelor in her question and that's all it took! If you find yourself in this same place of worrying about what potential dates might think of your previous dating history (or lack thereof), we're talking about several different perspectives you can take that will hopefully lessen that worry...

This term "equally yoked" gets thrown around a lot, but do you know how to apply it to your current or future relationships? Sometimes it gets over-simplified to "just marry someone who loves Jesus"... and sometimes we make it way more complicated than it has to be. So, today, we're taking a look at what 2 Corinthians 6:14 does say, what it doesn't say, and how you can take the principle behind it...

We over-think. We over-complicate. We over-analyze. And in the process we end up looking at dating as a chore rather than a fun experience! It's ok for dating to be fun! Let's put some of that fun back into it.... we've got some tips and ideas for doing just that today.

This was a great question from one of our male listeners! We're taking a look at those intangible things that really up the attractiveness factor outside of someone's looks!              

If you heard last week's episode, you heard us talk about what it looks like when life doesn't go according to plan and you find yourself in a season of waiting. Today, we're going to take that a step further and look at what to do while you're waiting. We're answering questions like what are you actually waiting for? What's the purpose of waiting? and what to do in the meantime?

We can all say this to some extent, right? Life never fully goes how we plan and especially when it comes to dating and relationships, we will most likely all find our lives going somewhat differently than we had planned. Does that mean God's forgotten us? Is He still good? What does His Word have to say about the feelings that come along with a life that didn't go according to plan?

There's a tricky balance between talking about the deeper, important things and "scaring someone off". A lot of it comes down to timing and how you choose to broach the subject in the first place. So, today, we're taking a look at those things and offering some advice from the times we've had these same conversations. 

This is one of our most requested topics! How do I know a guy's interested? What will he do when he is? Is he pursuing? Is it ok for me to pursue? We get all of these questions on the regular, so today we're breaking down pursuit... what it looks like, what it doesn't, how it looks at different relationship stages, and more!

We're convinced you learned everything you needed to know about dating before you ever left Kindergarten! And today, we're going to walk through the top 10 things on that list... clean up your own mess, use your words, keep your hands to yourself, and more!

It's the second half of "Mantra Week" today and we're rounding things out with Bethany's mantra, "Don't Date in a Bubble". We're going to talk about what it looks like when you are dating in a bubble, what it looks like when you're not dating in a bubble, and what to do if you find yourself in a dating bubble but want to get out.