Life on the Swingset - The Swinging & Polyamory Podcast

All of us living life on the Swingset are well-versed in the passion, communication, and negotiation being consensually non-monogamous requires. Yet it's rare to see our kinds of relationships portrayed in mainstream films. One such film about to be released is Marriage 2.0 written and produced by Magnus Sullivan. In Magnus's movie, we are (quote) "invited to celebrate a modern redefinition of the...

We've talked at length about the sad fact that many young people in america get the entirety of their sex ed from watching porn. When porn comes that's actually designed to educate, however, it can be revelatory. We're rejoined by old friend (and new   Swingset. FM   contributor)   Sophie Delancey   from   The Art of Blowjob   and the brand new   Art of Cunnilingus   to talk about art, educational...

Those of us who write about sex and speak about sex and sing about sex have stepped into a unique realm in our society. Where sex was always a hush hush don't talk about it subject, we've decided to podcast, and write, and write songs, and express our sexuality into the world for many different reasons. Rachel Lark, who wrote those awesome naughty Christmas songs a few episodes ago, has joined us...

Cooper, Dylan, and Miko return to Milwaukee, Wisconsin's wonderful Tool Shed to reprise Swingset's discussion on play parties. They’re whispered about, opinions are drawn, expectations are high for both attendees and non. The sex party, the play party, the swinger party, call it what you will, to anyone who’s never been to one they conjure up visions of hedonistic abandon, or deeply creepy masked...

In our Swinging for Dummies Series thus far, we've taken you through deciding you're open, talking to your partner, setting up your profile, and going on a first date. We think you're ready for the meat of the course now: Threesomes! We discuss the ever-present acronyms fmf, mfm, mmf, different configurations and play styles, thinking about the new person as a sex toy, an other, or as an honored g...

The Swingset welcomes back  Crista Anne  to discuss her recent commitment to herself; to find a path back to self-orgasm through once a day masturbation. Through her very personal and public  #OrgasmQuest  Crista is documenting her navigation through life-long depression, antidepressants, self-care, living and loving life and parenting and today she shares it all with us, and we share our stories...

Our mailbag, full of pluck and fancy, keeps coming back with more questions for us to ponder and maybe even eventualy answer! Today we discuss swinging as parents of very young children, broken rules and people set off-limits, multiple male orgasms and never fail erections, "Poly Doesn't Work", what to do when finding out the local neighborhood teenager knows, and finding lust in Minnesota. We als...

It's a new year and there are new questions in the mailbag, even a few voicemails! Tonight on Life on the Swingset, the podcast, we gang bang the mailbag as this series turns 18. We discuss some newbie swinger questions in a lightning round style segment, post sti-transmission risk-aware sex and stigma, imbalances in attraction in coupling, and dirty talk!   Give us a call and leave a voicemail at...

Ginger sits down with Cooper for a one-on-one discussion of his book  My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory , recorded on the day of launch. Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything! Buy Cooper's book  My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory  at  MyLotSS.com Interested in sign...

Consent shouldn't be something we have to teach, It's the simplest thing in the world, ask before you touch. But beyond that, consent is involved in so many aspects of our non-monogamous lives, that learning how to give and receive enthusiastic consent is one of the most important things we learn early on as we open up. So that's what we're talking about tonight on Life on the Swingset, The Podcas...

We look back at 2014, what was a year of aggressive expansion for The Swingset, to talk about  Desire , going to conferences, teaching classes, getting married, using new dildos like the awesome  Tantus Echo Handle , writing books, and more in our annual year-end wrap-up.

In an episode that has been attempted every year since the beginning, we reflect on days of non-monogamy gone by, talking about our bloopers and issues and funny times and sad times, and recognize all the oddities that come from early days in swinging and polyamory. We're also thrilled to present two holiday songs by the incomparable  Rachel Lark  off her new album  Hung For The Holidays , as well...

As a lifestyle that is outside the mainstream, ethical non-monogamy tends to attract humans who are outside the mainstream. This certainly goes for the men...men who treat women as equals...men who are self-aware, respectful, and are cognizant of the power they hold in the world. Tonight on Life on The Swingset: The Podcast, we will hear from four of those men about how they navigate their relatio...

