It's My Pleasure

What's holding you back from being that Turned On Woman? Hint it isn’t your hormones or your sexy lingerie or even having a partner who is fawning all over you. It’s a way of being in the world. The way that you think about being turned on and how often you truly allow yourself to BE that. We always have a choice, we are always simmering, just waiting to boil over - but are you boiling over toward...

Of course you want to be with a partner who wants to see you pleasured, I mean don’t we all??!  But then you feel like them wanting to see you writhe in ecstasy is making it even harder for you. You worry that you aren’t going to be able to ‘get there’ and even though they say something like “I want to please you” “Or I want to see you come” instead of feeling turned on and sexy inside you feel, w...

YES! You’re all prepped after last week to truly step into asking for what you want. And today we dive into part two - what do you actually say?  As adults we understand that we can never guarantee what we are asking for or sharing is going to land perfectly with our partner - we are all humans - sometimes things are missaid, sometimes feelings are hurt and sometimes we completely flub getting acr...

Giving your partner feedback is NOT easy for most of us. Whether it is asking for something we want more of or letting our partner know we aren’t really a fan of something that they are doing, it is hard to know HOW to actually deliver the information. How do you teach them without hurting their feelings? How do you ask for something your really want without feeling awkward as all get out? Tune in...

Brain hacks for productivity, good grades, following through with goals - but what about your pleasure?? Well your brain IS your largest (and most important) sex organ, so today I am going to give you five quick and dirty brain hacks to elevate your sexual satisfaction.  Whether you're in a long-term relationship, exploring new connections, or simply curious about the power of the human brain in t...

It is so interesting that we as humans will typically wait for something to be a problem before we make a change. We wait for things to fall a part, or for someone to be dissatisfied or for our mind to be consumed with something ‘not working’ long enough before we take the action to change.  In today’s episode Caitie, a past participant of the Tangled program, shared her big ah-ha of how she was h...

Today we dive even deeper into the titillating world of pleasure with Jenna, a past participant of the Tangled program. Jenna candidly opens up about a feeling many of you might relate to - when the rush of daily life makes it seem easier to be friends with our partners, allowing intimacy and pleasure to take a back seat. Through moments of vulnerability, confronting shame, and her transformative...

Foreplay is always a hot button topic amongst my clients - should I? Is it really worth the effort? What IS foreplay exactly? Foreplay could be the single most important thing to help your body (and your mind) warm up, get turned on and become erotically aroused. So why then is it the first thing to go as a relationship becomes more established? In this episode my hope is that you walk away unders...

Listen, there is A LOT going on and pleasure gets put on hold MOST of the time. What I find so often with my clients is that the desire for more pleasure in their life is THERE. That is something they want, but HOW is much harder. But it can be so much easier when you have a framework for how you will incorporate pleasure into your life. Instead of just thinking, “Oh yah, that’d be nice”, a framew...

Join us in this powerful conversation with Laura Conley as we delve into the profound journey of learning to love our bodies. Letting go of shame and self-criticism isn’t for the faint of heart. There are so many messages about ‘how’ we should think and feel about our bodies - from loving them just how they are to never being satisfied, so where is that sweet spot? When is self-loathing driving ch...

It is easy to fall into all or nothing thinking. My over achiever brain has been guilty of this most of my life. But the problem is all or nothing usually isn’t sustainable and can make it easy to abandon our pursuits at the slightest disruption. This is why I created “Pleasure Boosts” for myself awhile ago. These boosts of pleasure may be small, but the benefits are mighty. Enjoy the quick episod...

Continuing our conversation about the ripple impact of the "good girl" complex, which affects our daily interactions and our relationship with our sexuality, we are joined by Sara Bybee Fisk, a former "good girl," to discuss her personal and professional experiences with this phenomenon. Sara shares how she spent her entire life as a "good girl" until she had a profound realization that prompted h...

We're delving into a topic that resonates deeply with many women - a phenomenon known as the 'good girl' complex or sometimes referred to as the 'good girl syndrome.' This is a concept that has permeated our culture and society, and it paints a very specific picture of how women 'should' behave. When societal expectations are imposed to such a stringent and uncompromising degree, that they begin t...

