Looking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern Dating

This week is our "question episode" and this season's question was "What do you want to hear our unfiltered, unscripted responses about?". We took your questions/topics from Facebook and Instagram and you're getting our thoughts on those sans filter. Topics range from...finding guys that won't be intimidated by a successful woman... to getting over someone you've never actually dated... to how to...

We got this question from a male listener who has been dating his girlfriend for a while now and wants to know how to bring up discussions about marriage... not a proposal necessarily, but starting to broach the subject of spending a lifetime together. There are a lot of different factors to this, but we're taking a look at several common ones. 

Well, this episode is a bit of a departure from what we would normally talk about, but as we've gone through this season, we've found that we've repeated the phrase "...and that's a good way to end up alone" a lot, so we decided to just devote a whole episode to it! So, we're covering all sorts of common things we all do that if we're not careful will ensure that we end up alone. 

We are diving into the things we're probably all scared of to some level but don't want to admit to! Are you afraid you'll become your parents? Are you afraid you're not "ready"? Are you afraid you don't know how to date to begin with? Well, we are right there with you... or, we have been at some point and can totally relate to how that can affect how you approach relationships. So, in this episod...

This was a really great question from one of our guy listeners! More often than not, it's us girls who talk about getting attached too quickly, but this is an issue that guys run into too, so today we're taking a look at how to navigate this tough situation and give some insight into the female perspective on this!

Dating is not what it once was! That's our starting point today and we're diving deeper into this idea and hopefully giving some clarity to a topic that seems to be at odds with older generations sometimes. 

We're continuing our Q&A series from our Facebook Group from last week... this week's questions include:   How do you regain trust within yourself and eventually with someone when your trust was 100% broken by the person you dated previously? I’d love to hear more about dating in your 30s! I know there was an episode of dating in your 20s versus your 30s, but maybe there could be one specifically...

We're pulling another CouchCast from the archives and taking a look at how our opinions and thoughts have changed since we first recorded it. With this one, I don't know that they have "changed" so much as they've just evolved and matured. So, if you're wondering if you can just be friends with the guys in your life, take a listen and let us know what you think!

A couple of weeks ago, we asked our Facebook group what they wanted to hear us talk about and there were so many great questions we couldn't narrow it down! So, we're answering them all instead! Rapid fire style and like a CouchCast on steroids. Today's Questions: 1. Thoughts on dating someone who is divorced and/or has kids when you haven’t been divorced and don’t have kids. 2. How do you know if...

Kristen and I have discovered that we're complete opposites when it comes to dating, in a lot of ways... But, we've also discovered that "opposite" can often mean "great learning opportunity" too! In this episode, we're both taking a look at some of the things we've learned along the way from each other and also taking a look at the value of having people in your life who aren't exactly like you w...

I think this is probably the one topic that our thoughts have changed the most about since we originally recorded this CouchCast! It's also a huge lesson in "never say never..."

If you're like us, it's easy to find yourself with a list of requirements and boxes to check that you're measuring this guy up to. But, is that really the best way of producing a happy future marriage? Maybe not? We're taking a look at how to approach your "list", expectations, and managing being a rule follower when it comes to dating today.

We answered a similar question during the 12 Days of CouchCast last year and it quickly became our most popular episode of all time! So, we knew there was plenty here to discuss in a full episode too. In this episode, we're giving you several guidelines for determining if this is the kind of guy who you should really like or if he should just remain a crush. Questions to ask yourself and qualities...

This question came in from one of our dear guy listeners and we can feel his pain! We've both been in very similar situations over the years and it can be tricky. We're taking a look at this potential problem from several different angles and coming up with several suggestions for how to figure out where Girl "A" stands without blowing up any friendships in the process!

We all know that most of online dating is just managing to somehow stand out from the crowd! What better way to do that than with your answers to the most common questions you're going to be asked? We're giving you some great answers to questions, but that's not all... we're going to give you some alternative ways of asking them too. Just one more way to avoid blending in!

Ok, we've all heard the age old adage "opposites attract".... do they really though? That's what we're taking a look at in this week's episode. Do opposites always attract? Does it matter which qualities are opposite? I mean, I don't want to date the boy version of me, but I don't want to be absolute polar opposites either. So, we're going to dive in and see what happens.

CouchCast is going to look a little different this season! We're going back into the archives, wayyy back into the archives, and we are picking out some CouchCast questions that we know our thoughts have changed on since we originally recorded it and then we're going to take another crack at it with our new and updated thoughts! This should be fun... so today, we're diving into common interests an...

Ok guys... you've been (not so) patiently waiting for this! We are back and kicking things off with a bang! Kevin, Kristen's fiance, is here with us today and we are getting all of the details of their story. How they met, how they re-met, when they knew this was "the one", and what they've learned along the way. We can't wait for you guys to hear this!

Merry Christmas!! We have reached our final day of the 12 days of CouchCast and Christmas is tomorrow! We hope you guys are all able to take some time to relax, recharge, and enjoy friends and family. But, before that... we're taking a look at ways to tell between actually liking someone or just having a crush on them. It can be tough to tell the difference at the beginning sometimes so we're goin...

So, your friend just started dating this new guy and he seems great, but now it's opened up this glaring hole in your life and you just want what she has... how do you combat the jealousy and bitterness that you might find creeping in? That's what we're diving into today!

Well this one can be a doozy! Kids and when to have them can be a pressurized topic sometimes. When is the best time to bring up kids and not seem too "heavy"? What if you don't want to have biological kids?  How do you approach all of these things with the guy you're dating?

I bet you guys are all nodding your heads in agreement just after reading that title, aren't you? We sure were! It seems that the church at large holds up marriage as a symbol of spiritual maturity, but is that really even a valid assumption? Why does the church do this? Is it intentional? These are all things we're diving into today!

Does it seem like everyone has someone this Christmas? Do you feel like you're the only person who doesn't? We get it! We're speaking from our plentiful 1st hand experience on this one... things we've done, and are doing, to combat the loneliness and bitterness that threaten around this time of year!

We might be out of a job if talking and thinking about dating is a problem! haha The original question is a good one though.... is it possible to know too much about dating to the point that it is detrimental to your relationships? At it's core, I think this comes down to overthinking... knowing a lot about dating is helpful... overthinking a lot about dating is not. We're going to get into this a...

Not dating in a bubble can be tough enough as it is... add a toxic or distant family into the mix and it gets even tougher! When you're the only believer in your family and they just don't understand your standards, boundaries, and worldview, it can seem impossible! So, today we're taking a look at some ways to bring community into your relationship when your family isn't your closest community.