Looking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern Dating

We've all been there, right? You're out with friends and realize you're the only single one left... it can feel so isolating! Whether it's friends, work, family, or church, we can all find ourselves in these situations. So, today we're taking a look at some tips and strategies for maintaining your joy, contentment, and social life in the midst of it!!

Sometimes it seems like you're doing all the right things, going all the right places, and checking all the right boxes.... but, you still find yourself single. We can all be tempted to ask God what more he wants from us. Today, we're looking at that question and dissecting what it means to ask it, should we even be asking it, and what does it say about how we view God's character when we ask this...

This one's for the boys! Asking a girl out can be a really nerve-racking thing! Is it something you should be worried about or is it not that big of a deal? We're taking a look at this question from multiple different angles and we've got some encouragement that we hope will be helpful for you guys!

Ok guys, it's question episode time!! We asked you guys this question and have created this episode 100% around your responses. The question is to fill in the blank with what people are telling you...  "If you would just _________, then you would find someone."  or  "If you would just __________, then dating would be easier".  This was quite the conversation.... it ran the gamut from funny, to rid...

When you hear the term 'boundaries' when it comes to dating, we usually just skip straight to physical boundaries in our minds. But, those aren't the only kinds of boundaries you should consider as you navigate dating. Today, we're taking a look at several other types of boundaries you should consider too... relational boundaries, schedule boundaries, spiritual boundaries, and more!

Well, you can chalk this up to another term we hadn't heard of before! We learn so much from you guys! haha We're taking a look at the question of whether or not dating multiple people while you decide who you like best is really ever a good idea? We have some differing thoughts on this somewhat. It's a fun discussion!

We've all been there... we either kept talking too long with someone we knew we shouldn't, or we struck up a conversation with a guy we never should have in the first place. We're giving you 10 guys you should stop that conversation with sooner rather than later. Way easier said than done, for sure! We've been there... pretty sure one or the other of us has probably talked with all 10! 

This is something we all struggle with to one degree or another! And this is also something that God takes very seriously... it's clearly defined in Scripture as a sin issue. This isn't one of those preferential areas that you can just change if you want to. Today, we are looking what idolatry is, why it's wrong, what God has to say about it, and how you can work to overcome it.

This is a question from one of our guy listeners that we were so excited to answer! Doesn't it sometimes seem like in Christian circles that once you've dated one person at the church, you're just not allowed to date anyone else because they're all friends? Should this be the case? What if you're really interested in your ex's friend? We're looking at this from as many angles as we can today!

It's spring cleaning time! So, we're taking a spring cleaning swipe at dating too. Today, we're talking about four different areas of your life where you may be a little cluttered and not even realize it! Your list... Online Dating Apps... Your Schedule... and Who You're Talking To. We'd be willing to bet, at least one of these areas in your life could use a little decluttering!

If you've ever dated online for more than about 3 days, you've probably been burned, or burned out, to one extent or another. There are definitely more than one way to be burned when it comes to the world of online dating, so we're going through several of those today as well as some ways to overcome and get back out there after you've been through one of them.

This was such a great question with a really detailed backstory so you'll have to click on through and listen to get all the info! We look at several aspects of this from a general standpoint as well as specific to this situation. Is it clingy to initiate contact twice in a row? How do you know if he's ghosting you or if it's just a miscommunication? And at the end of the day... what do you have t...

We're back for Season 6 and can't wait to get back in the swing of things... we've got some really great topics we're excited to talk about!   Today, we're taking a look at the problem of actually finding someone to date. Once you find him, the actual being in a relationship part doesn't seem all that difficult. Sometimes it feels like you're looking for a unicorn! So, we're breaking down what cha...

Here we are... Your #1 most downloaded CouchCast! And what a great one to have be at the top! This is a question we should all be continually asking ourselves and comparing our relationships to Scripture and seeking after a Godly relationship from the start. We're taking a quick look at what a Godly relationship looks like today. This is a really broad topic and could get really deep, but we're ju...

We're almost to the end of our countdown which means we're almost to season 6!!   Have you ever been told you're too picky? Have you ever wondered if it's true? Today, we're talking about the standards that you should hold high and the ones that it might be ok to let go of... were they ever really standards or were they just preferences that got a little out of control? Find out!

Here we are... #3 in our Top 5 CouchCast Rewind. This is by far the most asked question we get! It can be tough figuring out how to let a guy know you're interested without becoming the pursuer. In today's CouchCast, we went directly to the experts and asked one of our guy friends the best way to really communicate this to them. We also talk about some of our go to flirting techniques so there's t...

Up next in our Top 5 CouchCast Rewind is #4... How to Spot Red Flags When Things Are Going Well.  Sometimes, when things are going really well with this new guy you're seeing, you can overlook things or have blindspots about him because you want it to work out so badly. It's natural! We all do this to some degree. But, then we find ourselves getting hurt the same ways over and over. So, today we'r...

We're counting down the days to season 6 and while we do, we're revisiting our top 5 most popular CouchCast episodes. We have almost 85 of them! These are questions we still get a lot too so hopefully this will help everyone get the answers they need without having to wait too! :)

This is a special extended CouchCast! We sat down to chat with Kristin Priest about her work to create a space for Christian women to have their questions about sex and sexuality answered in a way that always points back to Jesus. We are asking her the questions you all have asked and she has great wisdom and insight to share!!   Kristin is a married Christian woman based in Northern Michigan. She...

Surprise!! We're back a week early! We had originally planned to come back next week and resume CouchCast before the new season in February, but we decided kind of spur of the moment to go ahead and record this yesterday... We missed you guys :) Be sure to listen for a fun announcement about next week's CouchCast too!

I can't believe day 12 is here! This has been so fun hanging out with you guys everyday for the past couple of weeks... we hope you have enjoyed it too! Today, we're taking a deeper look at the question of whether or not it is wrong to have someone who was maybe a crush or an ex that you just never really got over and still kind of hold on to a little. We're discussing the ramifications that could...

This is the million dollar question! It's so hard to give a specific time frame, but we try to give you some things that will frame your decision... however long it takes. What's informing your attraction? What are your requirements to be attracted to someone? How much do other people factor into this?

Dating in church is hard enough. Add on top of that the fact that one or both of you works for the church and it can seem almost impossible! We're looking at some ways to avoid the potential awkwardness of this situation.

You guys know we each pick a word of the year each year. For 2019, Kristen's word was "Hope" and Bethany's was "Purposeful". We're taking a look back over the past year and what we've learned as well as talking about what our words for 2021 are and how we picked them.

Do you swipe on him? Ignore it? Bring it up in person? I know from experience that when you see someone you know on pop up on the screen in a dating app, you freeze and a million questions immediately run through your head. Today, we're tackling a few of those questions and giving you some tips on how to handle that potentially awkward situation.