Life on the Swingset

Long distance relationships are pretty common in non-monogamous communities, and they are becoming even easier to maintain with modern technology. This week, we share the latest statistics on on the success of long distance relationships as well as fundamental practices to keep your LDR running smooth. If you want to support our show, the best [...]

Forget participation trophies! This week we're talking about self-esteem. We all have our highs and lows, but did you know that having greater self-esteem is associated with better health and a better social life? We'll talk about the easiest ways to get a lasting self-esteem boost, whether it's possible to have self-esteem that's too high, [...]

Geekery & non-monogamy crossover in so many ways. So many of the people we've met, connected with, and sexed up have been fellow geeks that enjoy much of the same pop culture that we do, whether it's movies, tv shows, books, musical theatre, roleplaying games, or video games. You need to have something to talk [...]

Are your relationships a dumping ground for toxic waste? This week we talk about the hallmarks of toxicity in relationships. Whether you've got a toxic metamour, romantic partner, co-worker, or friend, tune in to learn how to recognize the signs and break free. If you want to support our show, the best way is to [...]

Do you feel like you can do anything? Are your palms sweaty and your stomach butterfly…ish? You may be feeling New Relationship Energy (NRE). This week we talk about the chemical overload your brain gives you when you're first falling in love, as well as strategies to stay grounded and care for other relationships even [...]

When you start talking to people about non-traditional relationships, the reaction isn't always pretty. This week dicuss what motivates negative reactions to non-monogamy, as well as practical tips for handling the haters and rocking tough conversations with grace and ease. If you want to support our show, the best way is to become one of [...]

Some people think polyamory can only function with a primary-secondary hierarchy. Others think it's a recipe for disaster. On this episode, we want to dive into the nuances of hierarchy — how it has affected our lives personally, when it's been beneficial, and when it's been painful. If you want to support our show, the [...]

Sex, particularly kinky sex, is still a taboo subject in our sex negative culture. We're not supposed to talk about it so we don't learn good communication skills around it. It's one of those things that is supposed to just kinda happen. We hang onto a lot of the messages we got about sex growing [...]

The trembling flower of submission and BDSM educator, Mollena Williams-Haas, and the beast of burlesque and sex worker rights advocate, Motherfuckin Akynos, join Lola onstage at Otto’s Shrunken Head on October 28th, 2017 for another installment of Sex Ed A Go-Go.     On this episode of Sex Ed A Go-Go, Lola and the crew [...]

No one wants a relationship full of drama…or do they? Turns out there are specific roles that many of us actually enjoy to play in any given “drama” situation. This week we talk about how to break the cycle and transform drama into empowerment. If you want to support our show, the best way is [...]

Have you ever tensed up when a partner tried to hug you after a fight? What about feeling weird when a partner comes home from a date with someone else? This week we're talking about the best ways to reconnect with a partner after a physical or emotional separation, even when it doesn't feel easy. [...]

On this episode we speak with Dr. Alex Bove about the findings of his recently published research on metamours and masculinity, titled: “Meta, More or Less? A Phenomenological Study of Polyamorous Men’s Relationships with Their Male Metamours.” Tune in to find out more about the three phases of the metamour relationship, as well as the [...]

This week we're coming at ya live from our first ever patreon retreat in Lake Tahoe, CA! We answer questions from our Patreon supporters, discussing how to avoid scarcity mindset, preventing burnout, fostering inclusivity, Emily's goddess voice, and more! If you want to support our show, the best way is to become one of our [...]

Click-baity title aside, many people would like to figure out how to get more sex and better sex in their lives. It's not a priority for everyone, and isn't required to be, but for those who are looking to get more sex in their lives, it can be a struggle. We're here to tell you [...]

Expert bra fitter and body positive media content creator, Kimmay Caldwell, and the human tornado of burlesque and Switch and Play Drag collective member, Divina Gransparkle, joined Lola onstage for the first time at Otto’s Shrunken Head on September 30th, 2017 for another installment of Sex Ed A Go-Go.     On this episode of [...]

What does it mean to have a relationship that feels “equal”? Is it a fair division of labor? Mutual trust and respect? Treating every partner exactly the same? This week we dive in to equal and inequal relationships, as well as how the concept of equity can help to bring balance to your love life. [...]