It's So Hard

We get legislative in ep 62 of It's So Hard, the podcast where a sex worker and a civvy talk about life in and around the sex industry. Kit from Fuscous Fury joins us again and they've done their homework! We get talking about the Whorephobia Checklist, break down the fallacies of the Nordic Model and get weirdly passionate about plumbers rights. Content Warning: NSFW, contains explicit sexual des...

Ep 61 is a triumph for It's So Hard, a podcast about life in and around the sex industry. We're joined by companion, masseuse and venue host extraordinaire: Rome the Naked Tradie. We talk about being a male sex worker, navigating substances and safety and using his handyman skills for sexy purposes.  Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. You can f...

We're 60 eps young at It's So Hard, a podcast about life in and around the sex industry. This week, Jenn and Tess hit record on an It's So Hard planning meeting as we started to muse more deeply about allyship, representation, identity and the purpose and direction of the pod. Tess also walks us through her slightly stalk-y vetting process for guests!  Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some o...

We've had to shift some things this week, so this one is hot off the press - ep 59 of It's So Hard, a podcast about life in and around the sex industry.  This week, Tess shares her recent professional development in service provision for clients living with disabilities. We also talk about the narrowness of societal sexpectations, Jenn's dumpsterfire mental health and why diverse sex is the best s...

We welcome Liv to ep 58 of It's So Hard, a podcast about life in and around the sex industry.  Liv is a Pro Domme provider, and she's here to talk all things BDSM. She talks about her kink apprenticeship, which services make people say "ooooh" and we all bond over DSM diagnoses.  You can find us on social media @sohardpod, at our website itssohard.info/ or support us and our guests at patreon.com/...

It's Ep 57 of It's So Hard, a podcast about life and around the sex industry. This week, we delve into dealing with problematic, whorephobic and/or plain ignorant convos with civvies, clients and grandmas. We also touch on how to raise concerns as a client, and why Jenn will always assist you to find a good, slur-free swear-based insult! Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and...

It's Anal Week for It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry. This week, we're joined by FSSW and Anal Queen, Little Red. She talks us through leaving church, getting into FIFO sugaring and learning important anal lessons from a French Daddy and a babe called Joey. And we're just so blessed she's passing on those teachings to us! Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and som...

We get a little *kinky* for ep 55 of It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry. This week, Jenn makes some sweaty fantasy confessions and Tess gets to analysing them! We talk about where fantasy and kinks come from, how to explore them and why Jenn can't seem to get away from her sportsperson attraction! Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasio...

We laugh, cry and get personal on this ep of It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry. This week, we cover all things SWer/civ communication. We share the diversity of context in communication, how we often say the same thing in different ways and why Tess would need to mentor Jenn to be a successful threesome partner.  Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the...

It's our first season 2 guest on It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry! We're joined by Kit, photographer and founder of Fuscous Fury Media. Fuscous Fury was 'born from a dark and sombre fury towards the lack of safe, non-judgemental and inclusive environments within the creative industry'. We chat safe and mindful collab dynamics, navigating whorephobic TOS, the attr...

We're baaaaack for Season 2 of It's So Hard, the podcast about life and around the industry. We dive straight into Tess' first work threesome, the value of honest industry mentors and how the hell anyone keeps track of their lube! We also shout out some fab face-in workers, do a dick pic deep dive and celebrate the incomparable tunes of SWer and rapper Lil Hoe.  Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse...

Well it's only gone and turned into a New Year!!! And It's so Hard is here with you to ring it in... Tess and Jenn talk high pressure holidays, low energy celebrations and we start to answer some of the fantastic questions sent in by clients and listeners of the pod! Parts 2 and 3 of this Q&A will be up in the coming weeks on patreon.com/itssohard.  You can find us on social media @sohardpod, at o...

Yes, yes, we are still on that break but it's Xmas and we felt it was only appropriate to celebrate somehow! In this week's Xmas Quickie, we chat holiday plans, play some festive Truth or Drink and talk through our current fantasies. We also give our tips for managing a sometimes complex time of year, and you'll get a sneak peak of Tess' new Patreon series! Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and s...

Yes, we're still on a break but it's an important week and we wanted to recognise the International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers on the 17th Dec.  We continue Tess' discussion about assumptions of safety, violence and sex work: we consider the ways structural, cultural and direct violence impact sex workers and how important it is for all of us (looking at you too civvies!) to push for...

We're technically on a break... but we couldn't help but share some of the other great content we've enjoyed making this year! This week, you get a piece of Patreon with an edit of our discussion on International Sex Workers' Day 2021! We talk legislation, the history of sex workers' rights and how civvies can get educated and support those on the frontlines.  Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse an...

We've reached our 50th ep and we're ready to party on It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry! Jenn tries out her newfound skills to make some sexy cocktails, we set up a drinking game for our listeners and we muse about relationships and jealousy. Tess walks us through some work Q&As and Jenn shares more about her juicy public sex experience.  Join our hosts for a laug...

Let's all bow our heads and hear the Word of Ep 48 for It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry. That's right folks, Tess and Jenn get into some churchy business again. We talk public shame and restorative justice, how religion has fucked us up a little and that one time that Tess' sermon was too extreme for the cult!!!  Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the...

Kate's back to finish our discussion for ep 47 of It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry.  This week, we continue to mull over the highs and lows of breaking up, the attraction of ex sex and Tess talks about the process of breaking up with clients. Kate also advises against moving to the country for love and Jenn suggests we should all throw open the doors of possibili...

We welcome back Kate for ep 46 of It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry. In part one of this two-week ep, we dive into the criteria for a real breakup, what it means to start queer dating for the first time and the age-old question: to have the break-up fuck or not. Kate also shares her candle endeavours, Jenn reminisces about public sexy times and Tess gets hit on by...

We're in our mid forties at It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry! And to help us celebrate, Juno has dropped back in to catch up and chat about attraction, navigating civvy friendships and why capitalism is always the bad guy. We also cover stealthing as sexual assault, why Jenn is SO bad at flirting and Tess makes a sexual discovery.  Join our hosts for a laugh, a m...

Ep 44 is here for It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry. This week, Jenn and Tess revisit coercive communication and behaviour. Jenn shares why she's hopeless at remembering appointments lately, we both agree that being late is the worst feeling ever and we muse over the nuances of the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills. On a more serious note, Tess then shares an exper...

Welcome to the slightly last-minute ep 43 of It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry. Jenn is out of the mix for this week, so Tess sat down with our resident guest client Shawn to discuss all things reviews, ratings and navigating boundaries in sex worker-client relationships. They cover how to get and give feedback, the fallacies of current review systems and how kind...

Ep 42 is here to round out the Brothel Diaries series for It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry. Tess shares three more bookings to sum up a whole shift at the broth, Jenn gets self-reflective and wonders whether she might be a psychopath and we share a rose and some love with new peer-led advertising platform, Ivy Société! Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some...

We're into the 40s of It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry. And we're excited to welcome back our guest Shawn for part two of our chat about client experiences. We cover what makes a good booking, how to break the ice as a new client and how preferences shift over time from "bargains" to more meaningful experiences. We also quickly shout out Smutclub Film Festival wi...

Welcome to ep 40 of It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry. And guess what - Jenn and Tess are both in the same city!!! We celebrate with a tipsy, extended mulling after a long day of guest recordings... we start with Shakespeare, muddle our way through relationship expectations and end with Tess leaning into some cat lady energy. This one goes deep - enjoy!  Join our...