Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast

If you have young children, there is an ongoing need to communicate with your coparent about the business of raising your children. For many high conflict divorces, we know this ongoing communication will be an invitation to more conflict and contention. Today's guest explains that it doesn't have to be that way. Michael Daniels is the founder and CEO of FAYR a modern-day coparenting app which sta...

As two mom's grapple with the dissolution of their marriage, Monique shares the deep rooted emotional issues she faced and overcame and the positive, powerful impact working on herself through coaching provided. Monique describes the tenderness of how her wife's fear of being the 'non-biological' parent impacted their negotiations as did Monique's fear around being the less monied spouse. Her conc...

A Parent Coordinator (PC) helps mediate and resolve disputes between parents in high conflict divorces. A PC is often a vital support both during and post divorce. If you find it impossible to make joint decisions with your STBX and virtually every interaction turns into a struggle or a power play, this podcast is for you!! Parent Coordinators can be mental health experts, attorneys or mediators....

Today's episode is of a young marriage that ended suddenly, the pain and confusion Rachel experienced and her Pheonix Rising from the Ashes story. Rachel shares what she learned about herself and how both her divorce and dating experiences helped her grow. As she healed, Rachel was able to acknowledge what was missing in her marriage, even though she would have stayed and then how she found her so...

Today we speak with a guest who explains that Parallel Parenting IS Co-parenting, it is simply a more effective approach to high conflict co-parenting. The refreshing tone of this conversation acknowledges how unreasonable it is to expect to be able to follow the amicable co-parenting rules when your parenting partner is 'disordered' and has proven incapable of any form of collaboration or joint d...

Today we speak to a former JBD client and current JBD coach. Diane shares how she learned to accept her ex for who he is and designed a realistic and amicable post divorce relationship with him. Diane needed to understand what was and wasn't realistic when dealing with alcoholism, addiction and mental illness. Letting go of judgment around who the father of her children is and what he is and isn't...

Parental Alienation is a persistent, consistent rejection of a parent caused by the actions of the other parent. It is a form of domestic violence and child abuse as the child has been manipulated to reject one parent. The psychological impact this has on the child is severe. The child develops a psychological split. The impact on the alienated parent is devastating as their child sees him or her...

Steve was trapped in a high conflict marriage for a long time. He knew he had to get out when he "didn't even want to be in the same zip code" with his wife. He reached out for coaching support when the constant barrage of texts and emails filled with contention and accusation was hijacking his every day. He discusses the benefits he received through coaching and encourages everyone to get the sup...

When negotiating child custody in a high conflict divorce, parents sometimes need the assistance of a custody evaluator to help determine the best shared parenting schedule and decision making responsibilities. If that is the path you are on, understanding the role of a custody evaluator and how to best prepare for their process is vital. Today we speak with Mary Carlin, a seasoned NYC custody eva...

With a history of graduating from an ivy league school and being a Wall St financial powerhouse and global traveler, Kristen was stopped in her tracks as she began bearing children and dealing with the abuse of her narcissistic husband. Kristen shares the complexities of letting go of her career to raise their children only to feel alone being a new parent while facing the difficulties of living w...

When children are involved in high conflict divorces, often additional experts are brought in regardless of your legal approach.  Today we speak with a heart centered attorney who represents children in high conflict divorces.  You will learn when an attorney for the child or guardian ad litem is needed.  We discuss how that decision is made and by whom, how the attorney is chosen and paid for and...

Geri was the primary parent for the entirety of her children's lives. During the four years of their court battle, dad never took the boys for an overnight...not even once. Yet she lost custody in an expensive, drawn out court battle. Listen as one woman tells her journey of heartbreak and healing, her court ruling on custody and the grief, personal growth and gifts that followed. FOR MORE INFORMA...

I used to believe that high conflict divorce and mediation were mutually exclusive, that only amicable couples can mediate their divorce. I was wrong! Listen as Susan Guthrie, Esq. shares how mediation can and does work in high conflict situations. We talk about what you need to know, how to choose the right mediator, other professionals to add to your support team, and how mediation can be signif...

