Let’s Get Vulnerable: Relationship and Dating Advice

If you've ever found yourself desperately craving closeness with someone and then panicking the moment you actually get it, this episode is for you. We're in part three of our four-part series on attachment styles across relationship development, and today we're diving deep into disorganized attachment (also known as fearful avoidant), the style that doesn't get nearly enough attention. This is al...

I sat down with my friend and fellow psychologist Dr. Rachel and y'all, this one hit differently. We met back in the early days of the pandemic when a group of us women psychologists found each other on Instagram (shoutout to the Psych Squad 🙌), and watching her grow into the force she is today has been so fun. Dr. Rachel is the author of When Life Happens , a book that is equal parts therapy and...

If you've ever watched a good relationship fall apart and couldn't explain why, or you've been on the receiving end of someone who kept one foot out the door, this episode is going to give you so many aha moments. We're in Part 2 of our four-part series on attachment styles and relationship development, and today we're diving deep into avoidant attachment. I'm breaking down what's actually happeni...

Y'all, buckle up because this one might be the episode you've been waiting for without even knowing it. I'm kicking off a brand new series on relationship development, and we're starting with something I think is going to give you so many aha moments: how your attachment style shows up at every single stage of a relationship, from the butterflies of date one all the way to year seven and beyond. I...

If you've ever felt like your partner is physically in the room but completely somewhere else, or you've been the one checked out, scrolling on your phone while sitting right next to the person you love, this episode is going to hit home. I sat down with internationally renowned psychologist, bestselling author, and TED Talk icon Dr. Guy Winch to talk about emotional health, heartbreak, and his br...

This episode is a short one, but don't let that fool you. This is the kind of tough love conversation I wish someone had with me way earlier in my journey, and honestly? It's one I keep coming back to myself. Whether you're dating, healing, in a relationship, or somewhere in between, these five hard truths are going to meet you exactly where you are, and maybe shake you up a little. That's kind of...

Y'all, I have to be honest with you. Back in 2019, I had the doctorate, I had read every book, I knew all the things, and I was still dysregulated, exhausted, and chasing my self-worth through every relationship I could find. So if you've tried the journaling, the morning routine, the affirmations, and none of it has stuck, you are not broken. You just haven't done the identity work yet. And that'...

In this episode, I’m sitting down in New York with the incredible Lindsey Metselaar, host of We Met at Acme , for a real, unfiltered conversation about dating, relationships, and what actually happens when you move from finding your person… to building a life with them. We talk about everything, from the mindset that helped Lindsey meet her husband, to the truth about modern dating (especially for...

If you’re stuck in the cycle of unhealthy relationships and wondering why this keeps happening , this episode is your roadmap out. Today, I’m breaking down exactly what it takes to stop repetition compulsion for good so you can finally experience a relationship that feels safe, secure, and aligned. This isn’t about trying harder or gaining more awareness—it’s about doing the deep work that actuall...

If you’ve ever thought, “Why do I keep dating the same person in a different body?” , this episode is for you. Today, I’m breaking down why you keep repeating unhealthy relationship patterns, why it has nothing to do with your intelligence or worth, and how your attachment style and nervous system are actually driving the cycle. This is the episode I wish I had in my 20s and it’s going to give you...

If you’ve ever felt confused, blindsided, or completely thrown off in modern dating… this episode is for you. I’m breaking down what we can actually learn from Love Is Blind Season 10, specifically how emotionally unavailable partners show up, why that intense early connection can feel so real (but isn’t always sustainable), and what secure, healthy love truly looks like. Whether you watched the s...

In this episode, I’m sitting down with my friend Jamie Sea, entrepreneur, mentor, and host of The Jamie Sea Show, for a powerful conversation about redefining success, healing your nervous system, and learning how to build a life that actually feels good. Jamie shares her journey from hustle-driven entrepreneurship to creating massive success from a place of inner safety, joy, and alignment. We di...

