It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict People

You’ve got questions. We’ve got answers. In this episode we host our very first Q & A Lab where we answer your questions about high conflict people. We focus on three questions: Narcissists who get it backwards What do you do when they turn it around and accuse you of being the narcissistic HCP? Bosses who complain and blame e-v-e-r-y-d-a-y) What do you do to get your HCP boss to stop? Parents...

Domestic Violence Megan and Bill are joined by the Honorable Karen Adam and Annette Burns to discuss domestic violence. This is part two of this conversation. Links & Other Notes THE VIDEO THAT WAS DISCUSSED IN THE EPISODE Conversations About Domestic Violence in Family Law with 16 Experts BIOS Bios for Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq., Honorable Karen Adam, and Annette Burns, J.D. DOMESTIC VIOLENCE EXPE...

Domestic Violence Megan and Bill are joined by the Honorable Karen Adam and Annette Burns to discuss domestic violence. This is part one of this conversation. Links & Other Notes THE VIDEO THAT WAS DISCUSSED IN THE EPISODE Conversations About Domestic Violence in Family Law with 16 Experts BIOS Bios for Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq., Honorable Karen Adam, and Annette Burns, J.D. DOMESTIC VIOLENCE EXPE...

Do you love reading thrillers and mysteries? Or binging shows like Dexter on Netflix? If you do, you’re going to love this episode! We’re interviewing our very first podcast guest, Dr. Todd Grande, who is the author of Harm Reduction , a thriller of extraordinary psychological depth that explores the interactions of a therapist, a narcissistic serial killer, and a detective. Their lives intertwine...

What causes conflict? Differing ideas and opinions do, but most people can manage it, although extraordinary circumstances, time pressures and stress can click the conflict dial to max for just about anyone. But when you’re dealing with someone with a high conflict personality, you can expect the any gathering, especially holidays gatherings, to have some dramatic or even explosive situations. In...

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is an often misunderstood and unfairly maligned mental health issue. Years of misinformation on the Internet, filled with scary details or an impossible life cast a dark shadow. Unfortunately, those who struggle with it would be helped if more people understood what it is and how to help. Many with BPD tend to isolate, but those who also blame may have a borde...

Ever been around someone who was ultra-suspicious? Not just the typical accusatory behaviors, but someone who suspects conspiracies against them or that someone doesn’t like them or feels a certain way about them ... all based on an assumption or jumping to conclusions from a facial expression? Well, you just may have been around someone with a paranoid high conflict personality. This type of pers...

Histrionic Personality Disorder. It’s all about the drama. Drama abounds online, on television, in movies, and in everyday life. But have you been around a person who is all drama all the time? With loads of storytelling and emotional persuasion? You may have been around someone with a histrionic high conflict personality. This type of personality is driven by an intense need to be the center of a...

The Antisocial Personality Disorder Have you met this person? Someone who: tries to dominate you disruptive/volatile disregard for laws/social rules frequently lie and mislead you manipulates confuses you lacks remorse/empathy/respect for your rights If so, you might have been around someone with an Antisocial personality. This isn’t the person who stands in the corner during parties –which is oft...

When an HCP is a Narcissist... Do you know someone whose moods swing wildly? Do they act unreasonably suspicious or antagonistic? Do they blame others for their own problems? When a high conflict person (HCP) has one of five common personality disorders – borderline, narcissistic, paranoid, antisocial, or histrionic – they can lash out in risky extremes of emotion and aggression. And once an HCP d...

When an HCP also has a personality disorder... Personality disorder or not, people with a high conflict personality (HCPs) have a pattern of high-conflict behavior that increases conflict rather than reducing or resolving it. This pattern usually happens over and over again in many different situations with many different people. The issue that seems in conflict at the time is not what is increasi...

We’re looking at HCPs in the workplace and how to use BIFF at work. A narcissistic boss. Have you had one? It’s pretty common, so you’re lucky if you haven’t experienced the dread of waking every morning knowing you must face your boss for the next eight hours. Condescending comments and zingers. Out-of-control narcissistic rage from a narcissistic injury. Storming off to HR, their manager, the CE...

In today’s episode, we talk about how to tackle hostile communications with BIFF Responses. What is a hostile communication? It usually contains blame and personal attacks. You read it. Your heart rate doubles. You either want to blast back or instantly delete. Mostly, you never want to hear from that person again. It was far less common pre-electronic communication. Now it’s a matter of daily lif...

In today’s episode, we look at what makes up a high conflict person and talk about EAR Statements. Blamers. Narcissists. Accusers. Ragers. These are all people who may fall into the category of High Conflict Personality. Most of us don’t act this way, but these people don’t often realize they’re acting this way and can’t control themselves. So should you engage? Or should you learn how to deal wit...

Welcome to It’s All Your Fault, the show about dealing with the High Conflict People in your life. The first episode drops in two weeks so subscribe now so you don’t miss any episode when they release! Episodes drop every Thursday during the season. We’ll be talking about all aspects of dealing with HCPs in your life, and we welcome questions! Please submit questions at our site using the link bel...