Let's Get It With Coach Los

You don’t heal the moment the pain stops. You heal the moment you stop abandoning yourself. In this episode, I share the biggest and clearest sign that you’re truly moving on from a toxic relationship—and it’s not just about time or no-contact. It’s when you wake up and start choosing you again. You’ll learn: 💡 What real healing looks like (hint: it’s not just "feeling better") 🪞 Why r...

If you're afraid to speak up about what you truly need in your relationship… you're not being “understanding”—you’re avoiding the truth. In this episode, we break down what that fear really means, why it's rooted in self-doubt, and how it's keeping you in a relationship that's not fully serving you. You’ll learn: 🔍 Why fear of asking is often fear of the truth 💭 How you might...

You’re not broken. You’re just asking the wrong questions. If you’ve been overthinking, beating yourself up, or stuck in the same emotional loop after a breakup—this episode is for you. I’ll show you how the questions you ask yourself are either keeping you stuck in the pain… or helping you finally move forward. Inside this episode, we cover: 🧠 Why your thoughts are just hidden questions—and how...

If you want a man who leads, you have to give him room to do it. Too many women say they want a strong, confident man who takes initiative—but then unconsciously block that leadership by not allowing it to take form. In this episode, I break down what true leadership in a relationship looks like (hint: it’s not control), and how you can recognize and support it—without abandoning your own voice. W...

If you want real commitment, stop settling for “almost.” You weren’t made to sit on the sidelines hoping someone finally picks you. In this episode, I’m breaking down why you need to stop letting people drag their feet when it comes to choosing you—and how to start honoring your own worth before they do. We cover: 💥 The exact moment when dating becomes disrespectful 💥 How staying “available” too...

It might sound wild—but there’s a reason you’re still stuck on your ex. Even if they hurt you… even if the relationship ended long ago… holding on is doing something for you. It’s meeting a deep emotional need. But the longer you stay unaware of what that is, the longer you’ll stay stuck. This episode breaks down: 1️⃣ Why every action (even unhealthy ones) are trying to meet a need 2️⃣ How your br...

Most people go into no contact hoping it’ll get their ex back… but that mindset will keep you stuck. This episode breaks down how to actually win your 90-day no contact period by focusing on four transformational goals that put the power back in your hands. Here’s what you should focus on instead of them: 1️⃣ Create Space ✔️ Cut off all contact and remove reminders ✔️ Build an environment that sup...

When you're in a rough patch or stuck in constant conflict, it's easy to forget that love might still be there—just buried under frustration, fear, or emotional disconnect. This episode breaks down how to recognize the subtle but powerful signs that your partner still loves you… and how your own mindset might be stopping you from seeing them. Here’s what we cover: 1️⃣ Why negativity become...

Most people stay stuck in the same relationship patterns because they keep asking the wrong questions—about their partner, about the fight, about who’s right. But real change starts with one simple but powerful question: 👉🏾 “What is it like to be in a relationship with me?” In this episode, I’ll show you: 1️⃣ Why this question shifts everything ✔️ It moves you from blame to self-awareness ✔️ It...

We all say what we want in love—more effort, more understanding, deeper connection… But the truth is, if you want a certain type of relationship—you have to be that relationship first. In this episode, I break down: 1️⃣ Why your energy sets the tone ✔️ Relationships are mirrors—what you lead with often gets reflected back ✔️ If you want peace, lead with peace ✔️ If you want depth, show up with dep...

Vent sessions with friends might feel like a release, but if you’re constantly going outside your relationship for advice—you’re weakening something vital. Here’s what you’re unintentionally breaking: 1️⃣ Trust ✔️ Your partner starts to feel exposed and betrayed ✔️ They realize private moments are now public topics ✔️ Their guard goes up—and emotional intimacy goes down 2️⃣ Team Unity ✔️ You start...

When is it truly time to walk away— without guilt, confusion, or regret ? It’s not just about being unhappy. It’s about knowing in your core that you’ve done your part. That you’ve shown up the right way. That you've led with love, not reaction. Here’s how to know when it’s really time: 1️⃣ You’ve taken full accountability ✔️ You’ve owned your part without deflecting ✔️ You’ve apologized, forg...

