It's the Discussion For Me

In this episode, I’m taking youdeep into what God has been revealing to me lately—through scripture, reflection, and even a near-death moment. 💌 "You haven't even met everyone who's going to love you yet" — That hit me. As someone who loves love, this shifted me from focusing on lack to expectancy and divine timing . 💔 Love is freedom—but that freedom can be heartbreaking. God...

This episode is layered—andnecessary. From celebrating Black excellence to confronting the uncomfortabletruths about our society and even ourselves, we’re going all the way in . 🎓 Village Babies DoingBig Things! We’re starting with a celebration! One is headed to her dream school ANDanother rocked the Black Girls Film Camp. These young ladies are killing it and making us proud. ⚖️ When Justice Fa...

Tap in, Tap in! Spring is springing and everything—from relationships to ideas—is blooming! In this heartfelt episode, we talk about how to  watch things bloom  without always needing to pluck them.  Sometimes love means letting things grow at a distance… and that’s okay. We also get into:   Netflix’s  Forever  — A beautiful coming-of-age story based on Judy Blume’s novel. Shoutout to Wood Harris...

This week, we’re diving DEEP into some real talk that Blackwomen (and honestly, everybody) need to hear:   ✅ The Power of “No” — Inspired byMichelle Obama, we’re reclaiming our peace by setting boundaries without guilt. ✅ Faith Without Cancellation —Disagreements in the church? They should lead to real dialogue, not division. ✅ Purpose Reimagined — Yourpurpose isn’t about meeting society’s stan...

📢 New Episode Alert:"His Presence is Loud!" 🎙️🔥 👀 Tap in! This month,we’re getting real about grief, joy, and God's undeniable presence in ourlives. 💔 Ending My GrievingSeason: The controversy around Marvin Sapp video encourages us to find aspace where you feel safe in faith. Also, can we talk about how Black folks areline dancing through the chaos of the world? 😂 The joy is unm...

In this episode, we’re diving deep into February, love, and the language of grief—because healing starts with understanding. We’re also sharing a must-follow IG page @wegoontour that’s doing incredible work! Plus, I reflect on a childhood story that the Holy Spirit used to teach me a powerful lesson (this one hit deep). And we’re breaking down Chapters 2 & 3 of When Faith Disappoints by Lisa V...

 ITDFM podcast is back to start year 4 and we have added visuals!!! In this episode your host taps into the new year with a few hot topics, discusses how God checked her, and ends with some highlights from the new read When Faith Disappoints: The Gap Between What We Believe And What We Experience by Lisa Victoria Fields. Please consider sharing this video with 2 people if this episode added any va...

We want to thank God and our amazing audience for rocking with us for 3 years! Time is precious, so anytime you spend with us, we don't take it for granted. During this episode, we have a few BIG announcements as we transition into the next season. We love you guys and hope you have an amazing holiday season. December, we are off and look forward to picking back up in 2025!!! Follow your host on I...

Managing current events and spiritual reflection are topics covered in this episode. Christian urges listeners to turn to their faith for comfort during difficult times. Finally, she emphasizes the importance of worship during trying times. Please consider sharing with two people if this episode added any value to you or could potentially help someone in your life.  Follow your hosts Brandi @evolu...

This episode explores a subject that Christian is passionate about: what she refers to as manufactured fruit. Using examples from her own life, she offers self-evaluation questions to encourage introspection and research into becoming the best version of oneself. Please consider sharing with 2 people if this episode added any value to you or could potentially help someone in your life.  Follow you...

In this episode, your host Brandi delves into a topic close to her heart, exploring the multifaceted nature of love, from affection to adversity. Drawing from her legacy of love, she shares three key areas for self-reflection and investigation to enhance one's relationship with self and others. Please consider sharing with 2 people if this episode added any value to you or could potentially help s...

This episode features a solo discussion with your host Brandi in a 3 part discussion on topics she is passionate about. In this episode Brandi tackles finding your identity in Christ by ministering the salvation prayer and sharing tips for starting a relationship with God. Next, she discusses Kirk Franklin's recent comments challenging the pressure to get married in the church and ultimately encou...