I’m recording this episode while I’m in New York, and I had one of those moments where I paused and thought, wow… I’m living the life I once barely believed was possible. I’m in a healthy, loving marriage with a partner who celebrates me and cheers me on, I have incredible friendships, and I’m doing work that truly lights me up. But the truth is, none of this would have been possible without a maj...

In today’s episode, I’m diving into something that so many people get wrong in modern dating: confusing intense chemistry with actual compatibility . If you’ve ever felt swept up in emotional intensity only to realize later that the relationship wasn’t healthy or aligned, you are not alone. We’re talking about what secure attachment actually looks like while dating, how to stop letting your nervou...

In this Part 2 episode of the series “Your Secure Era”, we’re diving into something that so many high-achieving, self-aware women struggle with: why you keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners and why it feels so hard to stop. If you’ve ever felt like you’re dating the same person in a different body, stuck on the “please choose me” treadmill, or confusing chaos for chemistry… this episod...

Welcome to a brand new series on the Let's Get Vulnerable, Your Secure Love Era. In this episode, I’m getting real about why modern dating feels so dysregulating (especially for high-achieving, self-aware women), how insecure attachment and past relational trauma are quietly running the show, and what it actually takes to shift into secure, emotionally available love. If you’re exhausted by situat...

This episode felt especially important to bring back. If you’ve ever found yourself emotionally attached too quickly, overlooking red flags, or confusing chemistry with compatibility, this conversation is for you. Inside this episode, I walk you through how to: Slow down without losing momentum Stay emotionally grounded in the early stages Date with intention instead of urgency Build real safety a...

This episode is a deeply personal one. I’m sharing from a place of real-time grief after an unexpected loss in my family, and I’m letting you see what it looks like to move through heartbreak as someone who has done the work to become securely attached. We’re talking about grief, emotional safety, and what truly defines a secure relationship, not perfection, but repair. If you’ve ever numbed your...

If you’ve ever wondered, “Okay… I get attachment styles, but how do I actually become secure and stay there?” this episode is for you. We’re wrapping up our secure attachment series by going deeper than ever before. I’m walking you through the real path to embodying a securely attached identity, not just understanding it intellectually, but living it, breathing it, and creating the kind of love th...

If Part 1 helped you see yourself more clearly, this episode is where everything shifts. 💖 In this Valentine’s Day special (Part 2), I’m walking you through exactly how to heal disorganized attachment and become securely attached, no more chaos, no more “why do I keep doing this?” cycles. We’re talking about the real, science-backed inner work that rewires your brain, regulates your nervous syste...

Happy Valentine’s Day to you! 💗 Whether you’re single, dating, partnered, or somewhere in between, this episode is a reminder that love does not come into your life to fix you, save you, or fill a void. In this 2-Part Valentines Day Special Episode, I’m going deep into disorganized (fearful-avoidant) attachment , why you can crave closeness so deeply and then feel the urge to run the moment love...

If you’ve ever found yourself thinking, “Why does this keep happening to me?” when it comes to love… this episode is for you. I’m not giving you dating hacks or surface-level advice. We’re going deeper. Because the truth is, it’s not that you’re bad at relationships or that something is “wrong” with you, it’s that your attachment style is running the show. In this episode, I’m breaking down exactl...

In today’s episode, I’m joined by Susie Moore for a deeply honest conversation about self-trust and how learning to trust yourself is often the turning point for real change in your life and relationships. We talk about the quiet ways dissatisfaction builds over time, why so many people stay in situations that don’t feel good, and how self-trust is directly connected to self-worth, confidence, and...

Conflict is inevitable in every relationship but no one teaches us how to do it in a way that actually creates closeness instead of damage. In this episode, I’m breaking down the one relationship skill that determines whether love grows stronger or slowly erodes over time: how you handle conflict. We’re reframing conflict from something to fear into an opportunity for deeper intimacy, secure attac...

In today’s episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on one of the biggest myths in modern dating, the idea that healthy love is about luck, timing, or manifesting the “right” person. It’s not glamorous, it’s not viral, and it’s definitely not sexy… but it is real. Secure, lasting love is built through intention, healing, and becoming emotionally available from the inside out. If you’re tired of repea...