Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast

High conflict personalities drive high conflict divorces. If you have been married to and are divorcing this type of personality, today's show helps you to understand the traits common to this personality type. You will begin to understand your spouse's inability to manage his/her emotions, their black and white thinking, extreme behaviors and tendency to blame are common to his/her personality an...

The wide array of logistical details and emotional tensions surrounding co parenting post divorce can be a minefield for unnecessary conflict. It's hard enough to parent while living under the same roof due to all the details of our children's busy lives. When parenting under separate roofs, managing all the details of your shared parenting schedule, tracking extracurricular activities along with...

In the early stages of divorce we experience a powerful emotional sting. Coming to terms with the fact that divorce IS part of your reality often happens when you begin to tell others about it. Today we discuss telling your spouse, children, family, friends and others. We look at the fears and resistance that arises and the questions that you want to ask yourself prior to telling. Being clear on w...

Today's show acknowledges the tender emotions you experience while negotiating custody. We encourage you to notice the nightmare stories that create fear and tension, derailing your negotiations. Our guest, Josh Hecht, shares strategies to cut through the acrimony, negotiate for both the current and the long term needs of your children, and insure that you consider the nitty gritty details to guar...

As you enter divorce negotiations it is imperative that you have a good handle on your financial picture and the value each asset represents. The fear and uncertainty of what your financial reality will be post-divorce plagues everyone. Getting educated and enlisting professionals to support you in negotiating a win-win settlement is vital. Today's guest Jaime Goodman a CDFA (Certified Divorce Fin...

In today's show we discuss how to choose the best legal approach with your children's mental and emotional health front and center. Children can experience significant emotional damage as a result of divorce, but they don't have to. While it is understandable that you want to fight for your fair share of time with the kids, we want you to understand the risks that accompany a legal fight wherein c...

Most people considering divorce expect that they will have to 'litigate' in order to legally divorce. There is also a lot of criticism around the litigation process. Listen in as Wendy Samuelson, Esq. shares the benefits and protections of working within the courts to divorce. Wendy shares what litigating means, how the process typically unfolds and when and how it can offer protection and support...

Today's show focuses on your children and how you can parent through divorce in a way that protects them from the animosity between you and your spouse and honors their rights. We talk with Dr. Mark Banschick, a child psychiatrist who share the negative impact and long term affects children experience when parents do not protect them from the hostility. Dr. Banschick discusses why we tend to act o...

Understanding the Divorce Landscape takes a big picture look at what you are facing as you enter the world of divorce. We share tips that support you to effectively take control of your part of the divorce process, the one part of the process that you have direct control over. You will hear what to educate yourself about in advance of making significant decisions, the importance of prioritizing yo...

One of the most important decisions you make in the early stages of divorce is the legal approach that will be most effective for your circumstances. You may find that each attorney you interview states that their approach is the right one for you. It can be overwhelming and scary to sort out what the different legal avenues are and how to discern what is best for you and your spouse. Today we tal...

Your finances are certain to change during and after divorce and therefore raise fear in just about everyone facing this transition. Today we speak with Elizabeth Polizzi, a financial expert who specializes in strategizing around the finances of divorce. She discusses how vital it is to be informed and educated in order to negotiate the best possible settlement. In this straightforward talk, Eliza...

Once the decision to divorce has been made one of the greatest daily difficulties is how to live under the same roof with your STBX and all the contention that you are each feelings. The most effective way of approaching this stage is refining your communication and problem solving skills. Dr. Dan Thomason explains how easy it is to get caught in arguments about how you are communicating and lose...

A Divorce Recovery Plan Custom Designed for You Are you tired of being controlled by the chaos of divorce. Do you wish you could think clearly and make the big decisions before you with confidence. Do you question what happened to your 'old self' and wonder how you have become so angry, fearful and reactionary? What if you could find a resource custom designed for you that could guide you to navig...

While all decision during divorce are challenging, deciding whether to stay and mend your marriage or to divorce is one of the most stressful and emotionally charged. It is often drenched in judgement, shame, guilt, fear and uncertainty. Today we help you to unweave your fears and limiting beliefs from the circumstances you are assessing so that you can become clear in determining your best next s...

In order to navigate any journey successfully we need to be well equipped. The Divorce Toolkid prepares you to successfully traverse the emotional storm of divorce with resource that help you determine when you are off course, in danger zones or on the right track. Our Toolkit addresses every style of learning whether you prefer to listen to a podcast, watch a video or read long articles or a 'cri...

(Listener Note: This is Episode #12 of this twelve-part series. To take full advantage of this please visit our show archive and listen to the episodes in their proper order.) Today's show is the final and most exciting as we explore the unlimited possibility life offers when we intentionally create each step of our journey with a willingness and desire to engage fully utilizing all our gifts, tal...

(Listener Note: This is Episode #11 of this twelve-part series. To take full advantage of this please visit our show archive and listen to the episodes in their proper order.) Step 11 challenges you to utilize all you have learned in the previous ten steps to design and move towards your ideal post divorce life now, regardless of if you are pre, in the midst of, or post divorce. Put it together to...

(Listener Note: This is Episode #10 of this twelve-part series. To take full advantage of this please visit our show archive and listen to the episodes in their proper order). Step 10 discusses trust and tuning inward to access one of the greatest resources we have - our own inner, intuitive guidance and wisdom. There are people in our lives that we turn to for guidance and wisdom when we are face...

(Listener Note: This is Step #9 of this 12 step series. To take full advantage of this please visit our show archive and listen to the episodes in their proper order). It is normal to feel hurt, anger, blame and resentment while going through divorce. It is a devastating and traumatic transition, one that we all resist and that no one escapes without experiencing these painful feelings at some poi...

(Listener Note: This is Episode #8 of this twelve-part series. To take full advantage of this please visit our show archive and listen to the episodes in their proper order). Divorce is a time of upheaval and chaos. Life as you've known it is changing daily in ways small and large. You are responsible for many to do's to manage the change. Exactly where all this change is leading is unknowable yet...

(Listener Note: This is Step #7 of this 12 step series. To take full advantage of this please visit our show archive and listen to the episodes in their proper order). Everyone divorcing has a particular version or story of what happened to their marriage and why. This story is usually from a singular personal perspective, yours. Your spouse has another story, also singular and personal. Unless yo...

(Listener Note: This is Step #6 of this 12 step series. To take full advantage of this please visit our show archive and listen to the episodes in their proper order). I keep getting stuck in what was. 2 tools to shift your gaze from the rear view mirror to the front windshield during divorce. With Karen McMahon and Sheila Knopp. It is both normal and easy to label ourselves and / or our spouse as...

When we are faced with divorce, we go through a grief process. The death of our marriage brings the loss of the hopes and dreams we had as a couple, the loss of our normal family life, friends, community, etc. Grief is the normal reaction to loss. No two people grieve loss in the same way. You'll learn that there is no "one size fits all" approach to grief recovery, and yet there are experiences w...

During divorce there is no shortage of opportunities to get upset. Whether it is a disagreement with your soon-to-be-ex, dealing with the emotional reactions of loved ones, feeling frustrated with the legal system or being paralyzed by fear and uncertainty, it is common to feel raw, reactionary and disempowered! Today we discuss noticing how we unknowingly add to our own emotional upset. We look a...

We have all had the experience of obsessing over thoughts during divorce. Whether trying to understand how this happened or worrying about what the future holds or re-running that argument in your mind over and over again. I call it loop thinking when we feel like we are on a mental hamster-wheel or caught in a mental rut. Today's we examine the four categories these mental obstacles fall into and...