Life on the Swingset - The Swinging & Polyamory Podcast

When people consider exploring non-monogamy, we tell them to picture a pretty good but occasionally difficult relationship (ie, every relationship) and then picture it expanding exponentially because you've added more people. Eventually becoming a tesseract of interlocking and interconnected parts. Each of those parts, believe it or not, have a mind of their own. We've all been in moments where it...

It's pretty much a given that, at some point or another in swinging or polyamory, there will be boundary violations, safer sex failures, and other moments you'd talked about and thought about and made rules about. No matter how much hypothetical thought goes into it, though, often being confronted with these things in the real world can cause some serious "knocked on your ass" moments. Tonight we...

There are few acts in the pantheon of sexuality that carry with them so much intrigue, coveting, and fear, as double penetration, and its more advanced siblings double vaginal and double anal. For one thing, these really can't be done in a monogamous relationship. Oh sure, we can use dildos and such things, but that's not really where the intrigue lies, does it? We discuss double penetration or "D...

While we're pretty good on the Swingset at talking about our experiences in polyamory and swinging, We have limits to our shared experience, so we reached out and asked  Mike Joseph to join the Swingset and speak to us about his experience navigating dating and polyamory as a person of color.   We discussed some of the challenges dating couples, Dylan called the question: "Why should we have to co...

Ginger  takes the cords of the mailbag and sits down with  Dylan  and a LIVE STUDIO AUDIENCE as they answer listener questions for the 29th Gang Bang the Mailbag!  The Swinger Doc  also sits down for another edition of the Medical Mailbag! In this mailbag he answers a listener question on risks associated with hot tub sex! Questions in this Gang Bang the Mailbag include: My husband and I opened ou...

On this episode we'll be discussing mental illness in non-monogamy with special guest Cooper S Beckett from Life On The Swingset podcast and www.coopersbeckett.com Those of us in non-monogamous circles spend a unique amount of time relating with others in a very intimate manner. When we let go of the standard social narrative of one partner only and admit our desire for intimacy with multiple othe...

Cooper gets the night off as Ginger  makes herself available to  Dylan  to discuss his attraction to breasts, and his fear that they are the focus of too much attention and energy. The Swinger Doc sits down for another edition of the Medical Mailbag! In this mailbag he answers a listener question on how to find high quality sex positive and nonmonogamy friendly medical care. Help us out Swingset F...

All three of us here on the Swingset have occasionally dated and played independent of our partners, and all three of our partners have dated and played independent of us. A moment that can be tricky, especially early on in the swinging or poly lifestyles, is that moment of re-entry, where our partner (or us) returns from a date or play session. We take time to dissect how re-entry feels when you'...

We've talked a lot of bout community lately on the Swingset, and while we've specifically made the point that it's not enough to talk about diversity but to take action to seek it out, we've done a poor job of acknowledging that diversity includes diversity of racial background and we've contributed to a deafening silence around people of color in our communities. We invited Ms Pomegranate and Mr...

How do you find other swingers? How do you find people to date? Those top a list of frequent questions we get on the Swingset. As outsiders looking in, as people curious to get started, we all wonder if we'll be able to do this, because there's that foreign concept in the middle. Finding people to fuck. Finding people to date. Finding people not just okay with open, but enthusiastic about it. Toni...

We're back! We took the longest ( only ) hiatus in Swingset History and each of us has come back rested and ready. Today we discuss the blurring of the line between swinging and polyamory and how things tend to evolve in ways well beyond our expectations. [HAZINESS INTENSIFIES] We recorded this podcast LIVE in front of our audience of patrons. We're trying something new, if you have comments on th...

It's Desire Week at Life on the Swingset, with 150 days and less than 25 rooms remaining for our 2016 Desire Takeover (November 5-12) we're running Desire episodes of the podcast as well as blogs and articles. If you'd like to join us in Desire this November , head over to SSDesire.com ! It's booking fast! For this Desire Week special, Cooper offers five essays about Desire from the audiobook vers...

It's Desire Week at Life on the Swingset, with 150 days and less than 25 rooms remaining for our 2016 Desire Takeover (November 5-12) we're running Desire episodes of the podcast as well as blogs and articles. If you'd like to join us in Desire this November , head over to SSDesire.com ! It's booking fast! We took time out of our very hard and busy work schedules in Desire to record a discussion w...

