It's So Hard

We've reached ep 39 of It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry. And we figured it's time for the first installment of our Dick Series... this week, we talk about the fallacy of BDE, how common dick size anxiety is and we both agree that a broader definition of sex would be much more inclusive for all! Plus, Tess talks outcall logistics, Jenn gets real pun-ny and we both...

Ep 38 is here for It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry. We're joined by our literal and chosen mum, Pet to discuss all things OCD and sex. We cover Tess' brainscan kink, our collective religious backgrounds and how Jenn was a stage 5 clinger as a baby. Pet shares how she and her partner have navigated OCD, asexuality and demisexuality across a 36-year partnership......

Ep 37 is here and it's a doozy. Welcome to It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry.  This week, we mull over attraction, ethics and the wild ride that spontaneous decisions takes us on! We share some love for the fabulous Lucy Price and her podcast In Bed with Lucy, Tess shares an experience of sexual assault in a brothel and how toxic organisational and legislative str...

Roll up, roll up for ep 36 It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry. This week, we hear from our first client guests, Shawn and Luke. We talk first nudes, standard levels of service and how to ask for extras. We also muse over anal play and why clear communication results in confident and fun sexual interactions.  Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (...

Welcome to part 3 of the Broth Diaries on It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry. This week, Tess and Jenn talk about the results of their Erotic Blueprint Tests… turns out we're both kinky! We start our first pod book club with the outstanding 'Revolting Prostitutes: The Fight for Sex Workers' Rights' by Juno Mac and Molly Easo Smith, Tess reflects on a tour client wh...

Ep 34 seems like the perfect time to dip back into Tess' tour diaries for It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry. This week, we mull over daddy issues, the productivity trap and we fangirl over the fantastic Bella Green and her new book 'Happy Endings'. Tess shares a dicey booking from her tour days and we chat about laser hair removal, shit tattoos and whether you can...

Guess who's back for ep 33 of It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry... it's the incomparable Frankie Fatale!!! Showgirl, stripper and porn performer, Frankie is a legit legend who keeps us laughing like crazy! This week, Frankie and Tess talk over the challenges of managing difficult work interactions, dealing with industry appropriation by civvies and why us ladies r...

It's ep 32 of It's So Hard, the podcast all about life in and around the sex industry... and we have a treat for you - we're digging into Tess' old tour diaries! We also muse over the cult that we grew up in, we fangirl out over the incredible Somebody You Love podcast and Tess shares that one time that she gave an hour-long BJ. Talk about commitment to the task!  Join our hosts for a laugh, a mus...

Please welcome back our special guest for ep 31 of It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry... it's Jameson Scarlett! Third time's a charm and Jameson is here to talk more in-depth about being a male worker in the industry and how he works hard to prove himself as a gentleman to book and to work with. We also chat about common civvie questions and how important prep time...

We've made it to the dirty thirty on It's So Hard, the podcast all about the sex industry, and life in and around it. To celebrate, we get deep into all things PTSD. Tess and Jenn describe their experiences of PTSD, how we navigate sex as a coping strategy and we both agree that our ultimate goal on this pod is to inspire at least one offense boner.  Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of...

She's back, you guys! The hilarious Rubi Valentine joins us for episode 29 of It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry. Rubi joins us to discuss STIs and health checks, the joy of quickies and hands-free toys, and how tactical wanking used to help Rubi stay focused at her old civvy job - doing other peoples' taxes!  Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real...

Welcome to ep 28 of It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry. This week, we dive into all things ADHD. Jenn and Tess talk about the different symptoms and experiences of ADHD, the unique ways that neurodivergence interacts with sex and relationships, and why Tess' improved self esteem is getting in the way of her sexy times!!! Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some...

It's ep 27 of It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry and we're joined by... the fantastic Juno!!! Porn performer, full service worker and resident of one of the coolest sharehouses around, Juno joins Tess and Jen to yarn about drinks before midday, role play, queer presence in the industry and the highs and lows of dirty talk. Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and som...

