It's My Pleasure

Many of my current and potential clients come to me because something is wrong with their sex life and they aren’t having the mindblowing sex life they desire, and they think that if this one thing changes, everything will be better. I’m here to tell you that it’s never just one thing. It’s all of you. Accessing pleasure requires a whole system, and you need as many systems as possible turned on t...

When we think about pleasure, it requires all of you to be on board. All parts of your brain, all parts of your body, and all of your thoughts. Today, we are talking about thoughts that can take us away from pleasure, specifically, thoughts about our partners. This is something that I hear all the time from women is that there is something that their partner is doing, or not doing, that is keeping...

Today you get to listen to a conversation I got to have with the wonderful and marvelous Kara Loewntheil. She is a master certified coach with a BA from Yale and a JD from Harvard Law. In the last three years, after pivoting from her law career, she has grown her life coaching business to 7-figures. She hosts one of the top-rated self-help podcasts called UnF*ck Your Brain, https://unfuckyourbrain...

This week is a continuation of last week’s topic of what it means to be an empowered woman, and how confidence is different, yet plays an important role. Last week I shared that confidence is a feeling based on what we are thinking and that it is through practice and understanding of ourselves and our thoughts that we can become more confident. To listen to that episode, go here: http://daniellesa...

I hear from women often who want to know how to feel more confident and how to have that “it factor”. Confidence is a feeling, based on what we are thinking, and it’s different from being empowered. In order to access confidence, we must understand and be aware of our thoughts, and hold space for the feelings that we experience. It is through a self-compassion practice and understanding of ourselv...

In today’s episode, I talk with Claire Byrne, a heartbreak coach who helps women stop wanting Mr. and Mrs. Wrong back. She’s the host and creator of her podcast, How to Stop Wanting Him Back and is also a regular contributor to Kourtney Kardashian’s Poosh.com. Claire is also a really good friend of mine. We met way back when we were just getting into coaching, and it has been really great to be on...

The same thing applies to sex and having pleasure. When you say the word sex, what kind of tone do you have? Is it one of dread? Pleasure? Excitement? I want to share with you how the tone affects our body and how we think about sex, and what you can do to change it.  Topics in this episode The tone changes the story in our head The tone that we have when we’re talking about sex, this is going to...

  Topics in this episode How disempowering our thinking can be We don’t have to settle.  Sex is irrelevant to modern-day life When you’re starting something new, that can be exciting. And that becomes more tantalizing than having sex can be.  Circumstances are neutral. It’s about how you think about them that will either make them an obstacle or not.  What’s keeping you from pleasure?   Thank you...

As we kick off a new year, I want us to take some time to reflect and evaluate the last year that we had. It’s important to take a look back, to know what is working and what isn’t. And in the realm of sexuality, what is working for you in order to feel like a sexually empowered woman? In this episode, I share helpful prompts to use when thinking about the past year and the goals you want to set f...

  Topics in this Episode Difference between mindfulness and meditation There are different types of mediation, based on the desire results you are seeking Insight meditation focuses on the inner connection between the mind and body This focus allows you to notice when your mind has wandered so that you can bring it back “I’m showing up for what is” How meditation can help with your pleasure: Medit...

‘Tis the season for a lot of feelings. Emotions, and how we deal with them, affect our capacity to experience pleasure. Feelings and emotions come from what we are thinking, either conscious thoughts, or what is in the background. I want to talk about how we often go wrong with emotions, how we can meet them and process them. When we practice feeling, that allows us to get closer to pleasure. Topi...

I often hear women feeling bad about speaking up for what they want. This apologetic energy carries into the bedroom, and it can mean feeling bad for saying no or feeling embarrassed. To be a pleasured woman, this is something we need to work through individually and collectively. It is time.  I hope this episode will help you realize how perhaps you are showing up with some apologetic energy in b...

