Life on the Swingset - The Swinging & Polyamory Podcast

How do you handle new relationships now that you’re non-monogamous? It’s like turning a cruise ship around, climbing a mountain, and a myriad of other metaphors. We have long talked about taking your relationship from a place of monogamy to a place of non-monogamy. How to take something that is already defined and do a full on paradigm shift with it, transforming it into something altogether new,...

Pegging: The act of a female giving anal sex to a male using a strap-on. Some couples enjoy the power reversal of this and some guys simply just like it up the arse. How do we do it? What are the right tools for the job? Does it actually feel good? I'm a straight guy, will pegging make me gay?   Lyndzi Miller  ( @Lyndzi ), Tool Shed staff member and sexuality educator, and Cooper answer these ques...

Masturbation is awesome, isn’t it? Sex for two, few would argue, is even better. Threesomes are roundly considered to be one of the epitome’s of the sexual experience. Let’s add a few more to that, shake it right up, and create something spectacular. A writhing mass of sexy, everywhere you look people giving or receiving pleasure. Tonight we talk about that wonder of wonders, that glory of glories...

Swing With Friends! ... except sometimes the distance between those friends is enough to qualify the trip as more of a sexcation instead of a normal date. Whether because we live in less populated areas or because we've struck up online flirtations, sometimes you have people you just want to reach out and touch, but have to drive or fly for a few hours to do so. Doing this sets up a whole list of...

Sex is awesome. We’re all on board with that, right? Beyond the act, er, acts, for many of us (in fact I’d wager a large percentage of our listeners) getting information about sex carries with it its own form of titillation and enjoyment. That’s the purview of the sex geek. Tonight we’re lucky enough to be joined by Kate McCombs who has turned geeking out about sex into an art form, and into her l...

We all want to be "on". We carve out the time, spend some money, clean up the house, groom our fun areas, and make the arrangements with the people we want to see. Sometimes as "the time" gets closer we realize... we're not really up to the task, and while there's still a good time be had we may not be interested in sealing the deal. We discuss dry spells, lulls in desire, varying levels of intens...

Happy New Year everyone! 2013 was a year filled with pain, regret, and some amazing time spend with wonderful people, fans, and at fantastic venues and conventions. 2014 is on course to be a much better year for those of us on the Swingset. We all got together (Cooper, Dylan,  Shira, and Miko) to discuss our hopes and our projects for this new year. Dylan seems to spout out a new resolution every...

We had a pretty rough year on the Swingset. We had some wonderful ups, speaking at two major sex-positive conferences about Progressive Swinging, giving a "Swinging 101" seminar at the Tool Shed in Milwaukee, WI, hosting a second trip to Desire: Riviera Maya, and had some terrible lows; divorce and relationship drama, family issues, and extreme time constraints. We decided to have a nice little en...

This is Part 2 of my accidental roundtable discussion put together in the seaside room of one of our guests at Desire - Riviera Maya. We continue the discussion about bi-women, mansplaining, and puppeteering, and move into non-monogamy identifiers and why they were useful, but taking some time to talk with other people in a room is much more useful. We end our discussion with giving the reasons we...

Dylan had an idea. He thought it'd be a great idea to sit down, two on one with couples while at Desire and interview them, ask questions about how their vacation was going, get some decent soundbites, and enjoy the calm warmth of good discussion and good company. This was anything but calm. What began as a simple interview turned into a roundtable (dildohead) discussion where no topic found itsel...

Midway through Life on the Swingset's second annual trip to Desire Resort & Spa in Cancun, Dylan, Ginger, & Cooper sat down with many of the tour guests to record a silly podcast reflecting on the trip so far, and what lifestyle vacations can be. There's a drinking game, there's guests talking about what Desire means to them, there's Dylan and Cooper squaring off the way they always seem to do in...

We've evolved quite a bit over the last three years, our choices in play preferences, what we're open to, and the people we're open to play with have expanded as well. We've chosen to use safer sex barrier barriers and integrated it with our play. Thinking about it all in the lens of Risk Aware Sex, a term coined by   Dr. Antoinette Izzo   is what we discuss today. Getting away from fallacies and...