Christian & Brandi change things up in this episode! Reels that were not quite long enough to be included in an episode are discussed. For example, they discuss the "illusion of material happiness" and what they believe is the source of genuine joy, happiness, and peace. They explain the significance of placing God first and referring to the "source" that is unchanging and...

This episode features special guest Jason Nadin alongside Brandi and Christian. They talk about tactics that men can use to help women and men coexist in shared spaces, how men can support women in areas that are reserved for them, and how men can create safe spaces where women feel free to showcase their abilities. A few of the subjects covered are the significance of listening, looking past anat...

This episode will have you yelling AMEN and THAT PART throughout the episode. Our host Brandi and Christian are so open and vulnerable about the challenges yet necessity of transitions. They discuss how they both navigate through transitions, what obstacles people tend to face while transitioning, and always ending with some practical steps that their audience can add to their tool box. A time was...

Welcome back to another episode of ITDFM with your favorite podcast duo Brandi and Christian. During this episode they tackle the topic of opportunities versus assignments and how they both play crucial roles in spiritual, personal, and professional development. They share how they personally distinguish between the difference of a good opportunity vs a God opportunity, the consequences of not dis...

In this compelling episode, we are thrilled to welcome Dr. Ollie as our special guest, marking the conclusion of our Seasons of a Woman’s Life Series. Join us as we delve into invaluable insights on how to best prepare for our golden years. Dr. Ollie shares a unique perspective, highlighting the importance of disciplined spending, prudent saving, and adapting to a reduced budget. Furthermore, she...

The experience of women navigating the shift from young adulthood to middle age is explored in this episode. This stage is marked by shifts in interests and viewpoints, health indicators, and even a divine desire to change. The episode covers several important topics, such as the value of community, the superwoman syndrome, perimenopause, self-care, and knowing your role during that season. In add...

This episode explores the journey of women as they navigate the transition from your youth to full-fledged adulthood. This stage is characterized by significant milestones, responsibilities, and opportunities for personal growth and fulfillment. Key themes discussed in the episode include the importance of a vision, setting goals, practicing good decision making, balancing personal and professiona...

In this episode we delve into the unique experiences and challenges faced by women during the transition from adolescence to adulthood. The episode highlights the importance of preparation and self-recognition during this pivotal stage of life for the child and the parent. Key themes explored in the episode include the importance of listening to your youth while guiding your youth through the lens...

Subscribers. We're excited to give you an exclusive sneak peek into our upcoming series that we've been working on. As one of our valued subscribers, we wanted you to be the first to hear about this exciting project. Our new series will delve into Seasons of a Woman's Life, featuring insightful interviews and practical tips and strategies that you can apply to your own life. Stay tuned...

The episode continues exploring the concept of "Permission to Fail" and its tremendous effects on relationships and life. It highlights the importance of giving oneself grace to give others the same. The discussion also touches on friendships, relationship carnage, introspection, growing pains, and aligning relationships to the season you are in. The permission to fail series concludes w...

Our goal on today’s episode is to shed light on the experiences that many Black girls face, particularly the phenomenon known as adultification. This term refers to the societal tendency to perceive Black girls and women as more mature, independent, and less in need of protection compared to their counterparts from a very young age; as early as five. Research has shown that Black girls are often s...

In this episode, Brandi and Christian explore the powerful concept of "Permission to Fail" and its profound implications for Black women in various aspects of life, particularly in the workplace. They also address how it shows up in friendships and how they see the permission being passed onto the next generation. As they take a deep dive into the unique challenges faced by Black women, they aim t...

This episode features special guest Alicia Coulter, author of Safe Spaces for Black Women.  In order to find methods to process, shift, or navigate, they talk about the concept of "safe spaces" and different approaches and resolutions. They debunk the myth that "black doesn't crack” and legitimize the feelings of their counterparts, who are frequently branded as delusional and their feelings disre...