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Do you ever just get that feeling you don't belong? Marissa opens up about some of the deeper insecurities she's been facing lately – from imposter syndrome at work to confronting her savage inner critic. Hanli explores what it means to truly let yourself go and express yourself without judgement, even if it's a bit cringe.

We're tired of adulthood so we had ourselves a pyjama party. This week, Hanli gets existential with the question, does generosity breed greed? What do healthy expectations look like in our grown up friendships, and why do we sometimes feel short-changed? Meanwhile, Marissa tries to concoct a formula to raising a funny child (the secret ingredient: a sprinkle of trauma)... before we argue over...

We're taking you on a wild ride this episode. Hanli and Marissa define their relationship as a little more than a friendship but a little less than lovers, before digging into what's been on their minds this week. Marissa's made Hyrox her entire personality this past month, but shares her frustrations on the latest health crazes and her fury over the return of skinny culture. Hanli get...

Hanli and Marissa are back for season 6 baby! We're bringing the lols, the feels, and real talk. Marissa spills on her recent engagement, while Hanli gives us the debrief on her cultural wedding. We call out the pressure-cooker that is modern wedding culture and champion keeping it small, sacred, and unhinged. We also question why Gen Z still thinks 30 is ancient and how they have the time for the...

Welcome back to a mega-personal, extra-long catch up episode, besties! We knoooow it's been a minute, but being able to record in person just hits different. So we saved up all the good stuff for this juicy little number. We talk about babies... like how are we meant to KNOW when we're ready to make one? Will we ever feel sure? Then we figure out where the lines are between our friends and our par...

For the first time in forever Hanli and Marissa take a break from their BFF LDR and record this whole episode without breaking eye contact... and things got deep. We reflect on a few important life things, like... Have we taken self-hood too far? Is social media only feeding our need for external validation? Who is your safe space? Is there such thing as gossiping for good? Are we suffering from c...

Do you guys ever just save up for a good cry? We're running through some of the weird reasons we've gotten emotional lately. Hanli starts to feel like a local in Mexico but shares what she's found hard about connecting with people and building community away from home. Marissa reflects on how growing up can sometimes feel like growing apart, as we all enter different chapters of our li...

Ladies, we get it. Online dating can be such a chore. We do the work, we’re ready to put ourselves out there, but how many frogs do we need to kiss before we find our prince? In this episode, we’re talking about all things online dating. The highs, the lows, and the weird and wonderful things we experience on our quest to meet the one. We spill the tea on the few times we tried to make the first m...

Can you BELIEVE it? Four years on and this cute little podcast is still going strong. We know it's been a while and we have so.. much.. catching up to do. In this episode, we give you the rundown of what we've been up to over the last few months, from moving half way across the world, to the weird and wonderful things we're learning about living with our partners.

First of all, an announcement. Hanli is kinda sorta leaving Singapore... and we need to talk about it. We share the full deets, and take a moment to reflect on what it means to make that jump. Plus, lets talk about energy vampires. Chances are you know one, maybe you're close friends with one; they might even be a family member. You love them, but wow is it tiring dealing with them sometimes....

See, what did we tell you? Shoutout to all of you that wrote in and held us accountable. We see you, we love you. We're back. This week, we're talking about how to communicate your needs and standards within a relationship... right down to the little things that matter. Plus, can guys and girls really be friends? We give you our take.

Guys. Big news. Like MAJOR. Actually... let us just voice note you. This episode we're serving up our major life updates, and dropping a huge announcement (ahem, hint in the title). We share the full story of kween Hanli's royal engagement; romance, funny mishaps and all. Plus, Marissa pops off about a recent medical diagnosis that's forcing us to question the relationship between body...

Happy September my darlings! Marissa and Hanli are asking the big questions this week. We're deciphering what 'wealth' means to us and how its changed as we've (dare we say) matured. How can you tell when you've 'made it'? When should we buy ourselves that cheeky little upgrade? When do we treat ourselves to that expensive bottle of wine? And, we're unpackin...

Is it just us, or has 2023 just been a year of unbridled chaos? We're back after our hiatus of playing dodgeball with everything the universe has decided to throw at us. We're out of breath, a little tired but otherwise standing tall. This week, we're starting with a little check in of where we're at, before we give you the lowdown of what's been going on these past few mo...

Hello babies. This week, we want to give a special shoutout to Write Now – a mobile platform that lets you connect with professional counsellors for super affordable rates. So if you were ever looking for a sign to get some mental health support, this is it. Use our promo codes to try it out: <WNCHH> for 50% OFF for 2 months on any plans <JSWAC> for 50% OFF on add-on live sessions On t...

Sorry for the silence y'all but we've been working on some things  behind the scenes that we're really excited to share super soon. Not only that, we've been in a long distance friendship for the past month while Marissa was off on another corporate gallivant in America... but we're back and oh, how we've missed you all.  This week, we get a little woo woo and explore...

We're all about figuring out the best ways to avoid the drama... but let's be honest. Sometimes, you just gotta stand up and fight. This week, we're reflecting on the ways we deal with conflict with our loved ones, and whether our fighting habits actually serve us. Because as much as our love languages have helped us figure out a lot, knowing how we deal with conflict together is eq...

On this week's vibe check, Marissa and Hanli over-share (as per usual) – from the perils of Plan B to embracing our inner brat and  our inner aunties... so prepare yourselves for our unsolicited advice. We also get  deep  into trying to work out what it really means to gain a sense of 'clarity' in your life, whether it's in your love life, your personal finances or even just wh...

First of all, happy belated birthday to us. We're three! Second of all, welcome to season five. Can you believe it? We can't. In honour of our GROWTH, we take a hot minute to reflect on what we've learned about ourselves lately... from three-day hangovers to battles with perfectionism. It's finally dawned on Marissa that great things can happen when you get out of your own way,...

Happy new year babies! Oh how we've missed you. We're wrapping up this season by reflecting on everything life threw at us over the past year – from heartbreaks and new love, to stepping out of our comfort zones and learning how to befriend our fears. We figure out the difference between being vulnerable versus being 'open book', why we might need to make new friends, and what...

This week, we're throwing back to the sheer chaos of Marissa's 31st birthday celebrations before getting deep into this years ~*reflections*~.  From embracing new kinds of chaos, to learning the difference between the kind of love we think we need versus what we actually deserve. We made some mad breakthroughs this episode...  but not before we go down a dirty little Urban Dictionary rab...

Hello babies. This week, we want to give you some big sister advice when it comes to building self trust and learning how to bring the full version of yourself to the table. We deconstruct different dating patterns, talk about how to write a forgiveness letter,  and introduce you to some of our many personalities (there are a lot of them). 

It's been a minute guys but we've finally caught up on life admin... but most importantly, we're back on these airwaves with so much to catch you guys up on. Hanli and Marissa have revived a little of their faith in men and spill the tea on their cheeky little holiday flings. We talk about how the kinds of hook ups we look for have changed as we've gotten older, why you should...

First up – big announcement. Hanli plans to host women's circles in Singapore, where women  are invited to connect, share and build community. It's going to be magic. DM us to take part. This week, we're on a bit of a see-saw. Marissa and Hanli can feel a special energy in the air as the world continues to open up. Hanli is on the verge of entering her villain era and ain't not...

This week, we needed to slow down and just give ourselves a little TLC. Marissa deals with the worst of her inner self-critic and what happens when you let that negative voice get too loud. Hanli is processing the next chapter of her heartbreak and the losses you don't anticipate. We also talk about a recent article titled "The Rise of Lonely Single Men" and how our expectations of...