Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast

Navigating complex and tense conversations can easily result in emotional grenades being tossed across the room and little to nothing being resolved. Today we speak to Bill Eddy, well known for his work in the high conflict area about How to Effectively Communicate When Tensions Run High. Bill talks to us about his latest book, "Calming Upset People with EAR" an acronym for Empathy, Attention and...

Are you being run by your Monkeymind? The monkey mind is run by ego and fear and no matter what stage of divorce you're in, fear and uncertainty are there and they're loud. The amount of energy that one expends is overwhelming. The monkeymind leaves us exhausted and the fear can leave us paralyzed. Today's Team Talks discusses how to calm the monkeymind and become more present. Staying present isn...

Today we are discussing the practice of Mindfulness as a path to reducing stress and living a more present life. The impact of stress can be exhausting or even debilitating over the course of years or decades of a difficult marriage, the uncertainty of divorce and the unfamiliarity of life after divorce. There are many ways of dealing with such stress. Mindfulness is a powerful tool that can signi...

Designing a Parenting Plan can feel daunting and overwhelming. The thought of it can trigger anxiety, confusion, and sadness at realizing you will no longer be spending time with your child or children every day. All of this is normal. When possible, it is best for parents to craft a Parenting Plan together. After all, you know your children and your family circumstances better than anyone. Today'...

After 25 years of marriage, with three adult children, this was supposed to be our time. Yet we had married in our early 20's and over the decades grew apart until there was more contention than ease and no amount of couples counseling seemed to help. John shares his journey through conflict, self doubt and his deep desire to be amicable and protect their adult children. He describes the benefit o...

Welcome to today's episode of "Mastering the Practices of Curiosity and Surrender" with my special guest Adina Tovell. As you enter and settle into your life after divorce, Adina invites you to consider where your thoughts take you each day...do you live in fear and judgement or do you slip into curiosity and inquiry? We examine the limits of one and expansiveness of the other and share specific s...

If you feel like you are losing your mind as you enter divorce, I want you to know that it's totally normal. Today I share what happens when you begin the journey through divorce and how your mental and emotional overload show up in your life. I discuss the changes you begin to see in yourself and why things like brain fog, ADD tendencies, short triggers, and memory problems arise in the short ter...

In today's episode, You have the power to live your best life. It's time to use it" we invite you to consciously choose how you want to be in your new life. Today's guest challenges you to notice the difference from your human experience and reactions and your spiritual ones. She states unequivocally that we each have all the power, all the abundance and all the worth we need and it is a matter of...

Divorce is a situation that brings lots of problems to solve. Big and small, we wrestle with them, trying to figure out solutions that will work to get the results we want. The way we approach these problems can make all the difference between a successful solution and one that creates more problems to deal with. In this podcast, Karen and Carrie explore a framework for looking at the problems you...

After 30 years of being together, Fiona decided to walk away. After decades of trying, dealing with broken trust, and becoming super angry, she decided enough was enough. Fiona shares her journey through rage, deceit, and financial issues as she learned how to calm her storm, come out in peace, and learn to trust her own decision making. Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at www.rapidreliefcall.com...

For many of us once our divorce is finally complete, we move on to our next big challenges of co parenting with our ex, navigating our new finances and generally figuring out this new and unfamiliar chapter of life. Today's show highlights critical business that is often left undone, causing further struggle and frustration down the road. Our guests, Kim and Danielle talk us through the steps we m...

Today's topic is part four of our four part series on triggers. We're talking about after the trigger and what to do when everyone is calm. Sometimes the triggers are anger and frustration. Sometimes the triggers are guilt and shame and fear and all those other things. And those are things that get in our way and get us stuck and make it hard to move the situation forward. Today we talk about what...

Whether you are facing debt as a result of your divorce or as an extention of other events that lead to your divorce, it is often drenched in guilt and shame. As a result, we often avoid or delay the inevitable which involves finding our way back to living debt free. We discuss the causes of and solutions to all types of debt with Leslie Tayne, whose law firm is focused and passionate about helpin...

We are in the midst of a series on triggers and today is How to Shift from Reacting to Responding when Triggered part III where we discuss how to shift from reacting to responding when triggered with Diane Dempster. Today we discuss four steps with triggers and how to reach real calm. The first one is recognize the threat. The second one is reclaiming your brain. The third one is choosing a new pe...

Today we are talking about College planning...yet another alien 'world' parents have to navigate. As many of our listeners are still deep in divorce negotiation or just emerging from them, it is understandable that you might have 'back shelved' college planning for now. There are many time sensitive issues to consider and our hope is this episode informs you enough to choose what is urgent and wor...

The most important difference is the control you have over your emotions. When we react, it is an emotional knee-jerk snap. It is usually as a result of someone 'pushing our buttons'. We can go from 0 to 100 in seconds. It is sometimes as if we are being taken over by another force as we feel the uncontrollable need to immediately and vehemently attack or defend. You may be thinking, is there any...

After over two decades with her partner, Annabel was informed that he no longer wanted to be in a relationship with her. On top of the typical challenges of divorce, the UK does not provide any financial security when a long term relationship ends, no divorce proceeding, no negotiation. Annabel shares how she and her partner lived a financial comfortable life and how she gave up her lucrative busi...

Whether you have decided to stay in your marital home or have found a new place to start over, this can be a fun and exciting time. Our environment has a powerful and profound impact on our emotions and how we feel about our life. Today's guest, interior designer Jodi Topitz guides us in our home transformation from We to Me. She shares fun, easy and inexpensive ways to create spaces that make you...

Mastering the art of budgeting and saving will set you up for a more successful post divorce life. Today's guest, Stacy Francis is the founder of Savvy Ladies, a non profit that supports women in becoming financially independent and secure AND she is owner of Francis Financial, one of the nation's leading wealth managers. Stacy beautifully guides you through how to budget and live within your budg...

The most important difference is the control you have over your emotions. When we react, it is an emotional knee-jerk snap. It is usually as a result of someone 'pushing our buttons'. We can go from 0 to 100 in seconds. It is sometimes as if we are being taken over by another force as we feel the uncontrollable need to immediately and vehemently attack or defend. You may be thinking, is there any...

After making every effort to mend their marriage, Veronica decided to divorce her wife of almost two decades. Her intention was to navigate this transition with the utmost dignity enabling both her partner and their children to ease into this new reality. Veronica shares the fears and concerns she had, the strategies and tools she carefully crafted, the role working with a coach played and what li...

We've been highlighting the importance of healing before you can create your best next chapter. Today I chat with Clint, a divorced dad who sought support, through both therapy and coaching. We discuss some fears and resistance men have around seeking support as well and the gifts and growth that it provides. Our desire today is to encourage you, our male listeners, to push through your fear and a...

We need boundaries to experience healthy loving relationships. Yet so many of us did not grow up in families that exhibited healthy boundaries. In fact, we may have experienced quite the opposite and not even understand what a boundary is. If your relationship is facing crisis, while the complexities are unique, you will almost always find an absence or breakdown of boundaries at the root of the p...

The transition of divorce is ripe with surges of emotion and we often label the difficult ones as bad and to be avoided. Today's guest, Karla McLaren believes that emotions are possibly our greatest source of instinct, intelligence, and energy, that they are vital for thinking, healing, decision-making, learning, loving, and understanding others. Listen in as we discuss how each of our emotions is...

We often hear from our clients that they feel like a failure when their relationship is ending - that their divorce is somehow evidence that there is something wrong with them when it comes to having a long-lasting co-commited love relationship. Here's another way to look at it. What if we took the focus off of you, or what you think is wrong with you, and look objectively at the marriage? And how...