It is holiday season and I think that I’m not alone with a say people are feeling the stresses. Today I want to hop on the gratitude train because around Thanksgiving there’s so much talk about gratitude, and what it can do for us. I think that it is such an important part of creating more pleasure in your life. When we’re talking about having a good sex life, it’s not just about the sex we’re hav...

Today we’re going to talk about the simple concept of enjoying sex and how to focus on enjoying it. As we learn that there’s more enjoyment in something, we’re much more likely to increase our motivation to do the thing that brings us satisfaction. It makes sense why so many women suffer from low desire and wanting to increase their libido. It doesn’t have a reward we are used to experiencing. But...

I was talking with one of my clients this week about last week’s episode. Desire and drive are different because it isn’t a biological need, but how does that change anything for us? This week I want to continue the conversation about how to want sex, and understanding our inner voices and what it takes to want to undergo change. I love hearing your thoughts. It always helps inform what I should s...

When we take a look at sex drives, we are taking a look at belief systems. Most often, because of the way sex has been presented to us and is demonstrated in our culture, we have the belief that men have a higher sex drive than women. This belief can be getting in the way of your pleasure, and possibly have you think that something within you is broken. In this episode, I dive into where this beli...

Are you clit-erate? Most of us don’t know what we want, because it’s something we’ve never been educated on. We may know some about the hardware, but by now, having listened to this podcast, you realize there’s so much more that goes into having pleasurable experiences and mindblowing sex. In this episode, I explain the importance of having clitoral curiosity and how that can have such a big impac...

Last week I mentioned that I was doing a three-part masterclass: How to know what you want and be able to ask for it. What I’m going to do today is bring to you the first day of the masterclass, the foundation. Sometimes you have to look into what is going into the foundation of before you can even start the inquiry. When we’re beginning with the inquiry, there has to be a level of comfort with yo...

In this conversation with Dr. Sonia Wright, a board-certified radiologist and mid-life sex coach, we discuss the role of sex coaching, particularly for women in their midlife. She shares how she got interested in being a life coach, and through that coaching, she heard from many of her clients that they were having difficulties in their sex lives. Since there isn’t much sexual education and traini...

I love having these episodes and this podcast to teach you concepts, and today I want to give you a glimpse into what it’s like to work with me as your coach. When you listen to the podcast, it may be hard to understand the power of what’s being said. It’s powerful to hear other people’s experiences and the transformations they’ve gone through, and I want to share some of that with you. I also wan...

So far in this podcast, I’ve talked a lot about big-picture stuff, like how pleasure can change your brain for the better. And also, how to have the right structure and environment so that you can create desire and pleasure can enter. At this point, I would love to start getting more detailed on what actually comes up with some of my clients and how I coach them through it so you can start doing t...

In last week’s episode, we began to talk about how self-image affects your sex life. I want to go even further this week and talk about how other people’s opinions can affect your sex life. We have a choice of whether or not we allow unkind comments other people say into our thoughts. Many of our beliefs have been learned by how we were raised, and the messages we got, and the world we live in. Th...

Today we are talking about body image, which is a hang-up for many of us. I think it is safe to say that most women have been insecure about the way they look, and it creates obstacles for us to create more sexual pleasure or empowerment. This is something I truly love working with women to overcome in order for them to have a love affair with themselves, and to own the beautiful, badass, sexy wom...

In last week’s episode, episode 30, we started going through all the topics that have been discussed thus far on the podcast. I thought it would be so fun to recap the information that’s been shared, topics that have been discussed, and conversations so that you can remind your brain of the things we’ve discussed. And by doing so, it can ignite and inspire you to go back and listen, take some deep...

In honor of today being the 30th episode, I want to focus on 30 key takeaways, one from each episode so far. It is so fun to see all of the things we’ve talked about and the topics and information that have been shared. I know how easy it is to hear something, and it goes through one ear and out the other. So I want to take the time to go through and grab each episode and get the essence from it t...