When the topic of sexual shame comes up, nowhere is it greater than the institutionalized shame heaped upon the women of the world, asked to be both hypersexual and aesexual simultaneously. Tonight we're re-joined by our friend Lady Cheeky, Elle Chase, who is featured in upcoming documentary "Inside Her Sex" exploring female sexuality and shame. * Editor's note: We had minor technical difficulties...

Heidi and Danny from the Swingin' Around podcast take Cooper aside for a little chat in the heart of paradise and discuss their experiences during their second visit to the resort. They talk massages, non-consensual choking, hot tubs, Cooper getting married, getting naked and all in all have a great time!   Join us in Mexico next year for Swingset Takes Desire 2015! Give us a call and leave a voic...

We took time out of our very hard and busy work schedules in Desire to record a discussion with JV and Shara of Ending the Sexual Dark Age as well as a couple dozen other sexy naked people, We discuss what Desire means to us, what having places where we can be our authentic selves means and about creating those spaces wherever, whenever, and with whoever we can. We hear from people about getting c...

Ginger, Professor, Miko, Ronin, Ophilia, and Cooper are out of the office this week. They've jet off to paradise in Mexico at Desire Resort and Spa for the third annual Life on the Swingset Takes Desire. With 160 people along for the ride, they've spent a week of hedonism, debauchery, and drunkenness that would make the Rolling Stones sit back and take note. On Thursday of their week long trip, th...

We've talked and talked about awesome sex toys are, the tremendous advancements in the field, the glory of stainless steel and silicone, body safe and body conscious products. You know all of that. So, today we're gonna talk about the flip side. The worst sex toys in the woooooorld! #SuchKeithOlbermannMuchClass Crista Anne of  Dildology  joins us as well as the  Redhead Beadhead , JoEllen Notte! A...

We at the Swingset are not wealthy. Despite what some may think, we don't make a fabulous living delivering a free podcast to you folks week after week. Despite that, though, we can afford to go to the occasional party, take the occasional (yearly) trip to Desire, sign up for paying sites. Or at least these ideas aren't incredibly foreign to us. On this episode we talk about how to "do" non monoga...

Asked and Answered Swingsetters! We discuss downgrading swing relationships, unexpected kissing jealousy, bi-threesome issues, partners backing out, theoretical jealousy, silicone lube on silicone toys and the most basic of questions... "How do I bring up swinging to my partner?" to which one of our answers is "Never with surprise swinging."   Want to help our friends at  Burlesque Toy Shop  get t...

Sweet Gang Bang Sixteen! We've taken your questions and answered them on air! We discuss a single poly woman dating a monogamous guy, being new and a virgin in non-monogamy, coming out as polyamorous to your family, talking to our children, jealousy, and navigating poly relationships when unprotected sex happens.   Want to help our friends at  Burlesque Toy Shop  get their first brick and mortar b...

Cooper super-sizes his Swinging Primer, as you do when you're teaching in LA.    Class description: "Cooper Beckett, from the podcast Life on the Swingset, takes you through the common peaks and valleys of beginning swinging, covering jealousy, safer sex practices, communication and more. Whether you're brand new to swinging, been doing it for years, or just fascinated by the idea, there's somethi...

Tonight we discuss erotica, writing it, reading it, tweeting it, living it with our guest Rachel Kramer Bussel. We discuss Rachel's extensive history in both writing and editing erotica, where erotica fits in every day life, expression, fiction, and reality in erotica, written vs. spoken vs. digital, how erotica lives with other forms of erotic material, and how erotica uniquely forces us to open...

There is much to say about this recording. And also very little. You see it sits in a portion of our minds, like it sits behind a drop of water, but who are we kidding, it sits behind drink. The foul stuff that has put us in a very boisterous mood to say the least. To say the very least. It isn't long before everything breaks down. The center simply CANNOT hold. And you get this. You are presented...

Life on the Swingset returns to CatalystCon West for a live podcast about group sex You know that one thing you can do outside monogamy that you can’t do within? You can have group sex. That’s right, many people getting naked and sexy together. That’s how the non-monogamous do. So today, for our very first live podcast (which is only a mild distinction from panel) we are talking about that whole t...