Better late than never for ep 26 of It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry!  Jenn gives you all a clit rehab update, we fangirl over our pod inspo, Tess shares a long booking a broth and we agree that we should all normalise giving sex toys for birthday presents!  Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. And if you're kee...

Look who's back for ep 25 of It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry... it's the amazing Frankie Fatale!!! Stripper, showgirl and porn performer, Frankie is a busy woman but she sat down with Tess and Jenn to muse over the complexity of navigating work collabs, the need for a SW-positive social media site and how everyone can benefit from a bonus pussy! Join our hosts f...

Happy International Whores Day from It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry. Tess and Jenn felt that Ep 24 was the perfect time to talk all things contact/booking-related. We cover why Peter energy is premium (props to @theorganisedescort), why negging is such an unattractive contact strategy and how to recover when you drown important docs in red wine! Join our hosts f...

She's back for ep 23 of It's So Hard, the podcast all about life in and around the sex industry... it's the incomparable Eva May! Full service worker, porn performer and independent film-maker (check out Aussie Babes Club) - what a resume! Eva joins us to share an special love life update and we all mull over the politics of brothel vs. private work, OnlyFans and sugaring, and the importance of ap...

Welcome to ep 22 of It's So Hard, the podcast all about life in and around the sex industry. Today, we have Jo back on board to talk all things sexting!!! Jenn continues to enjoy thick footy thighs (sorry Tess!), we debate the pros and cons of squirting, Jo shares her experiences joining the sexting community and Tess advises that food-related sex is really best in the first hour of a booking.  Jo...

Welcome to ep 21 of It's So Hard, the podcast all about life in and around the sex industry - and we're joined today by the fabulous and multi-talented Taylor Tara! Author, photographer, full service worker and industry mentor - Taylor has done it all! We yarn about the importance of access to sex for people of all ages, abilities and preferences, Taylor shares her latest projects and we all muse...

Welcome to the Patreon Party episode on It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry!  We present our new Patreon, where you can access 2-4 EXTRA episodes per month!!! We have a lot of great content with our industry guests that is ready to be shared, and you also get to thank our guests for their time and effort - all for the price of a cup of coffee. First two bonus episod...

It's ep 18 of It's So Hard, the podcast all about life in and around the sex industry... and gracing us with her presence is showgirl, Australia's no. 1 stripper and all round fabulous person, Frankie Fatale!!! Frankie dropped by to talk about her creative vision as a performer and producer, and we had a laugh over stripper namesakes, show-stopper moves and which venue most appreciates you dancing...

It's a family affair on Ep 17 of It's So Hard, the podcast all about life in and around the sex industry. Jenn's mum and aunty drop in for a yarn about dick size, sex across the lifespan and the joys of moving to a place where nobody knows you. Tess also suggests that we all participate in more threesomes... you know, for educational purposes! Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the rea...

Guess who's baaaack? It's Episode 16 of It's So Hard, the podcast all about life and around the sex industry and we welcome back special guest and dream man Jameson Scarlett! We talk lockdown management strategies, classy af responses to online harassment and Tess and Jameson go head to head in the first pod debate: What is the ideal booking length - a quickie or a long, luxurious interaction?  Jo...

Welcome to ep 15 of It's So Hard, the podcast all about life in and around the sex industry. This week, Jenn and Tess muse over outdated cultural references, exciting/embarrassing/disappointing mulling updates (looking at you, fake programmer dude) and Tess takes us through her extremely successful fake boyfriend experiment. Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally...

OMG, the fucking gorgeous Rubi Valentine is joining us for Ep 14 of It's So Hard, the podcast all about life in and around the sex industry! Rubi is a full service worker, porn performer and all round hilarious individual. She joins Jenn and Tess Louise to talk porn goals, young vs. older clients (give us all your dads!) and how to convince everyone you want to fuck them. Join our hosts for a laug...