Life on the Swingset - The Swinging & Polyamory Podcast

We've all spent a big chunks of our your lives trying to transform relationships from "kind of okay" into "good". Most of us wait to have big conversations about what our relationships will look like until, well, long after they're already a problem, but what if we could, instead, do that work early instead of just assuming that everyone is playing by the same guidelines? Dr. NerdLove joins the Sw...

Attraction. Chemistry, Urges. Biting our lower lip. Pants Feelings. *grunt* Join Dirty Lola , Mike Joseph , Mister Pent , and Dylan Thomas as they welcome back Bex from The Dildorks as they all talk about what turns them on!   You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe . Help support Life on the Swingset c...

We've answered the same question a lot lately: How do single men navigate the lifestyle? We've rightfully mentioned the mountain most single men must climb to be successful, In discussing how to raise everyone's game we focused on the fact that many single cis straight men ruin it for everyone as they're everywhere and generally not well behaved. In describing them we used a phrase coined by Madel...

Sometimes we lose sight of some of the people and some of the things that matter in ourlives. Dr. Liz Powell , Mike Joseph , and Dylan Thomas get together and figure out how to recognize it, how it happens, and how to pull everything back together. Dr. Liz also takes some time to relay some con business while Dylan mentions his newly unlocked "double flogging" achievement.   Dr. Liz mentions the S...

Tonight, Madam Fierce joins the Mike Joseph , Dirty Lola , and Dylan to re-open the mailbag once again to give it the gang bang it deserves. The crew answers questions on the difference between swinging and polyamory, breaking up with another swing couple, swinging with too much enthusiasm, single male swingers, and first time swinging hiccups.   Question 1: Hi guys, this is to all of you, though...

Hello Swingset Fans! We're taking a short break, episode 300 took an immense amount of effort to prepare: From recording -actually live- with an almost hundred person audience to publishing it via an audio and video podcast, to normal scheduling shenanigans... we think it's well deserved. Cooper's going to take a short break from the Swingset, he deserves it, so we've manned the Swingset Battle Br...

Life on the Swingset gets back together at the ski chalet, high atop Mt. Swingset, except it's August and the air conditioning is on. The chair lifts aren't active so Ginger,  Mike Joseph , Dirty Lola , Chris Pent , Cooper S. Beckett , Dylan Thomas, Dr. Liz Powell , and Katie Mack had to make their way up the old fashioned way, hand over hand. It's a special day, Life on the Swingset celebrates it...

When people think of sex, they generally assume there's penile penetration, probably into a vagina, and that everything leading up to that penetration is foreplay. It's a very narrow view, but it's a view that stubbornly persists into non-monogamy. Tonight, on our #roadto300, we consider this episode on foreplay  as foreplay. Dirty Lola , Dr. Liz Powell , Dylan Thomas , and Cooper S. Beckett get t...

It is always risky, telling people what you're into, what you want, that you like them, but as we've found out it's often essential in getting anywhere in non-monogamy and in life. Tonight  Dirty Lola , Cooper S. Beckett , Dr. Liz Powell , and Dylan Thomas discuss how to put yourself out there and how to take it when others do the same.     You can support us while you buy great sex toys and produ...

Dirty Lola , Cooper S. Beckett , and Dr. Liz Powell get together to discuss threesomes , the bests, the worsts, and the firsts     Check out Swinger Safari , the mobile app that has privacy, filter, and geolocation features unlike anything the Swingset has used before! Download the app for free and use the promo code LOTSS to get your free 60 days! You can support us while you buy great sex toys a...

When setting up your dating profile, be it monogamous, poly, or swinger, if you're considering putting a big close up of your dick front and center, you MAY want to reconsider. Tonight the Cunning Minx , host of Polyamory Weekly and co-author of the new book: No Dick Pics: Your Guide to Creating an Irresistible Online Dating Profile joins Dylan Thomas , Cooper S. Beckett , Mike Joseph , and Dr. Li...

Most of us, especially when young, hope that death will never come, or at least not for a really really long time, and that can mean being unprepared when it does. Difficulties with visitation, inheritance, and others are issues ignored at our own peril. Dr. Liz Powell talks personally and painfully about Elliot, a partner recently and unexpectedly deceased, and along with Dylan Thomas , Mike Jose...

Non-monogamy definitely ups the ante on BUSY, which causes many of us to try to organize and plan our lives as carefully as possible. We say things like "I'm not going to date anyone new right now, or like some fool said last week, I'm not going to have long distance relationships anymore." So, Dr. Liz Powell , Dirty Lola , Cooper S. Beckett , and Dylan Thomas discuss what happens when someone pop...