Show notes for Episode 11 of the Our Better Half Podcast, March 20, 2016 Laura whispers about ASMR in your ear, interviews an ASMRtist, learns about Wisdom the Albatross, the history of dildos, and catches up on the news   Lauren Ostrowski Fenton, an ASMR provider Dr. Rosalind Baculum: Wisdom the Albatross Pt. 1 of Alberta Knish's toy series, this one on history of dildos   In case YOU missed it:...

It's Desire Week at Life on the Swingset, with 150 days and less than 25 rooms remaining for our 2016 Desire Takeover (November 5-12) we're running Desire episodes of the podcast as well as blogs and articles. If you'd like to join us in Desire this November , head over to SSDesire.com ! It's booking fast! Vacations. Aren't they great? But you know what's better? SEXY VACATIONS. The kind where you...

It's Desire Week at Life on the Swingset, with 150 days and less than 25 rooms remaining for our 2016 Desire Takeover (November 5-12) we're running Desire episodes of the podcast as well as blogs and articles. If you'd like to join us in Desire this November , head over to SSDesire.com ! It's booking fast! Ginger, Professor, Miko, Ronin, Ophilia, and Cooper are out of the office this week. They've...

It's Desire Week at Life on the Swingset, with 150 days and less than 25 rooms remaining for our 2016 Desire Takeover (November 5-12) we're running Desire episodes of the podcast as well as blogs and articles. If you'd like to join us in Desire this November , head over to SSDesire.com ! It's booking fast!   Desire. It's an emotion, raw and real. It's a place, warm and inviting, November 7th throu...

Ginger and Cooper continue to gang bang that mailbag! Tonight we answer questions about being given the go ahead to be open and then having it revoked, what it's like to be an introvert at a swing club, if voyeurism is allowed at clubs, difficulties playing separately, and transitioning from a swing relationship to a poly relationship. What do you think Dylan is off doing on his hiatus? Tweet at u...

Jealousy pops up everywhere in our lives -- at work, at home, and in romantic relationships. It can range from slight twinges to full-blown outbursts. No one likes feeling jealous, but it can be hard to avoid when you're in an alternative relationship. The Multiamory crew has gotten intimately acquainted with jealousy many times, and in this episode we share with you five tactics for turning your...

We're scaling back a little at The Swingset to allow ourselves to take some needed rest. This has caused Dylan to go off to The Dakotas to hunt mastodon. Meanwhile, Ginger and Cooper hold down the fort, debating whether or not two people can in fact gang bang a mailbag. Tonight we answer questions about bisexual exploration as men and women, bi invisibility, the one penis policy, what happens when...

"Pegging Enthusiast" isn't just Cooper's motto... it's his mission statement. One of the most specific sex acts, named in a contest by Dan Savage's Savage Love Readers, pegging is when a woman wearing a strap-on fucks a man in the ass. We've talked about it off and on over the years, always couched in the broader topic of anal play, but tonight we're going to give it its due. There's only one pers...

We've talked of group sex and orgies often, the logistics of sex and play parties, of mfm threesomes, and somehow danced around the actual genesis for our mailbag titles. It so happens that we know Jennifer, a frequent gang bang center of attention, and co planning conspirator, so we discuss the many ins and outs of gang bangs tonight!       Leave us a comment on this post or at  contact@lifeonthe...

Today's episode features me, Dylan , speaking with Daisy , Dawn Ardent , Damien , and Duncan as we chat about our community and how we enjoy those of us in the community...thoroughly, being closeted, and loss.   I mentioned we on the Swingset needed a break and it looks like we've gotten it. Soon you'll do away with the tyranny of Dylan Thomas and you'll once again have the comfortable and familia...

Hi Swingset Fans! Dylan Theodore Thomas here, (yes we've decided my middle name is Theodore) Over the last six years, Life on the Swingset has grown into more than the sum of its parts. It's a podcast, it's a community, it's a podcasting network , it's a family, One of the best parts of being here and being with you all is introducing you to new members of the family. Shaina, known as @LoveNSausag...

This isn't a regular episode. Dylan grabs the mic and takes over for a monologue on stress, thinking about being closeted, and intersectionality. In between all that Morgan tells us her origin story and tells how Swinging is her stress relief. You can read more about Mississippi's HB1523 on NPR, here . This really sums it up: "the Mississippi legislation protects only three beliefs or convictions:...