Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast

In this episode Karen and Lisa discuss the role faith plays in being able to feel divorce pain and fear yet regain and reignite composure again and again. The awareness of an impending divorce emerges slowly, giving time to prepare as much as possible or seems to show up out of nowhere. Regardless of how divorce shows up, the reality is painful, chaotic, and panic inducing. What will happen when t...

In today's show we discuss how to choose the best legal approach with your children's mental and emotional health front and center. Children can experience significant emotional damage as a result of divorce, but they don't have to. While it is understandable that you want to fight for your fair share of time with the kids, we want you to understand the risks that accompany a legal fight wherein c...

Marilyn struggled in her high conflict marriage and with a 2 year old toddler she made the difficult and often criticized decision to divorce. Her ex was certain he would win primary custody and a large portion of her assets which she brought into the marriage. As the primary earner, her fear of both finances and parenting time were overwhelming. Tune in as Marilyn describes what happened through...

Today's show focuses on your children and how you can parent through divorce in a way that protects them from the animosity between you and your spouse and honors their rights. We talk with Dr. Mark Banschick, a child psychiatrist who share the negative impact and long term affects children experience when parents do not protect them from the hostility. Dr. Banschick discusses why we tend to act o...

Over the past several years, there has been an upward demographic trend of couples over 50 years old ending long-term marriages. This trend has been coined "the gray divorce". Divorcing later in life brings unique emotional and financial challenges. It also creates amazing opportunities for personal growth and choice about how you want to live your life going forward. Join us for tips on how to co...

Once the decision to divorce has been made one of the greatest daily difficulties is how to live under the same roof with your STBX and all the contention that you are each feelings. The most effective way of approaching this stage is refining your communication and problem solving skills. Dr. Dan Thomason explains how easy it is to get caught in arguments about how you are communicating and lose...

Welcome back to Life After Divorce. In today's episode, Improve Your Mindset, Mood and Movement with Healthy Nutrition , we dive into the connection between what we eat and how we feel. Our tendency to go for 'comfort foods' when stress is high and time is short undercuts our desire to have clarity of mind, control over our emotional reactions and the energy to navigate our post divorce life. Eati...

In the early stages of divorce we experience a powerful emotional sting. Coming to terms with the fact that divorce IS part of your reality often happens when you begin to tell others about it. Today we discuss telling your spouse, children, family, friends and others. We look at the fears and resistance that arises and the questions that you want to ask yourself prior to telling. Being clear on w...

What's the difference between change and transition? And why should you care to know? Change is what happens on the outside, and transition is the psychological reorientation and inner integration of the changes that take place in your outer world. Divorce creates a huge amount of change, both for you and for your family. It can be extremely stressful to deal with these changes! In this podcast, y...

Your finances are certain to change during and after divorce and therefore raise fear in just about everyone facing this transition. Today we speak with Elizabeth Polizzi, a financial expert who specializes in strategizing around the finances of divorce. She discusses how vital it is to be informed and educated in order to negotiate the best possible settlement. In this straightforward talk, Eliza...

If you want to end fear of aging once and for all, Dr. Kaiser's talk is for you. You'll learn 4 keys to a healthy active life post divorce and how to take charge of your health in a positive way. Join us this week as we speak with Dr. Ron Kaiser, a positive health psychologist who emphasizes Living Life with Enthusiasm at every age by promoting techniques to strengthen the body, mind and social co...

Mediation is a non-adversarial approach to divorcing outside of the court system. Join us as Andrea Vacca explains who is a good fit for mediation, how it differs from other avenues for divorcing and takes us through a typical mediation case from beginning to end. You will be sure to know if this is the right fit for you and if so what to expect as you enter the mediation process. For more on Kare...

It's easy to judge when we are in the stress of divorce. You may be still harboring hurt and anger from your spouse's betrayal, or other "bad" behavior, that makes it seem like you are justified in your judgment. The problem with judgment is that it keeps you in a reactive state of mind where you are simply unable to do your best thinking. And, it just doesn't work. Imagine you are driving down th...

Collaborative divorce is the newest 'kid on the block' when it comes to divorce. It is a process in which you and your spouse commit to staying out of the court system and working in a spirit of creative problem solving, transparency and trust. Beth Dalena, Esq. shares what a Collaborative Divorce looks like and who is a good couple candidate and who is not. We also explore the emotional, legal an...

Welcome back to another episode of Life After Divorce. Today we are talking about physical activity and how moving your body and getting out in nature revitalizes you mentally, physically and spiritually. Our hope is that our conversation inspires you to find your unique passion for movement and begin to see the wide array of benefits you experience. Today's guest is Lauren Heffron, an avid cyclis...

Most people considering divorce expect that they will have to 'litigate' in order to legally divorce. There is also a lot of criticism around the litigation process. Listen in as Wendy Samuelson, Esq. shares the benefits and protections of working within the courts to divorce. Wendy shares what litigating means, how the process typically unfolds and when and how it can offer protection and support...

Living under one roof while going through a divorce may be more common than you think. It may be that neither spouse will agree to leave the marital home, finances make it challenging to support two homes, or both spouses agree it is in the children's best interest to physically separate at a later date. Cohabitating during the divorce process can be challenging. Today's Team Talks provides tips a...

One of the most important decisions you make in the early stages of divorce is the legal approach that will be most effective for your circumstances. You may find that each attorney you interview states that their approach is the right one for you. It can be overwhelming and scary to sort out what the different legal avenues are and how to discern what is best for you and your spouse. Today we tal...

As we continue talking about healthy living, today's guest has a powerful and successful approach to nutrition and exercise. She shares that the first step is to eat what we enjoy AND begin tracking it. By examining the proteins, fats and carbs in our deit, we raise our awareness what our body is receiving and what it is lacking that we need. The thing I love the most about Chas' approach is she m...

Learn how Laura went from being devastated by her partner's infidelity to emerging from her divorce setting and living into her intention for her ideal life. Laura shares that there were problems prior to the betrayal and that it was not if but when the marriage would dissolve and how realizing that was a key part of her healing journey. Laura shares some of the lessons learned, struggles through...

Whether you are conscious of it or not, there are actually two parts of a divorce – the practical and the emotional. Typically the person who is initiating the divorce started their emotional divorce when they first began to think about whether divorce was even a possibility. This means that they often are further into the emotional divorce process than their spouse when the practical pieces kick...

When navigating divorce our monkey minds are often going crazy. At bedtime our mind chatter makes it hard to fall asleep or stay asleep. We've all been there. With lack of sleep comes inability to think, remember things, and handle our emotions. If you are in the midst of divorce or navigating single parenthood, you are probably juggling career, money, kids, and life. You may hope that by staying...

The way we communicate will make or break our divorce. It will move us closer to what we desire or farther away. It will invite curiosity and compromise or judgement and destruction. In order to be able to communicate with mastery, we need to first be aware of our triggers and ways of behaving under stress. We also need to be able to read other people, their mood, body language and tone. When we c...

As we continue talking about healthy living, today's episode is How Yoga and Meditation Can Help You Heal. We're joined by, Shawn Bradford, a mother of 3 who suffered from insomnia through her divorce and was grateful to find yoga nidra, an ancient sleep technology that helped her learn to sleep and heal from divorce trauma. Shawn shares the practice of Yoga Nidra and the powerful impact it offers...

Jill got married very young and as the years turned to decades, she realized how lost she had gotten in her high conflict marriage. With a heart of collaboration, Jill entered the divorce arena only to find her spouse was intent on alienating their young child from her and stripping her of her custodial rights. Jill shares the heartbreak felt and lessons learned through the process of finding her...