  We have a habit here of finding people fascinating on social media and at conferences, and so often they seem to live so very far away... like many members of the Swingset. Mike Joseph , Cooper S. Beckett , Dr. Liz Powell, and Dylan Thomas get together to discuss the distance between all us and how we work around it. Also, Daddy Dylan takes a little time to story tell about legacy recording medi...

Over the last five years, the Swingset has seen first hand the glorious moments and difficulties of building our own community on our trips to the most pleasurable place on earth at Desire Resort in Cancun . This year represents our second takeover, and our sixth trip, and tonight we're joined by all the hosts of this year's trip ( JV Altharas , Shara Bono , Tristan Taormino , Ginger Bentham , Dyl...

In traditional one on one sex, you pretty much know who you'll be engaging with, but when that complexity deepens to three, four, five or more (which is where we switch to the term orgy) there are a lot more, ahem, moving parts , to contend with. Group sex has a special set of dynamics, so Dr. Liz Powell , Mike Joseph , Dylan Thomas , and Cooper S. Beckett break them down! The co-hosts touch on th...

We're Gang Banging the Mailbag once again, it is in fact our 33rd time! Today,  Dirty Lola ,  Cooper S. Beckett ,  Dr. Liz Powell , and  Dylan Thomas  answer your listener questions! Also, Dylan wants to throw a shoutout to Bex Caputo, aka:  @BexTalksSex  on Twitter, for their article:  Changing What You Love: On Considering Hormones While You're Non-Binary   Question 1: I was hoping you could giv...

Eighteen episodes is the longest we've ever gone without a listener mailbag episode, so tonight we've dug in deep with a new collection of listener questions including a highly coveted voicemail (573-55-SWING folks)! Dr. Liz Powell ,  Mike Joseph , Dirty Lola , Cooper S. Beckett , and Dylan Thomas  field your questions and dig deep. In addition to fielding a voicemail question about dating and lea...

For many of us, masturbation is one of the first things to go when we're depressed. Tonight we're going to explore the flipside of our full throttled self love. The hows the whys the whens, on this episode we're rubbing one or two or three or more out. Mike Joseph , Dirty Lola , Cooper S. Beckett , and Dr. Liz Powell discuss keeping the motors running, even if they're driving solo.   Check out Swi...

We talk about butts bunches. Many of us enjoy putting things in our butts. Some of us wish we enjoyed it. What we don't often get into is the whys of butt play, how to make it better, how to explore it at first, and why anal sex can be awesome, so Dirty Lola , Cooper S. Beckett , Dr. Liz Powell , and Dylan Thomas get together to tell some stories and relay some expert opinion!   Help us find our B...

We've talked a lot about porn, often in high falutin ways about its importance (cuz it is important), its ability to change the world (cuz it has that), its danger of extinction (oh my the politics), and its ability to be beautiful. What we haven't discussed much is how sexy it can be, and how silly, sexy, and mundane making it can be. Kate Sinclaire , founder of CherryStems.com  joins Dylan Thoma...

We've all had the experience of life getting in the way of our sexy. Sometimes life pounds us with things that try to compel us to STAY DOWN. Tonight, Ginger Bentham returns and joins Mike Joseph , Dirty Lola , Cooper S. Beckett , and Dylan Thomas to discuss keeping it sexy through the curves life throws at us.   Help us find our Best in Show! You can support us while you buy great sex toys and pr...

Non-monogamy is riding a wave. Recently CNN had a positive article about the fact that more and more young people are choosing some flavor non-monogamy over traditional relationship forms. Awareness continues to grow exponentially, but with that comes the desperate need for a place to go to ask questions. Like us, our guest, the polyamory pundit Andre Shakti has submitted herself to the often scar...

Ginger continues the two-year tradition by sitting down with Cooper for a frank and intimate discussion about his new novel Approaching the Swingularity: Tales of Swinging & Polyamory , toxic masculinity, inclusion and diversity, sexuality, and sexy vacations and resorts. You can buy the book now RIGHT HERE at ApproachingTheSwingularity.com/ - use promo code SWINGSET at checkout to save 10%! If yo...

  Hey Swingset Fans, Dylan Thomas here. It's an off week for the Swingset. We're going to schedule these in every so often because you know what... it's nice to have a week off. Just... pretend I'm sticking my tongue out at you all right now. Anyway, tomorrow night we record together again! Guest Andre Shakti rejoins the swingset and you can listen in, if you support Life on the Swingset by subscr...