Life After Divorce Coaching

In this episode Doreen and Jeff discuss different ways to speed up the divorce process. They will give up ways to speed up the process and will not only save you time, but it may also save you money, emotion, and stress. The less confrontational the divorce, generally, the less time it will take. Book your free call with Jeff at: https://lad-coaching.com/schedule-appointment/  

We are talking about the big things, little things. We are talking about daily things, talking about hourly things, and lifelong things. Today in episode 165, we are talking about honoring your own wants. We think it’s impossible to live the fullest expression of yourself if you don’t honor your own wants. There are a lot of people either accepting, “I don’t know” and not caring enough about what...

Regret is typically not a very useful emotion. It has us worrying and stressed. It’s usually over something that’s happened or been done. It’s like a missed opportunity or a failed event is kind of how I think about it. And the feeling is this intense disappointment over having made the “wrong” decision. In this episode Doreen and Jeff discuss how regret will not serve your wants or your goals. Bo...

In this exciting episode you’ll find out how Doreen Yaffa, a high power Board Certified Family Attorney of almost 30 years and her husband, 4th degree Black Belt, Sensei Jeff Wilson both became Life Coaches and started their business Life After Divorce Coaching in Boca Raton, Florida. This episode will also appear for the first time on YouTube. So, hear or see them explain their motivation and lov...

About half of all American children will experience their parents’ divorce. While divorce is often stressful for families, a great deal of the stress gets thrusted onto the children trying to adjust to their new life. One important factor linked with child outcomes after divorce is the quality of the divorced couple’s co-parenting relationship. In this episode Doreen and Jeff discuss some of the d...

In this episode, Doreen and Jeff dive into the impact of relying on hope and luck, and how these attitudes can actually hinder your future results. They explore the common mindset of saying "someday if I’m lucky enough" or "I hope so," and explain why these thoughts can keep you stuck in place rather than moving forward. Learn how to shift your mindset from wishful thinking to setting powerful, in...

In this episode, Jeff and Doreen explore the transformative effects of slowing down your mind. During the divorce process taking the time to calm our mind and body allows us to think more rationally and make better decisions. Deep breathing serves as a powerful tool to achieve this state of calmness, allowing us to think clearly and make choices that align with our wants. By combining a calm, rati...

People are often taught to see the world in black and white, categorizing things as either good or bad. There are good guys and bad guys, and the goal is to eliminate the bad so that only the good remains. However, this binary thinking can lead to unrealistic expectations and an intolerance for anything less than perfection from yourself or others, ultimately making you miserable. In this episode,...

In this episode, Jeff and Doreen explore how a cost-benefit analysis, commonly used in business, can be a powerful tool during a divorce. This method involves evaluating the worth of a relationship or action by subtracting the costs (such as time, money, and effort) from the benefits (such as friendship, companionship, and social support). This analysis can help you strategically approach the divo...

Fitness and exercise have many benefits to your life after divorce. Join us as Doreen and Jeff discuss the many ways you can benefit both mentally and physically from exercise.

Communication is the most important skill in marriage and in divorce. You spend years learning how to read, write, and speak. But what about listening? What training have you had that enables you to listen so you really, deeply understand another human being? Probably none, right? During most divorces, spouses like most people, seek first to be understood to get their point across. In doing so, yo...

In this episode, Jeff and Doreen provide a comprehensive guide on what to ask during a legal consultation with a divorce attorney. Navigating a divorce can be overwhelming, but knowing the right questions to ask can help you feel more prepared and confident. They cover essential topics to discuss, ensuring you get the most out of your consultation and lay a solid foundation for your case. By askin...

In this episode, Jeff and Doreen dive into the legal aspects of divorce, discussing why it can be advantageous for a spouse to file for divorce first. Drawing on Doreen’s nearly 30 years of experience as a Family Attorney and over 20 years of being Board Certified in Family Law, they share invaluable insights into the divorce process and the strategic benefits of being the first to file. Tune in t...

In this episode, Jeff and Doreen dive into the difference between hearing and listening. Hearing is an automatic, constant physical ability – it’s passive reception of sound waves from the environment, requiring no conscious effort. On the other hand, listening is an active process – it’s about paying attention, decoding, and understanding the messages being communicated. When going through a divo...

Acknowledging your  worth  and believing in it is indeed crucial during such a challenging time better known as divorce.  Self -awareness and  self -assurance can help you rebuild your life and set a positive foundation for the future. It's like renovating a house; you need to clear out the old, damaged parts and build something stronger and more resilient in their place. In the episode Jeff and D...

Finding your new self after  a  divorce can be challenging but also exhilarating. After years of being part of a couple, figuring out who you are on your own might seem daunting, but it’s also an opportunity to explore new possibilities and invigorate your life. The upside of divorce is that it provides a fantastic opportunity for growth and self-discovery. In this episode, Jeff and Doreen discuss...

Summer is here and the heat is on! Who gets the kids and for how long? While most summer schedules are determined during the divorce process, it's essential to maintain flexibility, compassion, and understanding towards your ex. Prioritizing the kids' needs and ensuring they have a relaxing and enjoyable summer vacation is key. In this episode, Jeff and Doreen discuss strategies for balancing summ...

Whether you are co-parenting or striving for a more civil relationship, effective communication with a clear purpose is crucial. In this episode, Jeff and Doreen explore strategies designed to help you navigate conversations with anyone, especially your ex. They share insights and practical tips to enhance your communication skills, fostering better understanding and cooperation. Join them to lear...

Divorce mediation is a viable option for couples considering divorce in Florida. This voluntary process allows couples to make decisions about various aspects of their divorce with the assistance of a mediator. In this episode Jeff and Doreen discuss the process itself and add in a few tips to make the process go smoother and allow for the process to be a success.

Guilt manifests in various forms during a divorce, often intertwined with feelings of regret and shame. It's common for at least one party to experience guilt to some degree. If left unaddressed, guilt can disrupt the divorce process, particularly during settlement negotiations, in two primary ways. First, guilt can lead to one party making overly generous concessions, driven by a sense of remorse...

In this episode, Doreen and Jeff delve into the delicate topic of introducing a new romantic partner to one's children. They explore the timing and approach that are essential for ensuring a smooth and positive transition for both the parent and the children. By discussing the right time and the appropriate manner in which to introduce a new partner, Doreen and Jeff aim to provide listeners with v...

Unchecked anger can exacerbate the challenges of divorce, fueling extensive and bitter litigation that inflicts unnecessary financial strain on families. Prolonged legal battles, lasting for months or even years, and can tear families apart and pose significant harm to children. In this episode, Jeff and Doreen offer guidance on effectively managing anger before, during, and after divorce. By addr...

Often, we're drawn to the allure of the "after" picture without fully embracing the journey it takes to get there. We yearn for the end result without wanting to endure the river of misery that flows in between. It's human nature to desire instant gratification and to shy away from the process, preferring immediate results over the daily steps required to reach our goals. However, it's crucial to...

In today's episode, Jeff and Doreen delve into the concept of finding oneself, emphasizing that this journey is merely the starting point. Beyond discovering your true self, it's essential to identify your desires and goals, and then take proactive steps to manifest the life you envision. Taking action is the crucial key to transforming your aspirations into reality.

Rather than succumbing to feelings of embarrassment, guilt, or being immobilized by procrastination, consider the potential for something extraordinary. In this episode, Jeff and Doreen dive into Procrastination and how it can serve as a catalyst for unleashing your creativity and productivity. By understanding your procrastination patterns, you can transform your thoughts ( The Model-Episode #120...