Stephanie faced infidelity and broken trust during her marriage. As she began coaching, she realized her patterns and part in the disillusion of her marriage. Her work led her to healthier communication and behaviors in all her relationships. Listen as she shares her fears, struggles and the unexpected treasures found through coaching and leaning into her faith in God. FOR MORE INFORMATION ON JBD...

The decision to stay in your marriage or leave involves a host of complex thoughts and emotions that often leave you stuck and confused. Living in a high conflict marriage makes the decision even harder. While it may be obvious to your friends and family, that you should leave, it is significantly more complicated for you. Your spouse's voice is loud in your head, their accusations and belittling...

Clint reached out for divorce coaching support early on. He could tell he was drowning in an emotional storm and needed help. At first, the conversations were about conflict with his STBX and what was upsetting about her behavior/ Over the course of a few months, Clint began to notice and take responsibility for his part in the difficulties in the relationship. Clint's kids were and are his first...

While navigating divorce, fear of the unknown often drives us to replace our uncertainty with a catastrophic worst case scenario about our future. However, our greatest fears rarely come true. Today's session is designed to provide you with hope and encouragement as you hear one woman's journey from fear and overwhelm to a post divorce life that is very different from what she feared. Tune in as s...

The psychological impact of living with a HCP crushes your self esteem often leaving you, the spouse insecure, reactive and bitter. Dr. Gayle Reed shares how forgiveness is a healing balm for the spouse of the HCP. She explains the traumatic impact of verbal and emotional abuse and the psychological defenses you use to manage the resulting anger, pain and confusion. While forgiveness seems to be f...

Today's episode is dedicated to your healing journey. Those of us who marry HCPs have our part in the dysfunction as we discussed in episode 2 - Divorcing A Narcissist: The Personality Disorders and Dysfunctional Dance of High Conflict Marriages. We are excited to have Ross Rosenberg with us again today to share deeply effective strategies for healing from codependency, a self love deficiency diso...

As we began discussing in our last episode, communicating with a high conflict personality (HCP) is often frustrating and fruitless, and leaves us feeling angry, exhausted and unheard. Today's episode offers a unique and powerful approach to communicating with a narcissist that enables you to protect your interests without conflict or drama! This strategy neutralizes combative and emotionally char...

Today's powerful episode gives you the strategies and tools needed to communicate more effectively with your spouse's high conflict personality. You have been struggling with criticism, deflection, blaming and black and white thinking. You have doubted your own version of reality, lost your self esteem and tried time and again to reason with your spouse to no end. What you didn't know was that com...

You kids have been experiencing conflict throughout the marriage, even if you think you have 'hidden' it from them. Now that a decision has been made to divorce, tensions will only rise. It is all the more important to focus on protecting your children now while navigating a high conflict divorce. Deciding when, how and what to tell the kids about the divorce is just the beginning. Figuring out ho...

Entering the legal process of any divorce feels frightening and overwhelming. For those entering high conflict divorce, the fear and confusion is escalated due to years of living in a dysfunctional marriage and the complexities involved when divorcing a high conflict personality. There is often a greater need to be in the court system due to the power imbalance in the relationship, the lack of tra...

Living with a narcissist is 'crazy making'. Understanding your role in the ongoing insanity is vital in order to create lasting change. In order to navigate your divorce effectively and strategically and emerge confident and renewed, it is essential that you keep your focus on that which you have power over...your thoughts, feelings and behavior. Today's episode invites you into a 'coaching experi...

If you have lost yourself amidst your marriage with a narcissist, today's show will reveal and explain much about the insanity you have been living with. It is vital to understand the traits of the pathological narcissist and your role as a codependent in order to emotionally heal and change behaviors that have kept you stuck in your unhealthy marriage. Our guest, psychotherapist Ross Rosenberg, c...