Life (UN)Closeted: LGBTQ+ Coming Out Stories & Advice for living out and proud!

Imagine being a pop sensation. An Asian Pop Star in Korea. You’ve got a rising career, showed off your washboard abs on the cover of Men’s Health Magazine, to become known the Best of the East. Sounds awesome, right? Now the truth steps in. You want to be you. You make a conscious decision to…

Sometimes the bolder move of coming out of the closet is something that you can’t see and others can’t see in you. When we say, “See,” we mean, you should take that word literally. Yet, being legally blind doesn’t mean you can’t do the bolder things you want to do, go the places you want…

Today I’m closing chapters on the weekly Rant and Riffs segments. Don’t worry, those segments will still show up from time to time, but it’s time to let it go and focus on my new podcast 40 Plus: Real Men. Real Talk. That will be released on this day and time every week. As I…

Abuse. Entrapment. Feeling trapped in life. No way out. Not even a possibility of feeling Beyonce’ FIERCE. All of these feelings and life situations leads you to a point of being downtrodden, scared and ragged victim, standing in a food line at the Salvation Army. Who would have thought that your own fierce drive would lead…

Appetizers. Main course. Side Dishes. Desert. Sounds like it’s a full blown brunch. Now put your imagination caps on, and see that brunch buffet as the buffet of your life. So often we get focused on the main dish that we forget to appreciate the rest of the buffet. Here’s my take on something that…

Shhh. Don’t stare. He’s weird. She’s crazy. They’re not normal. Sounds like something kids say to each other. Yeah right. We adults do that too. Make catty remarks about how some acts, if they are the least bit not like us and don’t blink an eye. But what if that guy, that gal simply was…

Right wing. Left wing. Democrats. Republicans. Extremists. Conservatives. We have more in common than we think. But, I’m admitting something that is a deep dark secret of mine today. I’ve got quite a bit in common with the KKK as a gay man. There I’ve admitted it. In fact, as a member of the LGBTQ,…

Race. There’s not a headline in the news today that deal with some form of race relations. But what happens when Race Play – a form of fetish play – goes awry? Many things that actually evoke feelings, insights, and characteristics that make you want to go “Hmmmm,” and wonder is this why America and…

You’d be lying if you said, “I’ve never been bullied!” Hate to say it, we all have a bully. What might surprise you is that bully resides within. Everytime you put yourself down, or make a snide remark, or find yourself question your abilities, you tend to easily go down the path of bullying yourself.…

Once a bully, always a bully. But once bullied, doesn’t mean you have to stand for being bullied. Not now, not ever. Even in a world that seems the bullies are now out in full force, given free reign to do as they please, it’s time to take a stand to ensure that no one…

Three of the most used words in the English language are…I don’t know. You don’t? I don’t either. Not sure that statement is true, but I do know that way to many of us say, “I don’t know…” way to much. I’m guilty as charged and so are you. Here’s a simple exercise to help…

Imagine living a life of abuse – mental, cult religion, and hidden mixed orientation marriage – where all you did was feel neglected. Now imagine that this went for almost 40 years and you had been so brainwashed and gaslighted that you believed this was the way life was meant to be. From cult religious…

What does it mean to live in a space of where you feel limitless? If you listed to episode 370 with my friend Laura Gassner Otting, you know her new book –Limitless: How to Ignore Everybody, Carve Your Own Path, and Live Your Best Life – is all about setting yourself free to be in a…

What if success doesn’t equal happiness? What if happiness doesn’t grow on trees? What if you live your life believing you can’t do, blah, blah, blah? What if the problem is you and not seeing that you are limitless? Many of us spend our lives pursuing a singular idea of success, one that was created…

Honestly, there’s a lot of humanity damaging going on in the good old USA these days. Mostly from the political arena. Now with the Mueller investigation behind us, it seems that once again certain leaders whom I will not name because it makes me sick to the stomach to even consider typing his name, have…

All of us, in some way, shape, or form in our lives have been perceived as different. Yet, nothing is more painful to a child than to be perceived as weird because of their differences, only to be teased, and isolated simply for being who they are in their own unique way. Imagine for instance,…

Depression. Stigma. Shame. Misery. If you suffer with depression you know the stigma, shame, and misery depression causes in your life. To often those feelings lead you to hate your depression and try to fight it. Truth is, there is no fighting depression. Yes you can take medications to help balance it out, but to…

Shame on you! How many of us heard those words as kids? All right, maybe not so much these days, as I think that was the type of phrase us Baby Boomers heard growing up, but today the SHAME FACTOR is prevalent everywhere. You’re shamed if you don’t have enough followers on Instagram, if you…

To often we oblige for all the wrong reasons. Today I give you 3 steps for Curing Unhealthy Obliging. These steps came out of the podcast interview I recently did with Jeff Goins on Episode 364, where he discovered, so many of his own thoughts were what was keeping him hostage from living his life…

Imagine, saying to yourself, “Nothing I’ve ever done has felt like a success.” Then, as soon as the words escaped your lips, you feel like a hypocrite. Tons of people envy you. Your accomplishments stack up like a Jenga tower. Weekly, monthly, yearly, you cross off dreams and goals from your list – astounding yourself and…

Once a year we have the opportunity to celebrate women across the globe and contribute to raising awareness about gender bias on International Women’s Day. It’s time to uncloset disrespect of women, and celebrate their achievements, by creating a gender-balanced world. Today we make bold moves to celebrate everything that is the essence of women…

Flying. Minimalism. Sobriety. Adventure. Each one of those things is about taking flight to live an epic life and helping others live their version of an epic life. Quiet a mixed bag of tricks, eh? Yet, when it all gets put together, you find an extraordinary life where adventure and exploration are prevalent and you…

What happens when you get stuck in fear, don’t do the thing you most want to do, and you find yourself continuing to apologize for your life? If you are like most of us, you wallow in confusion and don’t get shit done! You freeze, might get angry with yourself, and then either start going…

Coming out is a challenge. It’s sticky, icky, and sometimes a blissful happy trail. Regardless of how the journey goes, guidance is always helpful. But where do you turn? Whom do you ask for help? The answers lie within you. Whether you’re coming out of the sexuality or gender identity closet, or coming out of…

Headline news about Jussie Smollett has us all questioning what’s happening here in America, especially, as it pertains to race, LGBTQ issues, and fake news. He made a bold move and it backfired. Yet, like rabid dogs, we could all jump on the bandwagons of “Jail the MOFO,” or “What was he thinking?,” or “This…