Intimate Interactions

Have you ever received an evacuation notice for a forest fire? This episode we talk about air tankers, helicopters, fire breaks, smoke, air quality, and anxiety. We also discuss what an anxiety attack looks like and what a panic attack looks like. Note that we talk about indigenous rights and climate change briefly. If you'd like to learn more about Indigenous peoples to the land we call Canada, t...

Lauren is back to talk to us about pandemic ennui and burnout. We chat about intrusive thoughts and content warning for descriptions of suicide and graphic suicidal ideation - we’ve both been suicidally depressed and want to make sure you’re safe and cared for while we take our space to have the conversations we feel we need to have about it. Please take care of yourself however that looks for you...

Cw: covid-19, transphobia, gender reassignment surgery My friend Sapphire and I chat about gender and accessibility during COVID-19. We touch on their gender advocacy at school, accessibility for immunocompromised people, and we briefly touch on the law in alabama that recently changed. The term transmasc is a shortening of transmasculine which usually refers to masculine appearing trans non-binar...

Lauren, a recovered alcoholic talks about her first year sober, hospital opiates, and a near miss she has with relapse very recently.

Sapphire and I have a conversation about poverty and universal basic income. We talk about BC housing, accessibility, minimum wage in Vancouver, and more. Ultimately the middle class and wealthy folks who can afford it might say: move out of the city, but until there’s a grant that pays for moving costs to get out of the city, some can’t afford the disruption to income of having to find a new job,...

Over the years Bronwyn and I have built a friendship, and I’ve come to trust and care about her. Today she exercises her vulnerability muscles, no not the physical ones, and we talk about racism at orgies and briefly touch on orgasms. She even models what accountability for racism can look like. I appreciate her so much. We talk about our origin story and attachment as well.

Ricardo Scipio talks about his personal journey and struggle as an artist. What made him decide to make sexual art? What has he learned about sex from photographing over 500 people having sex? How has seeing his work affected the people who have seen his work and how does that affect him? Trinidad-born Ricardo Scipio has thus far garnered the reputation for making unique, multi-layered, provocativ...

Sapphire is a friend of mine. They are also a transmasculine cancer patient and survivor. We talk a little bit about social welfare, taxes, and businesses but mostly we talk about Sapphire and cancer recovery.

I sat down with my friend Lauren recently. She’s a recovered alcoholic talking who has had a really interesting relationship with sex and relationships that has changed radically from when she was was an addict to now rediscovering who she is and what she wants sober. We touch on kink and daddy doms as well as Lauren’s experience of self-identified sex addiction. The focus here is on compulsion ra...

Who do you think usually attends an orgy? … What kind of person do you expect usually gets fucked at an orgy?... Well, in my experience, it’s anyone from all walks of life from lawyers to counsellors to carpenters and everything in between and all around. Bronwyn is just such a friend that I met at an orgy. I’m pretty sure I gave her a blowjob at the second party I saw her at. No regrets. Here’s a...

Representations of people of colour in the world of sex- why is it important that people of colour be in this space? What are some of the barriers to more people of colour being in this space?  What has been my experience as a poc being in this space? Trinidad-born Ricardo Scipio has thus far garnered the reputation for making unique, multi-layered, provocative work in film and photography. H...

What would your life look like if you never learned how to talk to people? How would going to a party and sitting on the outside feel? Now imagine you had the cure to that problem, an inexpensive way to make yourself immediately likable to most of the people there - your gateway to being interesting: relationships, sex, intimacy. One catch though, it might kill you. No, this isn’t the plot to a ne...

Ash and I talk about our coming from under-resourced families, our academic performance, our feeling disposable to our parents, and our fear of having children of our own. I don’t mean that we don’t like children. I like hanging out with my nieces. As a non parent, kids are amazing for the first few hours, and then you give them right back to their parents, right? Joking aside, I mean our fear of...

If you have a potentially fatal illness, treatment probably comes with risks and is probably anxiety inducing. Recovery is sort of like that except in order to be treated, you have to do intense, deep psychological work. If someone said you had to go to counselling and talk about the things that upset you the very most and that failure to do this just right would probably lead to your own death, h...

Do you feel a sense of comfort and security when you think of your heritage? Do you feel a sense of connection with a long line of ancestors? Are you sad about traumatized family members you never even got to know? Are you grateful to enormous and traumatic sacrifices your parents or ancestors made? Connection is one of those funny things: essential to humans, but some start out with traditions of...

Today we meet someone new. Lauren was referred to us by Yana, so I hadn’t actually met her before this session. We talk about motivations behind addiction and the reasons that lead you down that kind of path. Socialization, bullying, parental coping strategies, validation, acceptance, trauma, and more. Sometimes you have to see yourself dying and make a choice. Fortunately, Lauren made the choice...

Yana, my soon-to-be doctoral candidate for a doctorate in either Criminology or Theatre depending on how it all shakes out in the end, discusses her passion for True Crime. We talk about victim-centered approaches to True Crime that are respectful and informative while mentioning that fascination for the little mistakes in the system that when put together, can lead to horrific tragedies. Understa...

Today, my friend Ash is back to talk about trust and safety. First, we talk about trust in recovery, and then move on to trust in oneself. We then talk briefly about trust and safety in relationships. We hit on how previous experiences can lead us to feel unsafe in circumstances that most folks would consider safe. Content warning, we are two BIPOC folks and as such racism we’ve experienced comes...

Yana is currently locked down with a government curfew. I had originally thought mandating masks would be enough. Of course some people didn’t respond. They kept partying. Almost a quarter of the population were what are called cynical spreaders, having not taken any steps what so ever to try to reduce spread. And here we are. Fortunately we talk about more than just COVID-19 this episode although...

My friend Ash is an addict in recovery. He’s relapsed multiple times and gone into recovery multiple times plus one. Content warning, we talk about drug addiction and suicidality. Harm reduction is a central focus as we discuss how he’s stayed away from using.

Every time I say chronic pain, I’m starting to feel like that TV ad where they talk about the dreaded gingivitis. It’s hard not to be serious when talking about chronic pain and how much it sucks - unless of course, you’re Billie. Billie’s ability to hold onto dark and sarcastic humour is second to no one I know. We share some stories about pain and a pain management strategy. Billie briefly touch...

Decolonizing can mean many things. It rarely if ever gets used to mean making people move but instead about undoing the damage done by colonization also by the ideology of Colonialism. But what does that have to do with fucking? Well, it impacts the way I navigate sex positive spaces as a non white person, and most definitely impacts the way my guest today, Lex Wilson navigates sex positive spaces...

Kathy from the podcast Friends in Your Ears return to the show to talk about podcasting pros and cons. Why get into podcasting and what’s enjoyable about it?

Sex educator and Johns Hopkins harm reduction expert Lex Wilson is back! They talk about attending orgies, having group sex, experiencing intimacy, learning consent, and un-learning shame. We have some good conversations, and I share my story about double fisting a fellow sex educator.

Sex educator Lex Wilson is a non binary black human located in the capital of the United States where they do harm reduction work at Johns Hopkins. They also work as an anti-oppression educator focused on reducing shame and increasing education around sex, racism, ableism, misogyny, and many other forms of bigotry. Today we talk about working from home and working in person ad well as tech anxiety...