You can tell a lot about the person you’re dating by how they interact with their opposite-sex parent. Why? Because their mother (for men) or father (for women) is their first experience with love, connection, and how to relate to the opposite sex. This episode breaks down: 1️⃣ Why their opposite-sex parent matters ✔️ That relationship sets the emotional blueprint for how they view, treat, and con...

They left. They moved on fast. And now they want to come back. Before you even think about letting them back in, you need to hear this. This episode breaks down why taking your ex back after a rebound is a mistake that’ll cost you your peace, your confidence, and your self-worth. Here’s why you shouldn’t go back: 1️⃣ They Already Showed You Their Pattern ✔️ They didn’t stay to work things out ✔️ T...

Still stuck on your ex—even though deep down you know the relationship wasn’t right? This one’s for you. This episode breaks down the real reason you can’t let go—and it’s not just about them. It’s about what you’ve convinced yourself they represented. Here’s what you’ll learn: 1️⃣ You're more committed to your past than your future ✔️ You’ve tied your happiness to them ✔️ You don’t believe so...

Saying "I love you" might feel powerful in the moment—but do your actions actually match those words? This episode breaks down what you're truly communicating when you tell someone you love them—and how your partner is likely interpreting it. Here’s what love really means to most people: 1️⃣ Love = Contribution ✔️ You show up as a support to their emotional, mental, and spiritual wel...

Still obsessing over a final talk with your ex? Waiting for that "one last conversation" to make sense of everything? This episode breaks down the real reason you’re craving closure—and why your ex isn’t the one who can give it to you. Here’s what you’re actually looking for: 1️⃣ Understanding ✔️ You want clarity on why it ended ✔️ But the truth is—you don’t need their version to find yo...

So how can you actually tell if a man is serious—and not just saying what you want to hear? In this one, we’re breaking down the real signs of intentionality that go way beyond good vibes and future talk. Here’s what to look for: 1️⃣ His Purpose Comes First He’s building a life that matters to him. That purpose gives him a reason to be honest—because lying would only distract from the man he’s bec...

If someone in your life—an ex, a partner, or even a family member— knows how to get under your skin and make you question yourself , this one is for you. This episode breaks down how to stop feeling powerless, stop reacting emotionally, and start getting your confidence and control back. Here’s how to reclaim your power: 1️⃣ Set & Maintain Boundaries The #1 kryptonite for a manipulator is a cl...

Most people tell you what to do in a relationship— few tell you HOW or WHY it actually works. This episode gives you real, nuanced relationship advice that most people never hear (and that most coaches don’t break down clearly enough). Here’s what you’ll learn: 🥊 How to fight fair and stop trying to “win” at the cost of your connection 🧍‍♂️ Why keeping your independence in a relationship actuall...

So… you backslid. You texted. You called. Maybe you even slept with your ex. Now the guilt and self-judgment are hitting HARD. This episode is your reminder that breaking no contact doesn't mean you're weak or broken. It means you're human—and there's something important you need to learn about you . Here’s what we unpack: 🔁 Why backsliding is part of the healing process (not a fa...

Let’s be clear: it’s not your job to fix someone. In this episode, I’m breaking down why dating someone who’s still carrying emotional (or tangible) baggage—from past trauma, toxic exes, baby mama/daddy drama, or unhealed wounds—is a setup for resentment, disappointment, and broken foundations . You’ll learn: 🧠 Why carrying baggage = unhealed pain 🚩 How taking on someone’s issues turns you into...

Feeling like your ex moved on way too fast ? Seeing them all over social media with someone new? Before you spiral—let’s break down what’s really happening. In this episode, I’ll give you 5 key signs that their new relationship is just a rebound, including: 🔹 Why they jumped into something serious so quickly 🔹 The real reason they’re posting their new person nonstop 🔹 How to tell if they’re sti...

Still holding on to your ex— even though you know you should move on? It’s not just about missing them. There’s something deeper going on. In this episode, I break down: 🔹 How holding on is actually benefiting you ( even if it’s hurting you too ) 🔹 The hidden needs you’re trying to meet —like certainty, significance, or validation 🔹 The key question to ask yourself that will finally help you le...

You want a man who leads the relationship —but are you actually allowing him to step into that role? If you feel like you’re always the one taking charge, it might not just be him—it could be you, too. In this episode, I break down: 👑 How to choose a man who is actually capable of leading ( not just controlling ) 👑 The difference between a leader and a dictator —and why it matters 👑 How to insp...