It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict People

Welcome to another insightful discussion with Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter as they welcome mediator Sonja Wood. Bill and Megan chat with Sonja about her fascinating journey from chemistry to mediation. Sonja discusses her experiences facing discrimination and a lack of conflict training in Europe that pushed her to study mediation. She shares navigating cultural differences working across countries...

Navigating High Conflict Personalities in the Workplace In this episode of "It's All Your Fault", Megan Hunter and Bill Eddy are joined by special guest Cherolyn Knapp to answer listener questions about dealing with high conflict personalities at work. As experts in the field of high conflict resolution, Bill and Megan provide valuable insights and strategies for managing challenging workplace int...

Is Sole Custody Ever Warranted Over Joint Custody? In this episode, Bill and Megan dive into the controversial topic of sole custody versus joint custody in divorce and child custody matters. They aim to answer the question: Is sole custody ever warranted, or is the principle of equal time with both parents always the best policy? Presumptions for Joint Custody vs. Sole Custody Bill explains that...

Are Women Happier Married or Divorced? In this thought-provoking episode of It's All Your Fault, Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter dive into the complex topic of women's happiness in marriage. They explore recent research and articles that suggest women should get divorced to find happiness, and then offer their own insights and experiences to provide a balanced perspective. Examining the Claims Bill and...

Navigating Factitious Disorder and Child Custody Disputes In this informative episode, Bill and Megan explore the complicated intersection of factitious disorder, child custody disputes, and high conflict personalities. Bill and Megan start by explaining what factitious disorder is, how it manifests, and its implications in child custody cases. They share insights from their experience in family l...

Keeping the Peace: Managing High Conflict Issues at Work On this episode of It's All Your Fault, Bill and Megan tackle how employers and managers can set healthy boundaries around discussing divisive societal issues at work. They provide guidance on creating a respectful, productive environment when employees have strong, differing opinions. Bill and Megan explain that while online conversations m...

Navigating the Storm of Teen Relationships In this eye-opening episode of 'It's All Your Fault', hosts Megan Hunter and Bill Eddy from the High Conflict Institute dive into the turbulent world of teen dating and relationship violence. Aimed at understanding and influencing the complexities of young people's interactions, this installment sheds light on how personality disorders could affect adoles...

Bill and Megan explore the complex issue of relationship violence, focusing on factors that may predict aggressive behaviors and how to identify potentially abusive relationships. In this first part of a two-part discussion, they examine relationship violence through the lens of adult intimate partner relationships. The second part will focus specifically on teen dating violence. Bill and Megan pr...

Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter tackle an important but tricky topic in this episode - how to set healthy boundaries with others when tensions run high. Whether it's a contentious divorce, difficult coworker, or suspected lies, Bill and Megan provide realistic examples and actionable advice to constructively handle high-conflict situations. Tune in to learn techniques to establish boundaries while rema...

Keeping the Peace This Holiday Season Bill and Megan share tips for avoiding and defusing conflict at holiday gatherings. They offer insights from their work at the High Conflict Institute. In this timely episode, Bill and Megan explain how to prevent and de-escalate heated arguments that often arise when families reconnect after time apart. Listeners gain practical techniques to maintain a peacef...

Ending Hostile Conversations Bill and Megan share strategies for defusing tense conversations and exiting hostile interactions. They provide insights from the High Conflict Institute. Bill and Megan explain how to stop aggressive confrontations through limit-setting and agenda control. Listeners gain techniques to redirect heated exchanges into constructive dialogue. Defusing Tense Situations Bill...

Exploring Targets of Blame and How to Best Manage Them Bill and Megan tackle the challenging topic of being a target of blame from a high conflict individual. They provide insight into protecting yourself and managing difficult accusations. In this eye-opening episode, Bill and Megan define what it means to be a target of blame and how this manifests. They discuss tactics for minimizing your risk...

Effective Communication for Legal Professionals Bill, Megan, and their guest Rehana Jamal – and Bill’s co-author – dive into strategies for clear, civil communication in the legal field. They aim to provide practical tools that lawyers, court staff, and anyone interacting with the justice system can use right away. The episode focuses on BIFF, the High Conflict Institute's proven method for respon...

