Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast

The most important difference is the control you have over your emotions. When we react, it is an emotional knee-jerk snap. It is usually as a result of someone 'pushing our buttons'. We can go from 0 to 100 in seconds. It is sometimes as if we are being taken over by another force as we feel the uncontrollable need to immediately and vehemently attack or defend. You may be thinking, is there any...

After over two decades with her partner, Annabel was informed that he no longer wanted to be in a relationship with her. On top of the typical challenges of divorce, the UK does not provide any financial security when a long term relationship ends, no divorce proceeding, no negotiation. Annabel shares how she and her partner lived a financial comfortable life and how she gave up her lucrative busi...

Whether you have decided to stay in your marital home or have found a new place to start over, this can be a fun and exciting time. Our environment has a powerful and profound impact on our emotions and how we feel about our life. Today's guest, interior designer Jodi Topitz guides us in our home transformation from We to Me. She shares fun, easy and inexpensive ways to create spaces that make you...

Mastering the art of budgeting and saving will set you up for a more successful post divorce life. Today's guest, Stacy Francis is the founder of Savvy Ladies, a non profit that supports women in becoming financially independent and secure AND she is owner of Francis Financial, one of the nation's leading wealth managers. Stacy beautifully guides you through how to budget and live within your budg...

The most important difference is the control you have over your emotions. When we react, it is an emotional knee-jerk snap. It is usually as a result of someone 'pushing our buttons'. We can go from 0 to 100 in seconds. It is sometimes as if we are being taken over by another force as we feel the uncontrollable need to immediately and vehemently attack or defend. You may be thinking, is there any...

After making every effort to mend their marriage, Veronica decided to divorce her wife of almost two decades. Her intention was to navigate this transition with the utmost dignity enabling both her partner and their children to ease into this new reality. Veronica shares the fears and concerns she had, the strategies and tools she carefully crafted, the role working with a coach played and what li...

We've been highlighting the importance of healing before you can create your best next chapter. Today I chat with Clint, a divorced dad who sought support, through both therapy and coaching. We discuss some fears and resistance men have around seeking support as well and the gifts and growth that it provides. Our desire today is to encourage you, our male listeners, to push through your fear and a...

We need boundaries to experience healthy loving relationships. Yet so many of us did not grow up in families that exhibited healthy boundaries. In fact, we may have experienced quite the opposite and not even understand what a boundary is. If your relationship is facing crisis, while the complexities are unique, you will almost always find an absence or breakdown of boundaries at the root of the p...

The transition of divorce is ripe with surges of emotion and we often label the difficult ones as bad and to be avoided. Today's guest, Karla McLaren believes that emotions are possibly our greatest source of instinct, intelligence, and energy, that they are vital for thinking, healing, decision-making, learning, loving, and understanding others. Listen in as we discuss how each of our emotions is...

We often hear from our clients that they feel like a failure when their relationship is ending - that their divorce is somehow evidence that there is something wrong with them when it comes to having a long-lasting co-commited love relationship. Here's another way to look at it. What if we took the focus off of you, or what you think is wrong with you, and look objectively at the marriage? And how...

Andrea had been married 5 years and thought her marriage was as ideal as one could hope for. Suddenly everything fell apart as her husband's two time affair rocked her world and left her broken and grief stricken. Andrea shares what happened next as the 'scales fell from her eyes' and she saw her marriage in a truer light and began to come to terms with her part in the dissolution of the marriage....

As you step into your life after divorce, how you think, feel and act will be based on the extent of the healing you have experienced. And your depth of healing will inform what you manifest in your new life chapter. Today we are invited into a uniquely powerful and special 'secret sauce' called ThetaHealing. ThetaHealing impacts you on 4 levels...your core, soul, history and genetics. The power o...

Has anyone ever told you that marriage isn't perfect and you should try to stick it out? How about that you are ruining your children's lives if you go forward with the divorce? Are you no longer invited to certain gatherings or social events now that you are about to be or are single? Deciding who to tell, how to tell and when to tell people when entering divorce is difficult. Dealing with people...

Welcome to the FIRST episode of Life After Divorce where we talk about LIFE BY DESIGN NOT DEFAULT. As you begin exploring who you are and who you want to be in this next chapter of life, we invite you to see this new chapter as an adventure, to get to know yourself, be kind and gentle with yourself and know that you part of the adventure will include uncertainty and fear. Most important to be inte...

Going through a divorce, you're faced with uncertainty and loss every which way you turn. You can feel lost, without a sense of where you want to go or how you're going to get there. You want a roadmap. You want a guide. You want to get out of this strange land you find yourself in. While you may not realize it, you are on a hero's journey. This applies equally to men and to women. Listen to find...

Cathy lived a life that from the outside appeared completely successful with a beautiful home and thriving family business. The reality behind the facade told a different story. Cathy shares her early confusion about why she was so unhappy given the facade, her journey to understand her unmet needs and how her values were out of alignment with the life she was living. She shares her fears and the...

Divorce is a marathon. It impacts life emotionally, logistically, psychologically, economically, and physically. It also piles new responsibilities and challenges upon old. Without setting conscious intentions there is no North Star. You are adrift in a stormy sea without a rudder. Intentions become your rudder and consciously choosing the qualities you want to introduce into your process becomes...

Telling the children about your impending divorce is always a fragile, emotional conversation. The general rule is both parents tell the children together, refer to the decision as mutual and assure them that they are loved and their lives with continue with limited change. However, when facing a high conflict divorce, such advice may be unwise and even dangerous. If you are expecting your high co...

Stepping into the legal divorce process can be scary and overwhelming. Not knowing what to expect, how the process works, and what the options are can be daunting. Choosing the right divorce attorney and/or mediator is one of the most important first decisions you will need to make. It could mean the difference between a long, drawn-out, expensive, acrimonious divorce or an amicable, less expensiv...

While there are many losses during the dissolution of a marriage, children are not usually thought of as one of those losses. Unfortunately, in certain extreme cases children are lost, not through death but through one parent's intentional manipulation of the child to turn on and eventually reject the other parent. This bond destroying phenomenon is known as Parental Alienation (PA). Unless it is...

Diego knew he had to find a way to being emotionally regulated and get clear on what the legal path ahead looked like. He knew he needed guidance to navigate both the emotional and practical journey ahead in a way that was aligned with his values. Early on Diego faced a restraining order that was based on false accusations. He lost his home, didn't see his young daughter for 3 weeks and had to be...

Kevin is a deeply dedicated family man, primary earner with a high pressure career and two young girls that he adores. When he was facing divorce, he reached out for both emotional and practical support. Kevin struggled with his wife's changing behavior as she pulled away from her primary care taker role and re-engaged in her career as a stewardess taking her away from her girls and the family for...

The way we communicate will make or break our divorce. It will move us closer to what we desire or farther away. It will invite curiosity and compromise or judgement and destruction. In order to be able to communicate with mastery, we need to first be aware of our triggers and ways of behaving under stress. We also need to be able to read other people, their mood, body language and tone. When we c...

Adult children are often overlooked and forgotten when their parents divorce later in life. They are men and women, ages 18 to 50. Some are single; some married. Some have children of their own. All of them are in different stages of shock, fear, and sudden, dramatic change. As adults, their parents tend to overlook, minimize or diminish feelings and struggles around their parent's divorce. And th...

Jessica met her husband out of high school and was married in her early 20's. She moved from her parent's house to her home with her husband and heavily relied on him for so much. Infidelity and broken trust ended her marriage a few years later and left Jessica lost and afraid. Through her divorce and coaching, Jessica noticed a lot about herself, her tendency to protect other's from her feelings...