When preparing to embark on open relationship, or deep within the throes of one, hammering out an open agreement, determining your rules and boundaries, and having those ever important discussions are essential. Today we’re joined by Cat Maness, creator of   Our Open Agreement   Tool, an online resource for creating your agreements, to discuss why these are worth having and discuss how to put them...

The past two episodes have been live recordings in front of an audience of folks anxious to listen to us talk about non-monogamy and swinging. Our “toury-ness” has brought us to San Francisco, Washington DC, Los Angeles, and Milwaukee. On the road we’ve learned about our audience, we’ve learned about ourselves. Tonight on Life on the Swingset, the podcast, we talk about what it has taught us, why...

  A Primer on Swinging: How to Meet, Have Sexy Times, & Otherwise Enjoy Your Friends and Neighbors Cooper and Dylan, co-hosts of Life on the Swingset the podcast, take you through the common peaks and valleys of beginning swinging, from the moment that voice in your head tells you that you're different, to when you're setting up that gang-bang for your fiancee's birthday. They cover jealousy, safe...

Our second trip to CatalystCon in 2013 yeilded our best audience yet, and our most cohesive discussion on what Progressive Swinging truly means. We discuss the importance of community, coming out if you can, safety, and fun, as well as learning about yourself and your partner(s). From the Catalyst Con program Sex with Benefits: Progressive Swinging Cooper Beckett ,  Ginger Bentham ,  Dylan Thomas...

Chaos.  Just chaos. 

We've flipped it in and out, over and under, even hung it up and left it for a while, that mailbag gets a lot of gang bang action... as it should! We take more of your questions (send us more at contact@lifeontheswingset.com) and discuss questions about swing clubs; how to approach couples, whether virgins are verboten, and whether voyeurism and exhibition and girl/girl are encouraged, we discuss...

Today we hit the mailbag hard... harder than usual.  We like our mailbag and we received a metric ton of your questions! We talked about cream pies and how to play safer, with a detour about ethical swinging, food allergies and play parties, declining sex lives due to illness, and blogging your experiences on the Internet. We also took time to catch up with our favorite Technogeisha, Miko, and get...

You don't know any swingers in person. You don't know where any clubs are. You're eager, wide eyed, and ready to explore sexiness with others. Luckily the Swingset has been there and we found our way out! We discuss posting profiles online, we go through the basics of what to include in a profile, how pictures affect how other swingers perceive you and how you perceive them, protecting privacy, pr...

We had every intention about talking about swinger bloopers this episode. It stayed in our heads while we went through business... then went through some more business... then we lost it and ended up talking about "the long game", some relationship updates, and just general non-monogamy and how living this lifestyle is out in the real world. So, please enjoy our accidentally off-topic update show!...

Cooper, Shira, Ginger, and The Professor (tm) all get together for a discussion on kissing; why it's a big deal, why some swingers make rules against it, how it feels great... how badly you can screw it up! Check out the  Smitten Kitten Online  and use our discount code,  SWINGSET  for a 10% discount! Check out the   Lelo Gigi Rechargeable Vibrator !

Shira B. Katz makes her triumphant return with a considerable discussion about impermanence and how the changes in her and both Cooper's relationships statuses have affected their views on non-monogamy and their own sexuality, and how... that is ok. We also worked some Law and Order, Doctor Who, and "cream" as a verb into the discussion. Check it out! [powerpress] Check out the  Smitten Kitten Onl...

Riding herd on the Swingset isn't something you forget. Ginger isn't ready to put it behind her, so she holds on to the reigns and rides harder; we discuss our best erotic moments as swingers, explanabrags via managing multiple but separate partner issues, and we watch Cooper devolve into domina's pet! [powerpress] Check out the  Smitten Kitten Online  and use our discount code,  SWINGSET  for a 1...

Ginger Bentham takes over the Swingset today to ask questions we may never have directly addressed. Our Domina inquires about condom disasters, our biggest turn-offs, and how to approach a big group of people. We also get to see a peek into Ginger and the Prof's relationship dynamic, it's pretty wonderful! Check out the  Smitten Kitten Online  and use our discount code,  SWINGSET  for a 10% discou...