In this episode of It's All Your Fault, Bill and Megan provide guidance for coping with the complicated emotions that can arise when a high conflict person passes away. They cover the confusing mix of grief and relief family members often feel, how to handle being blamed after the loss, and the destabilization that can occur when a high conflict adult child loses a parent. Questions we answer in t...

De-escalating High Conflict People with EAR Statements: An insightful look at calming down difficult situations In this episode, Bill and Megan dive into how to use EAR statements (showing empathy, attention, and respect) to de-escalate high conflict people and situations. They discuss the different high conflict personality types and when EAR statements can be effective tools. Bill and Megan also...

Finding Your Way as a Young Adult with a High-Conflict Parent In this week's episode, Bill and Megan discuss the challenges many young adults face when launching into independent adulthood after growing up with a high-conflict parent. Bill and Megan have noticed an uptick in parents saying their young adult children are floundering after high school. While there are many contributing factors, a co...

In this episode of It's All Your Fault, Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter tackle questions from grandparents struggling to support grandchildren amidst high conflict co-parents. Protecting Kids from Raging Co-Parents First, they advise how grandparents can help shield kids from a raging, unstable parent. Recommendations include teaching emotional regulation, self-checking, and conflict management skills....

Podcast hosts Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter tackle listener questions about antisocial personality disorder. Bill clarifies common myths. Recognizing Antisocial Patterns in a Spouse The first section covers a listener asking how to respond to a psychiatrist claiming their spouse doesn't have antisocial traits. Bill explains professionals can get manipulated by antisocials' victim stories. Key antisoc...

Navigating High Conflict Divorce and Co-Parenting In this episode of It's All Your Fault, hosts Megan Hunter and Bill Eddy answer listener questions to provide guidance on high conflict divorce and co-parenting dilemmas. Ending a Divorce Dispute with a Self-Unaware Ex The first response is to a listener asking how to finalize a divorce when a spouse lacks self-awareness. Bill explains not to expec...

Keeping the Peace with High Conflict Neighbors In this episode of It's All Your Fault, hosts Megan Hunter and Bill Eddy tackle strategies for dealing with turbulent neighbor relationships driven by high conflict personalities. Responding to False Allegations Between Neighbors The episode opens with a listener question about two neighbors targeting each other – one with possible borderline/narcissi...

Navigating High-Conflict Family Dynamics In this episode of It's All Your Fault, hosts Megan Hunter and Bill Eddy from the High Conflict Institute tackle challenging questions about high-conflict family members. Helping a Child with Emotion Dysregulation The first section covers a listener question about a 6-year-old daughter exhibiting emotional dysregulation similar to the possible borderline pe...

Understanding High Conflict Contagion Through Projection and Emotional Spread In this episode of It's All Your Fault, hosts Megan Hunter and Bill Eddy from the High Conflict Institute discuss high conflict contagion through examining psychological projection and emotional spread. Bill and Megan explain projection, where someone unconsciously projects their own feelings or behaviors onto another pe...

Identifying High-Conflict People vs. Mutual Conflict at Work In this episode of It's All Your Fault, hosts Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter discuss how to identify when workplace conflict is driven by a high-conflict person rather than being a mutual disagreement. They share research-based strategies from the High Conflict Institute. Bill and Megan explain how to demonstrate to management that conflict...

High Conflict Dynamics in Groups: Navigating Drama and Setting Limits Welcome back to 'It's All Your Fault', the podcast from the High Conflict Institute . In this episode, Megan Hunter and Bill Eddy delve into the complex world of group dynamics when a high conflict personality is involved. They shed light on how to handle a high conflict person who is dominating a group and creating drama, drawi...

Kicking Off Season 3: Summer Reflections and High Conflict Insights Welcome back to Season 3 of 'It's All Your Fault', the insightful podcast from the High Conflict Institute . Co-hosts Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter start this season with a deep dive into their key learnings from their summer break. Unpacking Summer Lessons on High Conflict Behavior In this episode, Bill and Megan share their experie...