In this episode of the podcast, we dive deep into the realm of sexual pleasure as a crucial element of self-growth. Our guest, Angela, shares her personal journey of transformation and empowerment through her participation in the Tangled program. Join us as we explore how Angela discovered the power of embracing her own pleasure and the profound impact it had on her life. What You'll Learn on This...

Wanting sex, desiring it, thirsting for it are all important. We want to want it, of course!! But how does desire actually impact your overall experience of the sex you end up having? In this week’s episode we will be diving into why we have to look at the texture of the wanting and motivation when assessing how pleasurable the actual experience is. What You’ll Learn from this Episode: How a munda...

Orgasms! Of course you want them! I want them and I want them ALL for you. But when we focus on orgasms, not only can it create problems, but it will diminish your overall capacity for mind-blowing pleasure. So what should you focus on instead? Listen in on this episode to learn of why it is SO important to not lead getting orgasms drive the show. What You’ll Learn from this Episode: Why orgasm fo...

Blowjobs - love them or hate them, this episode is for you. The blowjob is one of those sexual acts that is seeped in assumptions, stigmatization and ‘shoulds'. Sure they are ‘for’ your partner and it can be so fun to see him turned on, but I want you to know there is so much MORE to them. In this episode I will be sharing with you an entirely new way to look at blow jobs — one that will have you...

Puff, puff, pleasure! Ha! In this episode, we speak with Dr. Adie Rae, a leading neuroscientist researcher in the field of cannabis, discussing the effects of cannabis on female sexual pleasure. Dr Adie shares their knowledge and insights on the topic, discussing the ways in which cannabis can enhance women's sexual experiences. What you’ll learn from this episode Dr. Adie explains the science beh...

In this episode, we explore how visualization can be used to enhance your sex life and increase your desire. This is a tool that I use regularly in my own personal life and is vital in helping my clients get the results they are wanting as well. I will share 5 specific techniques for using visualization to improve your sexual experiences and tips and techniques to make visualization easier. What y...

Do you ever struggle with scheduling sex because you’re afraid that when the time comes you might not like feel like it and you don’t want to get your partner’s hopes up? Or you hold yourself back from a midday makeout sesh or big french kiss because you know it’’ be met with a knowing grin and “Oh I see what’s going on” suggestion - and to be honest you just don’t know if you want to? Or maybe yo...

Hello my fellow neurodivergent lovers! This episode is FOR you. Today we talk about how high sensitivity and ADHD tendencies can keep you from loving the sex you are having and dampening your desire and exactly what to do about it. This episode originally showed up on The Black Sheep Playground podcast with Meg Kierstead and I loved the interview so much I wanted to share it here as well. Because...

Have you ever asked yourself the question what the difference between caring or caretaking is? And why am I even asking this question? Because if you are anything like me, or my clients, playing mother to your lover is for sure NOT a turn on. So when does genuine caring and doing something from love for another cross into the realm of being their caretaker? That is exactly what we will be discussi...

There is a lot of talk about the mental load and physical load of running a house that a woman in a heterosexual relationship typically experiences. And thank goodness - we NEED to be talking about this. However, I do see some of this narrative getting turned into a laundry list of “dos” for our partner and often in the vein of “Maybe I would be more in the mood if I had more help”. And I want to...

Understanding sexual pleasure and desire can feel complex - there can be so many factors that impact your mood, your openness to receive and your experience of pleasure. That being said, in order to increase your sexual satisfaction it really comes down to three essential things. You can keep your mind focus on these THREE things over and over again because you’ll always find little nuances to wor...

“Babe. Listening to this woman was like I was listening to myself. I want to sign up for this program. I want what she has!” That’s the exact thing one of my clients said to her husband after listening to an interview about a year ago on “It’s My Pleasure”. Now she is coming on to share with all of you how this work, in her words, “has completely changed my LIFE.” It is easy to think that truly LO...