Let's Talk About Sex, Really

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Dr. Alisa Kriegel opens up a candid and empowering conversation about sexuality in midlife and beyond. Challenging the widespread belief that sex declines with age, she shares both research and personal experience to show that desire, intimacy, and pleasure can continue—and even deepen—later in life. Drawing from her own journey after a 25-year sexless marriage, D...

Send us Fan Mail In this short episode, Alisa reflects on something simple that can bring couples closer: reading together. After a recent book event where a couple shared that they had been reading her memoir aloud to each other, Alisa began thinking about the quiet intimacy that can grow from sharing words on a page. Reading together invites conversation, curiosity, and connection — without pres...

Send us Fan Mail Is your relationship feeling more like a "roommate" dynamic than a romantic one? You aren’t alone. Statistics show that 25-40% of couples find themselves in a sexless cycle—but understanding why is the first step toward reconnection. In this episode:  Dr. Alisa Kriegel explores the psychological and physiological layers of intimacy. Moving beyond the "performance pr...

Send us Fan Mail I'm back from a brief hiatus during which time my memoir, "From Sexless Marriage To Sex Goddess," launched. I struggled before publishing, and even after, with the idea that psychologists aren't supposed to do this: I'm not supposed to be vulnerable or honest about my life.  In many ways, this is true for most of us. We're rarely encouraged or taught...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Dr. Alisa shares her recommendations for natural products to address moisture and dryness issues, focusing on two of her favorite brands Medicine Mama and Foria.  Listen in to learn about common misconceptions about dryness and the importance of lubrication during sex and using lubricants for a positive sexual experience. She shares various products that she has o...

Send us Fan Mail In today's podcast, Dr. Alisa discusses the concept of sex positivity and its importance in your personal life, romantic relationships and in society as we move away from a puritanical narrative to a more open-minded approach. Listen in to learn more about open communication, boundaries, and consent in relationships. She also shares  her personal journey which lead to her upc...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Dr. Alisa Kriegel discusses and defines the hormonal changes of perimenopause and menopause, along with their impact on various physical and emotional symptoms. She makes recommendations for maintaining sexual health during this period, and shares a personal experience which influenced how her gynecologist now talks to patients in peri-menopause regarding fertilit...

Send us Fan Mail This is my first movie/show review about a new show that has been getting a lot of buzz lately. I've been seeing sexy posters all over NYC for this new FX limited series starring Michelle Williams and the cover of NY Magazine touted it as the "kinkiest show on TV."  So, is it? Does it live up to the hype.  How kinky is it? I had to see for myself. And after a weeken...

Send us Fan Mail Are you curious to know more about open marriages or polyamorous relationships?  In this episode of "Let's Talk About Sex Really," Dr. Alisa Kriegel dives into the world of non-monogamy. With her expertise as a therapist and personal research, she explores the realities of open relationships, polyamory, and consensual non-monogamy. Dr. Kriegel dispels the myths, emp...

Send us Fan Mail In today's episode Dr. Alisa Kriegel discusses the need for a broader definition of sex, moving beyond traditional view of "sex" mainly referring to penetration & "p in v" intercourse.  By expanding how we define sex with also expand the many ways we can explore sex and pleasure. As always, she encourages open conversations with your partner for all th...

Send us Fan Mail Valentine's Day is here again—the hearts, flowers, candlelight dinners, and grand gestures plastered all over Instagram. Let's be honest, a lot of this is driven by the hope of romance and sex. But from what I've seen with clients, friends, and even in my own life, it often leads to pressure, obligation, and the feeling that we're failing to live up to some rom...

Send us Fan Mail Dr. Alisa talks about the nervous system.  While it might sound neuro-science geeky, the Poly Vagal Theory can help you have better sex!  She discusses how being stressed in a flight or fight/trauma response (Sympathetic nervous system) can shut down parts of your body's functioning needed for sex.  Being in a Parasympathetic State, also known as Safe & Social,  helps you...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode Dr Alisa Kriegel is talking about all the reasons why you should be watching the Netflix show "How to Build a Sex Room." She discusses all the ways in which it can help you learn more about what turns you on and how to create a more sensual space in your life for exploring sex, alone or with partners!

Send us Fan Mail Dr. Kriegel continues sharing information about sex toys this time with a focus on toys for Men and also toys for Couples.  This is about exploration, pleasure and play.  There is no one way to have sex or be sexual.  Sex toys are an opportunity to discover new pleasures for yourself and your partners! 

Send us Fan Mail Part One covers an introduction to some basics of how to find and buy the best toys for you.  In this episode I then focus on sex toys marketed for women.  I recommend this for anyone who has a vulva or plays with someone with a vulva as you may want to understand what you or your partner may like! This is all about experimenting, getting to know your body and your pleasure, and o...

Send us Fan Mail In Episode 7 I talked about reconnecting with pleasure and giving yourself permission to have pleasure in your life as a way to start re-connecting with your sexual self in a non-sexual way.  Now in this Episode (#8) I talk about different ways to deepen that exploration to get more comfortable in your body and see what turns you on sexually.  I truly believe that feeling great se...

Send us Fan Mail Sometimes you go through phases where you're not having sex, possibly even longer than a phase. Or where there has been significant changes in your life and you are no longer experiencing sex and pleasure the same way.  In this episode Dr. Alisa talks about how to take a step back and learn  to connect with your basic sense of pleasure as a first step to reconnect with the se...

Send us Fan Mail Did you know that men on average orgasm during sexual encounters and intercourse far more frequently than women?  Statistics often show a difference of as much 40% more.  This wide gap is often referred to as THE ORGASM GAP.  In this episode Dr. Alisa Kriegel talks about possible causes for these differences and more importantly, explores ways in which we can start to close the ga...

Send us Fan Mail Shame is something that comes up a lot with regards to sex. We all have our own stories that bring up feelings of shame and judgment toward ourself and sometimes toward others.  It often comes from our own discomfort as well as from the messages we have heard.  In this episode Dr. Alisa Kriegel shares some stories, including the one that inspired her to start this podcast.  She al...

Send us Fan Mail ***This Episode has been recommended as a "Listeners' Favorite" *** We talk about how we fit with our partner in many ways, personality, temperament, chemistry.  But there is an important fit that gets less focus.  Genital fit.  In this episode, Dr. Alisa shares a personal story about a time when the fit was less than perfect and what she learned from that. As well...

Send us Fan Mail Are you someone who isn't having sex frequently or barely at all. Maybe it's been months or years even.  You're not alone.  Sexless marriages and relationships are much more common than you may realize and nothing to be ashamed of.  Dr. Alisa Kriegel explores  underlying causes so that you can know where to begin if you want to make changes to your sex life. It&apos...

Send us Fan Mail Do you need to feel desire or be "in the mood" as a prerequisite for sex?  Waning feelings of desire for a partner or for sex at all is not uncommon.  In this episode I share two major recent discoveries about desire and how it can change the way we've been taught to understand it's role in sex.  After all, knowledge isn't only power; in this case it'...

Send us Fan Mail Just like sex,  there are so many ways to do a podcast about sex. This premier episode will help you know more about who I am, why I'm excited to share this with you, and what it's all about.    Honest talk, pleasure focused, and shame free. It's a warm up to see if it's a fit and you're  ready to jump into the next episode and all the ones that follow!  T...