Living The Team Life with Kim & Rog

It really feels like the whole world is limping toward Christmas right now. Tired, stretched and running on fumes. We all say we want a break, but somehow December becomes the busiest month of the year. The family lunches, the catch ups, the travel, the you're coming right messages, they pile up fast and before you know it, the holiday that was meant to restore you starts to drain you instead. In...

Are you and your partner stuck in that same old loop, snapping over small things, circling around the same topics and wondering how you got here again? Well, you're not alone. Most couples don't fight about what they think they're fighting about. It's rarely the dishes or the phone or the tone of what was said. It's the deeper stuff underneath that never quite gets said. And instead of talking abo...

You know those small moments that catch you off guard, like when your partner skips ahead on the show you were watching together or heads out with their friends and forgets to mention that it was actually a whole of group event, including partners. They're not huge, but they still sting. Because underneath it all, what we're really feeling in those moments is rejection. And what we're really cravi...

Ever feel like chaos has moved in with you? The schedules, the drop offs, the bills, the birthdays, it's all flying around in your head and half the time you're just hoping the other person's got it covered. But here's the thing. Chaos doesn't just make life stressful, it actually creates a wedge. Because when one of you is carrying the mental load and the other's trying to keep up, you stop feeli...

We all have low energy days or even low energy seasons. And one of the biggest mistakes couples can make is expecting both partners to be fit and firing on all cylinders, all of the time. The reality is that's just not how life works. Sometimes your partner may be flat, overwhelmed or running on empty. And in those moments, they don't need fixing, they need support, they need encouragement, a bit...

Rog, our little one and I are all down with a shocking flu this week and we figured you probably wouldn't want to listen to us coughing, spluttering and sniffling our way through an episode. So instead we thought we'd do something a little different. Over the past 12 months, we've shared a heap of skills and tools to help you build a stronger, healthier relationship. Today, we've pulled out one ke...

Ever feel like the conversations you have with your partner seem to just revolve around logistics, like what's for dinner, who's doing the school run, what time's the plumber coming this morning? You're not alone. Over time, couples often drift into managing life together, but stop truly learning about each other. And that's when you lose the spark. Not from a lack of love, but from a lack of curi...

Here's the truth. No one really tells you you have the power to change your relationship, not because you've been doing it wrong, but because when life gets full, it's so easy to keep pushing your relationship to the bottom of the list. You tell yourself we'll deal with it when things quieten down, but that moment rarely comes. In today's episode, we're diving into the belief that underpins every...

Feeling stuck in your relationship? Like nothing's terribly wrong, but it's also not right. The sparks dulled, the days blur, and everything feels a bit like Groundhog Day. You guys are not alone. So many couples hit this place. And the worst part is it can feel helpless, hopeless, like this is just how things are now. But here's the truth. Good relationships aren't magic. They're not built on luc...

It's our 100th episode and we just want to say a massive thank you to all of you who've been listening, sharing and doing the work in your own relationships. We see you. And today we've got big news. For the first time ever, we're launching something we've been building quietly behind the scenes for years. It's something for couples who care about their relationship, who want to feel more connecte...

Remember the spark you felt at the start of your relationship. The excitement, the flirting, the effortless little gestures that made you feel so connected. It wasn't just romance, it was your hormones doing their job. But over time, as life gets busier and the honeymoon chemicals fade, those feelings can seem harder to come by. The good news, the spark actually isn't gone. You just have to give y...

Ever had a fight with your partner that left you both rattled and then neither of you quite knew how to come back from it? Maybe you both walked away and just never fully repaired. You moved on or thought you had, but the tension lingers and so does the distance. Every couple has blow ups and that's not the problem. The problem is when you get stuck in that post argument space where no one knows h...

Have you ever thought to yourself, do they even notice everything I'm doing? You're juggling a million things, keeping the house running, showing up at work, managing the kids, remembering all the little details. And deep down you just want to feel appreciated, maybe even just seen. It's one of the most common struggles in long term relationships. Feeling like your efforts are invisible, not becau...

Ever found yourself silently tallying up who's done more? More parenting, more chores, more giving? Or feeling a flash of resentment when your partner heads out for drinks and you're still knee deep in the chaos? You're not alone. When life gets full and stress kicks in, it's easy for couples to slip into the me versus you mentality, competing for time, energy and space. And before you know it, yo...

Ever had that moment where you agreed to something, maybe with work, friends or family, and then realised it was going to cost you in time, energy or connection with your partner? That sinking feeling of, oh, I probably should have checked in first or this is going to throw off our weekend, it happens to all of us. But when it starts happening regularly, your relationship can end up feeling like i...

Do you ever feel like there's just no time to properly connect with your partner? Between work, school, drop offs, appointments and basically keeping life running, connection often slips to the bottom of the list or gets saved for later. A later which, let's be honest, rarely comes.  But here's the thing, staying connected does take time. It just doesn't mean magically conjuring up hours you don't...

Have you ever walked away from a moment, big or small, thinking, I should have had my partner's back? Maybe it was a comment you didn't speak up against. A social setting where you stayed quiet, or just a moment where your partner needed support and you missed it. It happens. But here's the good news. With the right skills, every one of those moments is also an opportunity. A chance to show your p...

Ever had an argument with your partner that started small but somehow spiralled into something way bigger than it needed to be? Maybe you were tired, stressed, or just said the wrong thing at the wrong time and suddenly you're both in fight mode wondering how you even got there. We've been there too. And while every couple argues, not every couple knows how to stop an argument in its tracks before...

Most guys want to connect with their partner, they just don't know how to. It's not that they don't care, it's just that emotional connection can feel a bit, well, vague. Like, what does being emotionally connected really mean? More hugs, more deep chats... interpreting subtle mood shifts through the art of interpretive dance. Enter: Browning Points. Every guy gets this. Do good things, rack up th...

Do you ever catch yourself falling into the same frustrating patterns in your relationship? Maybe one of you is avoiding tough conversations or trying to win every argument. Or maybe both of you have simply stopped saying please and thank you to each other. We all have habits that sneak into our relationships over time. While they might not have much impact in the beginning, as they become our new...

Do you and your partner have a plan for 2025 or are you just hoping things will fall into place? A lot of couples avoid plan together. Maybe one of you loves structure while the other prefers to go over the flow. Or maybe past planning sessions have led to a bit of tension. The truth is, without a plan, it's easy to end up on different pages leading to stress and missed opportunities for the thing...

Well, it's been a big year for us, and on the back of this big year, we've made a big decision. We're going to be taking three months off. So we thought it was really important today to come onto the podcast and share with you guys how we've come to that decision, what this year has looked like for us, and where we're going to be heading for 2025. So sit back, get comfy in whatever tickles you pic...

 Happy wife, longer life? Well, it's not quite the saying, but it is true. We all know that being in a relationship feels good, but do you know it actually could help you live longer and stay healthier? Studies show that couples who are satisfied in their relationships experience lower stress, better mental health and even reduced risks of heart disease and other serious health issues. In today's...

In relationships, it's easy to fall into the trap of keeping score counting. Who does more chores, who spends more time with the kids, or who provides more emotional support. But when relationships become transactional, with each partner focused on getting their fair share, it starts to create a division rather than closeness. In today's episode, we're talking about the concept of radical generosi...

Why are you guys doing that? She asked the question we were recently posed as we told a friend that we committed to doing a half Ironman together. The answer? Well, that's inside today's podcast. We're taking you on a deep dive as we pose five telling questions to one another about our decision. Some of the answers even surprised us, including what each of us were most concerned about in training...